Ugh. yes. im in tech and people seem shocked if I say I don't know something. interviews to. Its like I don't know what that is but is it related to X or can you give ma an idea of what area that word is from.
Had this conversation with my wife early in our marriage. I got the, "fine, I'm wrong, you're right. You're always right." And I said, "I'm not always right. I'm often wrong. I just don't make a big deal out of it, apologize if I need to, and we all move on and you forget about it. You remember all the times you're wrong because it always turns into a conversation like this." Then she started noticing and started being more chill about being wrong (she grew up in a VERY shitty household with a narcissist mother where admission of wronghood was an opportunity to get absolutely shit on).
It's amazing how a simple, "oh, you're right, my bad" can improve your life and reputation.
Many years ago I worked for a medical company. A coworker (Boomer dude) and I were demonstrating a lift mechanism when I made the joke: last time I got in a harness, there was a safe word.
The joke killed, but my coworker was mad for weeks because in the joke, I implied we were going to have sex.
Recently there was a news article about a politician dissing Kamala Harris’ husband for grocery shopping with her. The fact that anyone would even stop to consider it not being “masculine” is corny as fuck.
I do this with my wife all the time—we both eat, and we have wildly different diets (I’m vegan)—why would I just pile all my shit on her plate and make it her responsibility? Because I might be seen as gay by someone in a MAGA hat?
It does suck when there’s a bunch of stuff you want to try on the menu and itd be way easier if there were other people so you can share. Or when it’s a type of food that’s better for a group like hot pot or Korean bbq
telling people how much money i make. i want everyone at my job to be aware of any inconsistent salary payments so they can use it to ask for adjustments.
Poo. Everyone needs to do it. Some people have bags instead of bumholes. I have a condition which means I need medication or I’ll shit myself into a serious illness or injury. How many people would be saved if they weren’t so hung up on talking about their poo?
I didn't know how old you are, but I'm at an age when I've realized that I likely won't outgrown laughing when I hear someone else in a public bathroom rip a fart while taking a dump.
I don't care if people - even strangers - see me naked. I don't walk around nude or anything, not because of shame or embarrassment, but because I don't wanna inflict such a visage on anyone against their will. But someone having seen my dick doesn't make me embarrassed at all. For example, if someone walks in on me changing, or if someone yanks my pants down as a prank out in public, none of that bothers me in the slightest. In fact, I sometimes feel like I have to pretend to be a little embarrassed just because I worry that people will think I'm into public exhibitionism or something. It's better for the other person if I pretend to be shocked/panicking. It's weirder for them if I just stand there with my shlong out and start talking to them like nothing is out of the ordinary. But I really don't give a shit.
Public speaking, I could wake up in my underwear in front of 10,000 people and comfortably talk about anything Im informed about. I dont get the fear at all.
I can understand not sharing the fear response, but do you really mean you don't get it? Like, having thousands of people waiting on your every word and silently judging you on every tiny mistake, or the nervous tics that you do and don't even know about?
I know it's an irrational fear, but it's still real to me 😂
Thinking about it, maybe by "get" the fear, I think you're saying it doesn't happen to you. I gotta say I envy you for that.
No nervousness at all. Anything that’s going to happen will happen and worrying will change nothing. The only thing I care about is not giving incorrect information. The larger the crowd the easier it is.