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I'm using owncloud for that but (don't hate me) I'm having to use chatgpt a LOT for the initial configuration. There's a lot of stuff I'm having to learn to get back into it and it's really good at searching docs by fuzzy match, pointing out what part of a function block isn't working, and drafting individual function blocks to experiment with (I'll comment out the original, paste in the chatgpt one, test it, etc). It's a much better experience than a decade ago and I haven't gotten emotionally abused by a more experienced person on stack overflow or reddit once yet.

I've got owncloud running as a lan only service so it just auto syncs my calendar, contacts, and a few folders of documents / pictures I like to keep with me but only whenever I'm home. Right now I'm just also configuring the same old computer to do some basic media / retro gaming on the TV and the hard part right now is configuring magic mirror as it's idle display to keep hubs and I straight on our calendars and tasks (and show some family photos). Nothing major just as I get back onto Linux after ten years it's nice to not get called lazy and stupid while I'm learning.

no but the above is what I tell my coworkers when they ask why so many of our trans patients act cluster b AF. It's partly because our sample, being inpatient, is gonna have a higher incidence overall, but it's also because that constellation of behaviors is caused by a very specific type of relatively lowkey but super chronic trauma that's unfortunately common for that population to be exposed to.

a lot of people don't wanna have this discussion because at face value it reads too much like saying being trans is a mental illness but

the #1 predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder (such as borderline, which is famous for this kind of behavior) is a consistently inconsistent pattern of emotional invalidation throughout early and middle childhood. So there are times where mom / dad / primary caregiver said "oh no! that's terrible. Here's how I deal with being upset by that" but there were other times they were like "no that's dumb and weird nobody normal feels like that you should just stop feeling that way." and that pattern continues on-and-off some things being validated some things not being validated over that extended period.

...and that basically just describes the experience of being being raised in a social environment that's hostile to their lived experiences as a trans child. That plus all the community elders getting picked off by AIDS means there's limited healthy emotional adjustment within the lgbt subculture as well.

TLDR - no shit they all act fucking feral there's a massive shortage of healthy and supportive social structures.

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"...a Flemish geographer, cosmographer and cartographer. He is most renowned for creating the 1569 world map based on a new projection which represented sailing courses of constant bearing (rhumb lines) as straight lines—an innovation that is still employed in nautical charts." - Wikipedia

Basically it was really cool and advanced geometry in the 1500s. Other fun inventions of the time included bongs, rifles, and knitting machines.

I told my boss if she doesn't stress me out by making me be charge nurse she can take credit for my weird hyperfocus side projects.

It's working great so far, I just get left alone in my corner at night and every once in a while they send me a student or new grad to use as a lackey while I keep working on hyperfocused side projects. And when I'm not in hyperfocus I hole up in a suicide watch room with tea and a book.

And she doesn't even actually take credit for anything the boss above her keeps sending me little acknowledgement pings on the recognition system and I get my raise every year (it's not great but it's not any worse than anyone else's). And then the nurses fresh out of their new grad year that they manage to sucker into being charge nurse still come ask me for advice so I still have enough influence to get things done properly I just don't have to do any bullshit tasks or get in trouble for dumb shit other people do like if I was charge.

I was kinda worried about working for the city community hospital and everybody said the patients were so much worse but like. HA. The university hospital had to shut a whole wing down for one dude who was punching at least one person a day and all the residents were too scared to either just discharge him to jail or drug the shit out of him and we didn't even have the right kind of restraints for that level of violence. the worst it gets where I am now is somebody screaming in my face for an hour until their oral meds hit.

I miss the giant cafeteria and the employee only chapel and pharmacy and stuff and getting security to let me into the doctors lounge at 2am but everything else is way better.

I think there'll be one sinorussolatinglish trade language and 5k highly localized dialects of our current languages.

yeah my mastectomy is on the books as alleviating back pain. and like. it did do that!

I got like halfway through the first paragraph and was Lille "somebody tell this man about vascular dementia!" Glad to hear you did and it worked!

Refreshments and Narcotics

(an old joke about registered nurses)

oof you're right it sounds like a tough read but I'll definitely consider it

which is such a shame because there really should be more evidence for what is and isn't placebos

I will say they were less weirdly invasive than whatever it was EA had me running just to play sims 2 in 2017ish. Why tf do you really need to protect you IP that hard for a game that old with newer sequels for???

yeah I thought it was a fetish thing

you say you're worried about harassing her. we need more context on why you're worried about this to be able to give the best answer. If this is a professional context for either or both of you, the focus should be maximizing your professional rapport by reassuring her without mentioning romance. if it's a very laid back workplace where strict boundaries aren't 100% mission critical you miiight get away with something like "in a different life I'd like to know you a little better actually, but I think the most important thing for both of us right now is to keep this professional." vs if this is an entirely personal relationship you could try something more like,"I'd actually like to know you better if you're interested but I didn't want to overstep.“

Honestly I was more worried about you than the server.

another relevant comparison is why it's OK for you to get irradiated by the xray machine but the technician goes and hides behind the wall. you're getting it done once today, the technician is doing it 50 times a day 3-5 days a week (or more depending on cost of living in the area 😉). You'll notice a lot of those nail techs and dental professionals are also wearing respirators while applying product to their clients and patients. wear your ppe.

psych nurse here: somatic exercises are also for your mind. your mind is part of your body. the idea that they're separate things or that the brain is "in charge of" the body as opposed to a neat accessory that can do helpful things for it is silly. That concept in and of itself causes a lot of psychological dysfunction that somatic therapies exist to rectify by reunifying the two.

#goals

Posted for the field orders, raged for the "service fee."