What sounds like a double standard but isn't?

Yeah if the dentist makes you wait for 20 minutes, you definitely should have the right not to see him

The definition of a double standard is that it's unjust. At least, in common English.

it would be more of a double standard if the two groups were on equal footing, but they're not.

I scanned your comments and you're not totally off your rocker, so I'll not be as big of an ass as I usual am.

Your experience is an anecdote. The plural of anecdote is not "data".

The data shows that minorities are unfairly targeted by police. Arrested more, released more as innocent. Prosecuted more for the same rate of incidence.

The data shows that having an "ethnic" name gets fewer responses to an identical resume.

The data shows that for literal decades, some would say still, minorities couldn't get home loans in good areas with good schools.

What benefit do white people have? I have never, literally not once, thought or cared about my race. My privilege is getting to live without noticing my race in any meaningful context. That's why white people have to be "woken". We're comfortably asleep in our bubble, from birth.

If you don't see it, great! But that might say less about reality, and more about your ability to perceive it.

I can talk back to the police in a non-violent setting without getting shot.

As a white male, there is zero chance of deing discriminated against when applying for 95% of jobs.

I can walk into most buildings without being questioned. Nobody has ever told me that I don't belong somewhere because of who I am.

While whites that live in poverty can face some discrimination compared to middle class whites, $100 in clothing is enough to fit in most public spaces without drawing any attention. Minorities can't do that.

Those are the most obvious things, but they also mean that my economic and social standing basically went up my entire life by just being polite and working. That builds on itself, and while not all white men are successful. Being white isn't one of their hurdles.

All of those things are advantages compared to people who are not white males.

There are people out there that would not hire you based on the only thing I know about you. I've met enough of them that I have to assume there are more.

I don't know your situation, but I certainly can tell you that at least in the Western Hemisphere, in the aggregate descendants of indigenous people and slaves are overcoming systemic injustice that robbed their ancestors of economic advantages, dignity, and liberty, and often introduced intergenerational trauma as well. And I don't mean, like, in the past, redlining for example was legal within our parents lifetime and related forms of discrimination are still practiced today.

I can tell cops to fuck themselves with zero fear of reprisal because I look and sound wealthy enough to sue.

edit: Statistically speaking as a white guy im ~50% less likely to be shot by police.

We aren't talking about men's support groups for victims of violence, or things of that nature.

I agree. I'm talking more morally and less legally. I've seen countless videos where a woman is feebly tapping or shoving a man, the man is clearly physically unbothered and unhurt, but his ego is bruised, so he KOs her with one punch. Then the comments come flooding in about how she deserved it, "equal rights equal fights" etc.

It's not a fair fight. Of course there are exceptions, there are exceptions to everything. But for most people most of the time, a woman hitting a man is nowhere near as physically impactful as a man hitting a woman. The 'toolset' is undeniably different.

If a 5-foot man slaps a 6-foot man, and the 6-foot man laughs and then beats the shit out of the smaller guy and stomps on his head, most people would look down on the bigger man for taking it too far with someone he could easily beat and who presented no real physical threat to him. It's like that. I'm not denying the agency of the woman, or saying that her assaulting a man is fine, it's that the response to it from the man is usually an order of magnitude more severe with half the effort. And again, I know there are exceptions to this. Men can be abused and beaten by women, domestic violence against men should be taken more seriously.

In street/bar fights, where a woman is picking a fight with a man, the man is rightly restrained by societal pressure to not unload on her the way he would if it were a man picking a fight with him. This isn't sexism or baseless gender roles or any of that, it's because most of the time, untrained men are wielding a sledgehammer to an untrained woman's carpentry hammer (untrained in combat sports, I mean). So in that way, it's not a double-standard despite sounding like one, no more than it's a double standard to not beat the shit out of another man half your size when you would beat the shit out of him for the same offence if he were your size or bigger. Not that we should beat anyone up, of course! But it happens and will always happen, so it's nice to have at least one broad rule in an otherwise-ruleless endeavour: men shouldn't beat the shit out of women unless they really need to, to defend themselves from an actual threat, a threat to something more than their ego or temper.

P.S. Thanks for replying without calling me a misandrist or telling me to kill myself 💗 Genuinely appreciate it!

Hahaha you chose the only argument that could've sounded dumber than the OP comment🤣

When I lean into them all I get is boos.