Anon dates a 19 y/o

Can't fathom calling a 28 year old a hag 💀

You haven't seen the 28 year olds Anon dates
- They're 48 in crackhead years.
Late-stage brainrot
My man just wants to fuck children.
It's a similar joke to calling 30-yos boomers

When did we as a society give up on the "½ X +7" minimum dating age formula?

Just FYI, this rule falls apart after a certain age (in the 60s or 70s).
- That's not the only thing that falls apart in your seventies, eyyyy
- I mean, once you're both above 30 who fucking cares
- Nah I think it holds up. Bill Belichick, 73, was in the news for dating a 24 year old and it's not only creepy and gross, but also like she's taking advantage of him by inserting herself into his interviews.
  If he were dating a 43 year old, I don't think anyone would be nearly as concerned.
- After that age, the older party is essentially a lottery ticket
- Duh. Who cares how much older one grampa is from another
Probably about the time that we decided that a certain age means you're an adult and can, in fact, make decisions for yourself

Exactly! Why the fuck would anyone want to date someone that much younger than them? I will never understand why so many men want to date girl so young.

A friend of friend I’ve met a couple times is into me. They’re 23 and I’m 30 and I still don’t have an interest. They’re perfectly nice, but…
I think after 28-30 it starts to really not matter that much but before that even smallish gaps can be pretty questionable. And any dude that would consider someone their age to be a “hag” probably largely dates younger because mature, experienced women can tell they’re really just garbage man-children.
- really just garbage man-children
  It's a green-text, we knew that from the get-go
- For real. When I was 24, I dated a 19 year old for like two weeks. They were really nice and interesting, but ultimately the age gap proved to make a relationship unviable. I can't even imagine a nine year gap at that age. Gross.
- I agree with this. For me, so so much integral growth happens between ages 20 and 26-28 or so, and I don't really think people in general know who they are or what they want in life until then. Not true for everyone of course. All the people I know who married young are either divorced or super unhappy though so it may skew my perception a bit.
- Oh 100%. I knew a guy that was my age, that was always trying to date younger, because no women our age would deal with his bullshit. So... I guess I do understand, huh.
younger partners are easier to control.
and less worldly experience means they won't notice their dull personality.
lack of maturity and life milestones to date similar age ranges.
over emphasis on bodily needs.
and i repeat, control.
People are feeling all kinds of pressure these days. If they want to have kids they need a lot of resources. But having a lot of resources is really difficult to do when you’re young. So that naturally suggests a compromise: one old with resources and one young with health.
- Wait, but I thought men hated "gold diggers"? And also, that's the result of our fucked up late stage capitalism economic system and not how things should work. A young couple should be able to afford to live comfortably and have children if they want.
- What I mean I've been alive a long time. I'm not sure how I was supposed to accrue resources through that though.
  Also who wants to date a 19 year old they'd be really annoying.
I mean, i'd like to date someone that much older than me.
- Why? (Genuine question if you feel like sharing) Like, I too prefer older partners, but not that much older.

And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.

They have nothing in common. There's no way. It's pure physical attraction above all else.

Edit: Seemingly a lot of older people down voting this are in denial about how much they have in common with some 18 year old girl/guy as a romantic partner. You understand you're not fooling anyone, right? Not even other people like you. Underneath, you all know what you're about.

A lot of people are downvoting this because a 19 year old is an adult who can make their own choices and you are insinuating that there's something so objectively wrong with dating an older person that it should be illegal.
- I am not in any way suggesting it should be illegal. I don't think I mentioned that once.
  What I am insinuating that if you're that young dating someone much older, there is almost always a massive power imbalance between the two in the relationship, romantically, and so it's a very difficult thing to overcome.
  If you're a 30/40/50+ year old person dating a 19 year old, there is usually something wrong with one party, the other, or both in that scenario. A 19 year old, romantically, is not mature enough or at the same place in their life as a 50 year old person. This will, at best, strain the relationship significantly as each partner will want something different out of life as the relationship progresses.
  If they don't, then one of them is likely a deeply broken individual. And that's usually going to be the much older person that's got some issues happening.
  The 19 year old truly doesn't know any better, or thinks they do, or is getting something in trade like security from the much older person and they're willing to give up other aspects of their life in trade for this.
you say this like they're trying to fool anyone...it's a transaction, they both know it, everyone else knows it

His date:

Source: Brainrot Girlfriend

Bonus:

Love that we're making imaginary [gen-z/gen alpha/gen whatever the hell arbitrary title] the same way our parents and grandparents made imaginary millennials to get mad at.
The Silent Generation called their kids "Generation Me"
- The Silent Generation was correct.
- It was "The 'Me' Generation" not "Generation Me". Generation ____ starts with Copeland's Generation X book.
It feels wrong to read manga-style art left to right.
- Took me like 5 mins to figure out what was wrong...
- The whole comic was brain rot talk that i didn't even notice it didn't narratively connect.

I'm 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the "Half your age plus 7" test

(34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though

@ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I'm a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I'm starting to get ~~Greg~~ grey hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.
I'm just a bit older, but been there.
I could never get past it though. I have a daughter too, and it really just takes one experience where they really remind you of your kid and... yeah, I don't think I can do this y'all.
"My girlfriend did this test and I think its broken? Her minimum age is higher than her starting age"
Half plus seven is just a rough rule of thumb, that tries to capture some different concepts at play.
Personally, I never liked dating across major life milestone ages like 22, college graduation. The mid 20's are just an important phase in developing one's personality and sense of self, and being outside of the school environment is an important transition to learn. So when I was 30 I had a hard cutoff at 25, as I didn't want to be with anyone who still identified with being a recent college student.
I felt like a very different person as between 18 and 22, and between 22 and 26. But 26 wasn't that different from 30, and 30 to 35 only saw some slight changes. It'd be hypothetical because I was already in a committed relationship after 32 or so, but when I was 35 my cutoff probably would've been late 20's, and when I was 40 my cutoff would've probably been around 30.

I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.

That's the mindset of plenty of people at 25 or 30 even. I think personal development/priorities are to blame more so than the age gap
- I consider 25 to be scrapping the bottom of the barrel for dating. I'm 29
- Ngl I'm 29 and definitely prefer getting high and watching stuff than actually doing real things.
I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)
I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn't interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.
This is the best relationship I've ever had but I won't deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it's like to have a boyfriend in the city.
Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.
I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30's, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.
- In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he'll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder
- I'm 41. The idea of dating anyone below 30 is a no-go let alone an 18 year old. I agree that anyone above 30 going for fresh high school grads is strictly in it for the unequal power dynamics and questionable sexual proclivities.
Maybe she was rich and could stay high and watch musicals for the rest of her life. What a lucky girl she was.
- Not in the slightest. She was already 12k in credit card debt when I met her.

people both younger and older than me talk like this and I just want to go anywhere else every time I hear it

OP doesn't understand what cultural progression is. Of course different people gonna do stuff differently as time progresses, the class she was when you where in high school is just irrelevant.

This is the case where op just has skill issue, and is stuck in the past like a boomer he is.

When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be "hip" or "trendy" to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations "Boomers" just makes you sound like you didn't pay attention in history class.
- Language transforms. Where before boomer would be a word for the generation born during the babyboom, nowadays it's used for old people who are unable to keep up with the times.
- Born in the 1900s? What'd you do before they invented fire? Ride dinos?
- Ironic...
Would you say that for someone underage? Age is age, gap is gap.

The brainrot is real, even with "old hags". My ex was 3 years younger than me, but she was an avid tiktok scroller. I was often being shown and taught about new "memes" that everyone promptly forgot about by the next week.

My partner's sister is 19, I'm in my early 30s now. But I met my partner when she was 19, I often ask myself did she come across as this annoying to people in their 30s back then?

Yes.

md

    
> be me 34
> decide to look for a hag around my age
> most of them have at least one kid, usually the annoying kind, and only see you as a babysitter
> same ones are also super focused on their kids, no hobbies, no interests, no life
> most of them seem to be super conservative
> some of them are so bigoted they can only talk about "those people"
> finally found someone who's bearable for more than 20 minutes
> never mind, she's alcoholic
> finally found someone not alcoholic and is bearable for even more time
> never mind, she's both 300+km away and also married
How do I find hot singles on the fediverse? I'm not reinstalling Tinder!

I tried that with Reddit. Parents cockblocked me. Had nothing but my missed life to think about in the meantime, so my mental health slips, and I ask who besides Serial killers and rapists deserves to die (looking for a description of myself in the answers).
Implying someone's life is worth more than others is a big no no on Reddit.
Get permabanned for inciting violence.
- Nothing but your missed life? You can live a lot of life without a romantic partner, as much I very much understand it can still feel lonely at times.

This is how I perceive the 28 year old to be.

OP is still on 4chan. Lingo aside I'd say he's in his maturity range.

Also 19 and 28 are both still Gen Z.
- Is 30 the oldest genz or the youngest millennial?
4channers should probably just stay out of the dating pool entirely.

I once made the mistake of dating someone 12 years younger than me (she was 25). Man, what a mistake, nevermind the cultural differences, her emotional maturity was....intolerable, and this from a person I'd considered a friend for a year already. It was the first and last time iv ever done that.

Anon isn't down skibidi style

Getting head while on the toilet?
- He doesn't know

Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?

Mate, who hurt you?
I never considered that the ages stack

I date/have sex with who I'm physically attracted to. Otherwise I'm OK if we just stay (non-sexual) friends. Us having stuff in common doesn't make me horny for them or want to romance them.

If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.

That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I've been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I'd like deeper relationships (I'm poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I'll just keep trying until I get one.

I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
Literally all you can ever do.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.
But it's so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.
- That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
  Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they're still friendly. However I'd not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I've not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don't live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
  I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I'll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.

Reading brainrot girlfriend has made me desire this.

What's brainrot girlfriend?

As an adult for most dating your peers is preferable to dating younger adults. I don't want to hear "So what was the gas crisis like?" on a date ever again (IDK what it was like I was 3).

I have not heard someone say "big mood" in years

Nothing ever changes.

Steely Dan - Hey Nineteen

Hi! Sorry to inconvenience you, but I have just one question. The fuck did I just read?
- Either the most unwholesome Dom and sub description iv ever seen in my life or a rape fetish relationship?
  Either way as sonic would say. THATS NO GOOD
Police? This one right here!

What does that mean ? mid fr fr ? doesn't fr mean for real ?

Mid must mean "underwhelming"

And big mood ? that's very obscure

I think big mood is a relatable mindset
I think it means something like "this is 'mid' (i.e. uninteresting), I mean it". "fr" seems pretty similar to how a lot of people use honestly/"to be honest"/TBH, just kind of random words for emphasis.
- thanks that is starting to make sense

Generally it’s hard to connect with such an age gap but it does work sometimes. On those occasions, the natural genuine, and mutual draw transcends the age gap.