This is just adorable

I kid, I kid - very sweet and adorable.

My partner and I are like this. We've been together for 14 years and are legit best friends.

I have a feeling too many people paired off right away and decided their first serious relationship was the one, and never actually found an equal. Maybe they married more out of fear of being alone rather than actual desire, or they just can't tell the difference between sexual novelty and love.

Even a lot of my married friends start identifying more with boomer humor than romance after 2 or 3 years. Way too many communication issue, or ideas of traditional roles or how things 'should be' leading to resentment or exasperation.

Court long and marry late. And don't hide your real self when dating.

I'm sorry, but you suck...
hard...
at being...
a sad, sad satellite. 🛰️
I'm glad for you :)
I dunno. Dating long can bring its own gigantic bag of issues. You will have to build every relationship from the start. If you have a bag of expectations, fears, maybe even hard trauma that you project onto the relationship early on, it will make it more difficult to build the relationship.
"Oh my god he is not answering the phone. He is probably cheating on me right now how ex#3 did."
"She said she loves me after only week three of us having a thing. This is just like crazy ex#5."
"He didn't say he loves me after its been four weeks already. He is probably only affectionate now but will turn cold and distant like ex#4."
- But those are all personality traits you need to discover and address before you're married. If you're the one bringing those concerns, you need to get yourself in check before jumping into long term relationships.

Everyone happier than me should perish

After 24 years of marriage, my wife... seems to find me acceptable.

I call that a win
- I do too. Most people don't find me acceptable.
I constantly ask my wife... "Bruh are you sure?"
Goals.
Passable.
I find you very acceptable.
You're more than adequate !! just slightly more
- You flatterer, you.

He sounds pretty cool. Do you know if he's seeing anyone right now, like in a serious way?

Likely his answer: Nope, not seriously. What's your number?

That's limerence.

A more stable relationship is when feelings crystalize, but until then, there's limerence. Two-way limerent relationships are as unstable as a bottle of undiluted nitroglycerin. In any case, limerent relationships are quite common, and are the stuff of music, art, and poetry.

God lemmy is worse than reddit with people being negative about others happiness. If you are so unhappy you need to spoil other peoples happiness you need to get help.
- I agreed with you up to the point where it appeared as if you felt that logophiles are miserable and spread misery. That being said, I appreciate your perspective and I'm sorry sharing what brings me joy has the opposite effect on you.
- The guy's sharing information, it's all cool
This read just like the stuff that a girl with BPD would write about me haha.
How y’all think that went for me?
Oh and I’ve never heard that word. Thank you.
Edit: You’ve sent me down a rabbit hole.
- I'm guessing poorly. I have BPD myself. She loved you up until she hated you.
A central feature of limerence for Tennov was the fact that her participants really saw the object of their affection's personal flaws, but simply overlooked them or found them attractive.[32][28] Tennov calls this "crystallization", after a description by Stendhal in his 1821 treatise On Love. This "crystallized" version of a love object, with accentuated features, is what Tennov calls a "limerent object", or "LO".[33]
For Tennov, sexual desire is an essential aspect of limerence[34] but the desire for emotional commitment is greater.[35] The sexual desires of Tennov's interviewees were overshadowed by their desire for their beloved to contact them, invite them out and reciprocate their passion.[30]
Limerence can be difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it, and it is thus often derided and dismissed as undesirable, some kind of pathology, ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction.[36]
The wiki page you linked is saying kind of the opposite about crystalization then what you are saying.
Ty for teaching me such a beautiful word

If I can quote a thing: happiness isn't having what you want, it's wanting what you've got.

Points to anyone who can name the source without using Google.

Cute. I don't believe any part of this, but it's cute.

Like Abe Lincoln always said, take anything you see written online with a grain of salt and, until you see conclusive evidence otherwise, assume it’s a creative writing exercise.
- Isn't it just reworded "there are no girls on the internet" rule?
I am an irascible fool. I’ve spent the majority of the last decade in various stages of depression. I’m overweight, often disheveled, long winded, and ramble about deeply irrelevant technology topics, or unsolvable and depressing political issues. I’m kind of a miser, I never think about fun, and I don’t generally like people. I’m opinionated, judgmental, and quick to speak my mind.
My wife is so beautiful that last week while walking the dogs, some guy circled the block to rev up his engine and take off in front of her while him and his passenger stared at her, engine roaring, running a stop sign in the process and coming within a foot or two of clipping another vehicle that did not have a stop sign. Yesterday, some teenager on a moped nearly fell off trying to awkwardly spin around a roundabout so he could “sneak” another glance at her. Early on in our relationship, we went to a professional networking event, and a man who was supposed to be an HR rep waited for her to go to the restroom so he could tell me how beautiful she was. Three years ago, a friend of a friend asked us for a threesome at a party, and her words to my wife were “I just want to please you and serve you.” She didn’t even look at me. (We didn’t go for it. She smokes.)
My wife is so annoying.
Last week I was trying to get dressed for work and she bum-rushed me for a hug while I was trying to button my pants. And my dumb ass got annoyed about it. She routinely tells me she thinks I’m beautiful, and very charming. She will sometimes just lean around a corner to look at me and squeal. She literally just walked into my office to rub my chest and tell me I’m a babe (like 30 seconds ago). She tells me at least once a week that she gets butterflies around me. She’s giddy and giggly to see me. She’ll text me to tell me she misses me when I’m out of the house for more than 30 minutes. She writes me love letters. (I write her love letters too, I’m not that awful.) She takes pictures of me all the time. There’s a whole album of photos of me that I sometimes just catch her looking at. If I send her a voice memo, she saves it so she can listen to my voice later.
My wife is the best.
Some people just love their partners in expressive and visceral ways, even if their partners are just Monument, a weird and flawed human. But I do my best, and I won’t ever quit.
- Cute. I don’t believe any part of this, but it’s cute.
- Aww this is so cute, in a sort of weird way lol
Yeah, it gives big "Where are the females like this?" energy, I can definitely see it being written by a lonely chauvinist dirtball. I hope not because it is cute, but the Internet is the Internet, so...
- It's...weird to me that not only is this not true for you guys or anyone you know, but you have a hard time imagining it could be true.

And here I am, divorced and never marrying again, lucky to be dating the same girl for eight years. And then there's that one day every few years where she runs out of her meds and begins believing I'm plotting against her when I ask how her mom is doing that I think, "I'm super glad I didn't get married again so I can just walk away if this shit lasts more than a few days."

That's love. Staying with someone, not because you're married and a divorce is a huge legal hassle, but because they haven't freaked all the way the fuck out yet.

PS, make friends with your pharmacist, fellow BPSOs. Make sure they keep those mood stabilizers and antipsychotic in stock.

“I’m super glad I didn’t get married again so I can just walk away if this shit lasts more than a few days.”
I'm glad you didn't get remarried too.
- Yep. They were probably joking, or at the least exaggerating, but it reminds me of how a large percentage of men would leave their partner going through a medical crisis. Not all medical crisises are physical, yo.
- Thx for the reply. 🩵
I'm not judging you, but don't leave her for her medical issues.

I could not agree more about my wife! She is totally awesome and I really love spending time with her. We are constantly goofing arround. I had a crush on her since we have been 14 and started dating. Now 10 years together we are married and got our first kid. I could not be happier.

She is just changing diapers right now and I am thinking how lucky I am to have her.

I also believe actively trying to have positive/wholesome view on a world helps a lot.

This is why I really like this community.

Awwww thank you so much for sharing this! Just made my day (well, technically night) a lot better!
I can't even begin to imagine being able to marry someone u crushed on SINCE U WERE 14, while them being so nice! So happy for ya!
She is just changing diapers right now
Oof, that's one thing I'm a little scared of dealing with when I become a dad lol
- Thank you!
  Also changing diapers is not hard at all. You get used to it after second change. It becomes boring task you do not think about - like going to the toilet yourself.

This warms the cockles of my cold, dead heart.

I go through phases of this with my husband. We've been married for 13 years, and he is legit my best friend, and I find him to be just unbelievably hot af. I'll go weeks where I'm just like "goddamn, this is mine?"

And then I also go through less intense periods. He's still my partner through life and I'd get his back through anything and everything, but it's less "omg you're so hot" googly eyes and more like "this is the life we've built together and I'm so glad I did it with you".

But then a few weeks later I'm in crush mode.

Obligatory of course we have our periods where we annoy the fuck out of each other, but it's usually short-lived and we communicate and work through it. I think that's just a realistic fact of marriage.

He has made me such a better person than I was when I met him though. I think about that constantly.

I'm 16 years in and this describes me and my wife. I really struggle being around people who complain about their spouse. I just don't relate, lol. Yeah she annoy me some times but I would take being a little annoyed than being alone. I also love to hear about people who love their spouses. My best friend only ever says positive things about his wife and it makes it enjoyable comparing spouses.
I've been married 9 years, together for 16, and this really sums it up for me. Just this morning the way they looked at me in bed when we woke up and I was smitten.
- Aren't those moments the fucking best? When it's such a "simple thing" to wake up next to someone and just feel that calm security or even the "fuck yeah you're so goddamned attractive and you chose me too!"

I have this with a woman I'm not married to that I have known since highschool. She lives with her parents and had a kid from a previous marriage. I'm polyamorous and married but our relationship has since drifted into sexual friendship our other partner lives with us and we all cuddle and love eachother very much, but everytime my phone buzzes I screatly hope is another one of her art pieces as my heart flutters. When I visit her I can't take my eyes off her. She's so beautiful she's almost alien. Anyways this is very well rooted emotionally and very reliable.

Lol idk that seems beautiful and whatnot but not very realistic.

I love being near my husband. He's warm and soft and smart and likes talking to me about random fun things we both enjoy (video games, movies, YouTube videos)

Awh... So happy for u guys 🥲

I wish I will one day have a partner that makes me feel this.

That’s why I can’t imagine not* being friends with someone before entering a relationship with them. People who look for romance right off the bat are setting themselves up for failure.

I think you a whole word there.
Though I think you can have romance at the start and friendship together personally.
For me at least, I've never started being attracted to a person more than a minute after I've first met them.
- I’m weird because I’ve crushed on people days or weeks after first seeing them

One of my 3 wishes from the lamp.

This reminds me of that twilight zone episode where the guys buys the love potion for $1 and then the girl he likes becomes his wife and then she is so obsessed with him the he can’t take it so he buys the other potion that makes the effects of the love potion go away, but the guys charges him $1,000 for the anti-love potion.

It's so easy to fix that situation, you just need to drink the $1 potion too
- Five-head move

Wish my wife had felt this way.

:(
Well I think it's pretty rare anyway, which is why this is so noteworthy.

That woman speaks as if she was in a harem with the least chance of being the only one to marry with the protagonist. But yes, I can imagine how that probably is adorable. I'd like a wife like that myself.

You want a "hoe" for a wife lmao listen to yourself before you talk mate
- I meant to say "how", not "hoe". I think you should've been able to figure that out by context.

This post and thread gives me (back) so much hope. I always hoped for something like described here. But I never came anywhere close and so I have lost the hope over time. I was thinking in the direction of "I just want someone to share my life with. It will work out to be ok somehow." But some recent events and post like this give me back the hope to find a the person I really want to share time with. It also brings me the motivation to work on myself, so to be more like I would like to be. Thanks you all.

I hope you find your person.

I want to feel this way...

oh the dread of something evolving into something else