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Girls have a super power they can use to live rent free in any guy's head pretty much eternally. All they need to do is catch them off guard with a compliment.

A guy will keep a shirt until it literally disintegrates if one time a girl said "that color looks good on you." Pretty much every guy that wears a particular cologne, wears that cologne because at some point a girl said he smelled nice. It's not even a horny brain thing I don't think. It's just that guys get so few compliments on their appearance that every single one is massively precious to them.

girls would do this more often but there's always the (justified tbh) fear that the guy will take it the wrong way and get weird about it :(
- It's absolutely justified fear. For every one guy who will just take it as a sweet compliment, there are ten guys who will think "she wants the D!"
- It goes both ways I think too. Guys wouldn’t obsess over the idea that a single compliment might be flirting if they were more used to compliments in general from both sexes. On the other hand some guys are so afraid of misreading a compliment or normal friendliness that they can’t tell when someone actually is flirting. I sort of think there need to be more voices out there meant to speak directly to men and masc people about social literacy that aren’t trying to turn them into hateful, violent, incel republicans.
I've always bought my husband red shirts because I think he looks good in a bold red color. About 17 years of marriage before he finally told me he doesn't really care for the color, that he just wants to look good for me.
- awee 🙄 (I can't find the sweet teary eyed emoji, pretend this is that one)

I (afab) intentionally give my male friends and coworkers lots of non sexual compliments, and it’s been a mixed bag for people I don’t know well. I genuinely love men’s business wear, so I frequently go for a comment about what they’re wearing (think “I like your shirt” or “that’s a cool pattern,” not “that shirt makes your eyes pop” or “you look sexy in that shirt”), and about a third of the time, they still seem to think I’m coming on to them. Since I got married and wear my wedding ring, that’s down to about a quarter.

non-sexual
“You look sexy in that shirt”
I mean…
- You missed the word "not" there I guess?
- That’s an example of a compliment I don’t give. I’m not trying to start something I don’t want to finish and I don’t want to finish anything.

In 1998, the young lady working the cash register at the taco bell near where I worked told me I have really pretty eyes. So I have that going for me, which is nice.

The same thing happened to me, only it was at a Carl's Jr! Rejoice, for we have pretty eyes! (At least according to 2 random fast-food workers)

It's crazy how few times in an average man's life he gets real compliments on clothing or looks. It happens so rarely most of us can tell you about the times even when they're 20 years ago.

Speaking from first hand experience: try growing a handlebar mustache (if you can). If you groom it well you will get complimented all the time. I'm a fairly generic looking guy without the stache, and almost never got complimented on my looks before I grew it.
- Similarly if you grow a John brown beard but condition it that worked for me as a 18 year old but that was 12 years ago so ymmv. Also admittedly I was apparently hot
  Muttonstache also works
I try to be mindful of this (I compliment people fairly frequently when I'm out of the house), and I still find that I don't really 'notice' men as much as women (I am asexual, so it is not an attraction thing either.) I think it's because a lot of women's clothing is varied, lots of different and interesting patterns and color combinations and cuts and styles. Men's fashion tends to be pretty... similar? The times I remember noticing and complimenting men has usually been when they've worn a t-shirt with an anime or something I like on it. One time I saw a guy with these really cool, vibrant sleeve tattoos too and I mentioned how much I like those.
Not that I'm saying it's men's faults--men's casual fashion seems to really stake itself on being 'plain' and 'simple'. All the t-shirts look the same, just in different solid colors. Plain jeans are plain jeans. Cargo shorts are cargo shorts. It's easy to let your eyes sort of slide past it without registering much. Almost like social camouflage!
My husband wears a lot of 90s nostalgia t-shirts and he gets compliments on them!
I'm pretty average looking but I have a cool looking cloak and I get a compliment literally every time I wear it because it pops. It's different.
- As a wearer of nerdy t-shirts, i appreciate you! 😁
And honestly, I'm happier that way. The less I'm noticed, the happier I am, generally speaking. I'm an introvert and feel obligated to spend some "social energy" whenever a random stranger says something to me. They might compliment my kid or ask about something I'm wearing or whatever, and I need to respond to that in some socially appropriate form.
I'm not socially anxious or awkward or anything, I just don't like putting in the effort. So I generally avoid the things that would lead to random social interaction.
2 I have had 2 on the exact same shirt. I have no idea where that shirt is and it is my favourite shirt because of those compliments.

Damn people are lonelier than me?

There's always someone happier than you in the same way there's always someone more miserable than you.
- But there will never be anyone more you than you.
Me, probably

I've received two compliments from women out of the blue in my life. The first time was when a coworker told me i had a nice voice and should do voice acting for anime. That was 2006.

The second was another coworker said "at least you're cute" to some offhand joke i made. That was 2018.

At that rate, I expect another nice comment around 2032 or so.

The data indicates 12 years which would be 2030.
That's a lot more optimistic!
- I'm assuming that there'll be an additional wait period. They are experiencing heavy call volume at this time.
- It's austerity now, so we can probably expect a bit of deflation on the compliment market, pushing back projected compliment growth rates.
omg my last one was in 2018 as well. we can be besties
I'm not a woman, but I think you type nicely.
- Thanks, sugar!
I had a girl compliment my voice too ! I was maybe 17, had her on the phone, she was a friend's friend. Then we met and she ostensibly lost all her excitement
- Oof, that hurts.
- Many years ago, my girlfriend's grandma said I had a good voice for radio. I misheard her, thought she said a good face for radio. I didn't react badly at the time, because being polite and all, but I didn't like her grandma for a while. Then it came out what she had really said, girlfriend had a big laugh. I don't remember what grandma thought of it, I was a little too embarrassed to have any attention to spare...

I don't remember basically anyone from my secondary schoold other than my 4 close freinds and this one girl that randomly asked me for a hug one day, said I give really good hugs, then basically never spoke to me again.

I get compliments on my hugs on the reg. Well, less regularly as I get older and meet new people less often, but still. Being a good hugger is somehow a weirdly rare skill?
🤗 hugs!

I was told blue looks good on me by a girl.

10 years later, most of my shirts are blue.

Turns out she was making a BJ joke and occasionally lies awake cringing at the joke that everyone missed.
Purple for me. Fortunately I like it too.
I hope she wasn't colour blind 😬

A girl once told me I am not horrific to look at. God that fucked me up lol.

I feel that pain. It's like that "worst she can do is say no" thing. When I was 12 my friends were joking about who another friend should "date" (ofc in the capacity that 12yos manage that) and someone JOKINGLY suggested me, I even laughed along for a second. Her answer, rather than laughing along or something, was a deadpan "eww". That fucked my confidence for years
- Shit, I'm sorry. I have had a similar experience at around 7yo that imbalanced my relationships to others for the next 25 years. I'm pulling out of it now by sheer force of will and analysis. Wish you the best,
- Once a group of us were playing spin the bottle and it landed on me and the girl said eww, he's like my brother or whatever and then spun again and the guy it landed on got a double bj from her and her friend. I felt sad at the time, especially since we were all camping so we could hear them in the tents. I'm still friends with those girls (now grown women.) Your story reminded me of that and I haven't thought of it in 20 years.

I've received a lot of compliments on my voice in life, Nicknames for it throughout school; i didn't have a period of voice cracking, literally woke up one day and my voice was different (scared the shit out of my parents that morning).

I hate my voice 🙃

Everyone hates their voice haha just know it sounds different to other people than it does to you.
- I feel like I prefer the voice I hear in my head than the voice I hear when I record myself :(
  {|The voices in my head 👀}

One time a buddy and I were out drinking and on our way out he ran into a childhood friend. So while they were catching up I was just leaning against a table and listening to their conversation and people watching.

A pretty attractive woman came up to me, looked me dead in the eyes, and said "you'd be more attractive if you had some self-confidence", and then walked out of the bar.

I think about that every day. Because I have never in my life been told I need "more confidence" (actually, it's usually the opposite haha).

Maybe she wanted you to approach her, you ignored her "signals" and the only reason that could be, at least from her point of view, was that you lacked confidence.
- Yeah I assumed so. It was a few years ago so we probably talked for a bit at the bar (I am not allowed to go get drinks by myself cause I'll end up talking to strangers for 45 mins haha) but I don't remember her from any other point in the night.
  Idk it was just really strange haha
- Aahhh... so, that morse code...??
Shit like that, I'd probably not read too much into it. Some girls just like to fuck with people (people have been trolling before trolling was an internet term). She probably left laughing how she fucked with your head (yeah, some beautiful girls are fucking deeply ugly on the inside, and vice versa)
- They're rare, but they do exist.

I must be a heck of a lot more "attractive," than I think I am. I'm male, and 44 y/o. I get a random compliment from strangers about once every month or two.

When's your next movie coming out
- Lol, I would never make it as a public figure.
You're practically Pierce Brosnan!
Or it's the opposite and you're getting pity compliments. You're probably a pretty nice guy though, otherwise you wouldn't get any compliments.
- I have had a few people that I don't remember meeting describe me as "the friendliest guy in IB."

Where's the greentext?

Maybe the standard issue coloured 4chan post text is the greentext we made along the way.

"You smell so nice" - a gay female co-worker. I was wearing a new cologne that I purchased for myself. It was very expensive so I'm glad I chose well

Everytime the cashier flips the tablet over before a tip, they say a compliment. I always tip more than I usually do.

They got you good

My eyebrows got complimented back in high school. I ran out of the room red-faced mid class (it was during a science lab, and it's been 10 years).

I did a lot of clubbing in the '90s. Once, a beautiful girl came up to me and said: "You're gorgeous" and then ran off. Thing is, though, I was in my early 30s at the time and she looked about 16. So, obviously, I didn't pursue her. But that's stuck with me for over 20 years. I can still hear it in my head.

A woman at a house party saw my driver's license after she asked for proof that I have two middle names and two last names. She saw my photo and said: "your neck doesn't look anywhere near as long in real life" I knew it was a compliment, and I'll never forget it.

I give my man compliments all the time. He calls me silly and pretends he doesn't care, but I think it is working. Have been running a semi-non stop compliment campaign since Covid where I tell him how beautiful his hair is in the hopes he will cut it less. It's been a good while since he last came home looking like a sheep after shearing. Summer is approaching, though, so I'm bracing myself for him getting the idea to visit the barber and have him mutilate those beautiful locks of his. It should be crime, honestly.

It's such a cruel thing that compliments from partners don't feel the same as compliments from strangers. My wife has been telling me parts of my body are attractive for agres, but I didn't really internalize it until I heard it from others as well.
- It's the same phenomena as when your parents try to give you good advice but you will only listen to it if it comes from the mouths of "outsiders".
  Example: my boyfriend tried to get me into Tool for ages and I was very indifferent to it. Then my closest colleague starts playing Tool at work and I'm like "omg this music is awesome" and I go home and tell my bf about this amazing new band I have gotten into and he just gets so offended like "I literally tried to get you into it for years wtf". We laugh about it sometimes.

"If I wasn't a lesbian, I'd 100% date you"

Normally, I'd write this off as someone "letting me down easy", but this was my best friend in High school that I knew for years, so I know the sentiment was genuine.

I think back to a compliment I recieved once. Probably one of my more pleasant memories.

When I was in elementary school, a girl who was generally mean to me and everyone else told me I have nice teeth. That was over 10 years ago and I still vividly remember it.

I was working in a hotel kitchen and one of the waitresses told me I was more beautiful when I smiled. That was in like 2012 and I still remember it.

Tangentially related, I was ordering food at a Wendy's and the cashier out of the blue asked if I had ever been in a long distance relationship. I said no, but I knew people that had and if the relationship was strong enough, it would work out in the end. Hope things worked out for her.

"Long distance relationships work great for me because I'm more attractive the farther away I am."

Almost a decade ago a random gal walking down the street with her friends told me that she liked my boots.

Now I don't hold back compliments cuz as long as it's clear there's no creepy strings attached, it doesn't hurt and it can make someone's day :)

I could never count the number of times in my life I thought people were laughing with me. They weren't.

I'm an ugly woman and I remember getting a compliment from someone at dunkin. It was another woman, but she said I looked pretty. I think to this day she's the only person who has complimented me that wasn't a friend or something. 😅

I've had plenty of men yell out "huge bitch" and what have you though. 🤷🏿‍♀️

I don't imagine they were quoting Deuce Bigalow?
- Some of them definitely were. They said it with the inflection and everything. 😂

Only time I've ever been "hit on" was when a really old lady (over 65 at least) at a local Moose club called me a "cutie"... Back when I was maybe 14 or 15. Even my past partners didn't give me compliments.

in the psych ward because verbal abuse from my mom bc I'm trans (among other reasons),

"woah how that XXX left, there's only girls here!"

It's the sweetest thing anybody other than my sister has told me

I don't see any text

I work in hospitality. I get women multiple times a day asking if I sing, act or do radio work

A little kindness can go a long way. Remember to just compliment so. every once in a while, just for the sake of it. It could make their day.

One time a girl in a bar just walked up to me and asked if I wanted to make out. Of course, it happened after I was well into a relationship with the person who is now my wife, so I had to turn her down, but it felt amazing.