Every Trad Wife Influencer is Completely Insane
Every Trad Wife Influencer is Completely Insane
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If tradlife were so awesome there wouldn’t be so many painfully aggressive instasmiles in the pics.
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Every time I read about these people I can't help but think 'this sounds like a fetish.'
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Idk if it were a fetish, I'd be seriously into it... Sort of. Denying your wife an epidural? You are no longer in a dom/sub relationship because you just broke consent. You force your wife to become pregnant before she's ready? That's rape. Dictating that she does all the chores, child rearing, dinner, family shit while you just make money? That's lazy and greedy.
Like all these types are living in the country, super model attractive, clearly pandering to conservatives. Like shit, the idea of having 6 kids? I think that's fun, especially if they are spaced just a bit apart, and plenty of living space. Sure, you get to spend less time with each kid individually, but then you get to watch each one turn into their own person, and hopefully you've given them enough energy that they will live a good life later.
It's a fantasy pandering to conservatives that it can be "real." Since they are influencers? It's automatically not real.
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Unfortunately not every relationship is safe, sane, and consensual. 😞
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Well, numbers are power, and if you are not a fan of power, then kids are treasure and happiness and joy.
But! People working their ass out to grow 6 kids (I'm not even talking about money, just about watching them not to kill themselves) won't look like this. It won't be easy. It won't be glossy.
And, of course, in a normal traditional family the husband would be just as overloaded. Weekends, bitch? Nah, go fix every shit that broke, especially things that your wife needs to do her part.
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What's wrong with that? They do the same thing with their cows to get their raw milk going. She's just another cow to him.
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It is, free use is a thing this is just free use with bullshit rules made a couple thousand years ago by a cult of incel dudes.
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Of course it's a fetish. I too have a fetish of living somewhere wet, green, with trees and stones around and stone+wood construction, with a bit of the traditional lifestyle in that general area. I mean, without the bad parts (sign language there is called "bride's language" cause a bride wasn't supposed to utter a word 3 months after marriage in olden days).
The fetish is about woods, mountains, silence and freedom.
The problem with these people is that they are trying to show some "perfect" life, the way everybody expects "perfect" (in their own opinion) workflow in computer stuff, "perfect" bodies in porn, "perfect" politicians (cancel culture is bad not cause rape\racism\theft is good, it's bad because figures carefully prepared to not even raise suspicions come on top, and these are usually not the most moral ones, just those with better advisors), "perfect" partners (you know these people who do lots of clubbing and dating and all even speak in the same voices in similar situations ; you divert from their ritual, they go anxious ; you say "ADHD", they say other people don't need to know that ; you have a hiding-from-society day when they want to go out, they feel badly hurt), "perfect" communication (one my friend has read somewhere that he has personal borders, but somehow missed that others have them too and saying "fuck off" to him is not violating his, while threatening to punch that other person is a violation), and so on.
OK, wrote too much. I just hate that glossy shit around us.
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Which of the kids is the wife?
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Yes
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What was the thing that was shared a couple days ago?
Nature wants 5/7 of your kids to make it and for you to die at 50 or something...
So people who want to live a traditional life are ok with that or they still want the benefits of society while not participating in it?
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Nature doesn’t want anything. It’s not a person. It’s not even a thing. It’s just an idea.
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You dropped that
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In typical USA society, precarious access to healthcare due to exorbitant prices certainly helps keep the average population age down.
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Only for the poors. While the rich grow ever older and more dirty.
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Being forced to drink raw milk all day is part of an ancient execution method designed to kill you with your own diarrhea soaking you until you rot alive.
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Unfortunately, this is true but they'll also mix it with honey and pour it on you as well. Bugs and rats will then start to eat you alive along with the bacteria. It's called Scaphism.
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Having kids and drinking milk all day sounds like my idea of hell, actually. I'm terrible with kids and my lactose intolerant bowels are protesting in advance..
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I count seven children. Has she lost track?
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the seventh one is from her husbands girlfriend probably.
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*other wife.
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No, she just didn't want the last one
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All I can see is that table outside covered with food and think about the HOURS of work that went into that. No thanks!
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kitchen table chairs outdoors in the grass is a recipe for a broken chair and a crying kid.
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Maybe don't buy cheap chairs? Humans have had tables and chairs outside for as long as tables and chairs have existed.
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I would be more worried about ants tbh
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the nuclear family and cisheteronormativity have been an absolute disaster for the human race
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It's amazing how many of these "trad" people are completely clueless that an isolated nuclear farming family isn't traditional in the slightest.
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more like insanely funny but in a cynical way
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Funny if true, but if true possibly also a HIPAA violation. Wouldnt want the doctor to get in trouble, should probably skip any o' them city folk inventions for the next 8 kids just to be safe.
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Oof. Please don't make jokes that villainize HIPAA. We have few enough privacy laws, as it is.HIPAA, applied properly, means her husband shouldn't have learned the details of her selected care, without her consent.
Edit: You were saying the same thing. I misunderstood.
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What part of what i said villainized HIPAA?
Even if what you said is true, he just has to see the tweet for it to be a violation.
Data disclosure without authorization of the patient is a violation, and that doesn't matter who its disclosed to.
Source I work in medtech, i do yearly trainings on handling patient data, and its unlikely im related to any of them 😅
Edit: to clarify.. we are arguing about the doctor disclosing to the internet that this woman got an epidural, and whether or not that is a potential HIPAA violation right?
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There’s not a thing wrong with wanting a traditional family and traditional gender role life. A lot of people want that and life doesn’t have to be super complicated to be rewarding.
When you start spending all your time on the internet making monetized content about it and deliberately choosing to engage with the absolute worst people on the internet is where it becomes a suspect thing where the behavior doesn’t match the stated goal
It really annoys me how creepy misogynist awful people think they get to represent the traditional family.
I have a super traditional looking family. Stay at home mom and everything. But it is sick and disgusting to act like having a setup you enjoy means it’s the only valid one. You see, we care more about raising a decent and happy person than indoctrinating them into some belief system that focuses on who our enemies are.
Rejecting loving families because they look different than traditional does not make you the representatives of traditional, fucknuts.
There is something wrong with a traditional gender role life. Traditional gender roles are misogynist. Now, sure, a grown woman can consent to a BSDM lifestyle with her husband, that's fine. But you do not involve your kids in that shit.
Traditional gender roles are bondage. They are. And if you have a relationship that practices BDSM as a lifestyle, you need to follow modern consent practices. Conservatives want to talk about kink at pride? Grooming children? That's what this is. This is grooming. This is exposing children to your fetish and telling them it's the lord's plan for them.
No there isn’t.
If a queer person is empowered to tell a conservative that “listen I’m gonna need you to STFU about my lifestyle choices, there’s not a thing wrong with them if that’s what I have decided to do” - which is 100% fair - then any person who feels that traditional gender roles suit them fine needs to be empowered to make the same STFU statement to anyone who’s somehow decided that they get to make the same determination on behalf of someone who just wants a family and kids and a farm somewhere, because they’ve decided that’s what will make them happy.
Misogyny is misogyny. “Normal” gender roles are different. Maybe the issue is a difference of definitions; there’s a certain amount of spousal abuse and authoritarianism that got written down as “traditional” by the ones that like to practice it. If that’s what you’re talking about or what you thought I meant by “traditional,” I will be fully in agreement with you that it’s fucked. What I am talking about is something different though.
You’re just as much an anti choice bigot as the conservatives pushing trad life on people. If a woman makes a choice to stay at home to raise children, that’s valid and not “bondage”.
I don't think traditional gender roles and BDSM should really be compared like that. But yes, patriarchal family life and domination are often the centerpieces.
I was a tiny bit on board with your point, except for the part where you argue against self-determination and self-actualization. Moreover, I followed this thread, and you're not only arguing in bad faith, you are moving the goalposts. Be better.
I mean I'm cishet, but I kind of see your point, especially when kids are involved. Some specialisation of parental roles is fine ofc, but then some parents fall into pretty toxic, patriarchal roles, just because that's how they were raised.
I'm talking like the woman taking on virtually all childcare and household labour and logistics (even when working), in such a way that they're contributing much more into the relationship than their partner.
Hey, are you accusing me of being a bad person because I run a Mormon parenting vlog while my kids are malnourished and escaping and running for help?!
I'm not Ruby Franke or Jodi Hildebrandt. I don't know why you'd think that. Stop asking.
This - while I'd argue that feeding raw milk to children, for instance, is probably in violation of local statutes in most of the US, the overall premise isn't necessarily invalid - the idea of forcing it on others and packaging/selling it as an influencer is what's flawed.
My wife and I have a carefully negotiated relationship that is nowhere near tradwife, but not necessarily contemporary traditional either. I ended up in the hospital recently, and all that went out the window - she spoke for me, signed various forms of consent on my behalf, and the like as/when necessary.
The "tradwife" package seems to ignore that such moments will be necessary in any life, especially one with kids involved, and certainly any life that involves the risks of e.g., farm work. People get hurt and need consent for treatment, folks get sick and need to handle business over the phone but are unable to speak on their own behalf because they're sick, etc.
From where I sit, anything resembling what the tradwife influencers are selling is completely invalid/impractical without an 'escape hatch' allowing the (generally) submissive spouse to take the reins as an when necessary and of their own volition... along with ensuring that said spouse has a functional understanding of how and when to do so, per the laws of their particular state.
Without that, you're just playing a damned risky game that has a realistic chance of causing serious injury to one or more involved parties in the medium term.