How old were you when your dad gave you "the talk"?
How old were you when your dad gave you "the talk"?
I was in 5th grade when my dad told me about the Nuremberg trials and the subsequent Milgram experiments.
Edit Wtf you sick perverts, I was talking about when your parents talk to you about authority bias and how you need to be suspicious of power structures that tell you to do things that you would normally consider horrible acts.
Jesus you can't talk about Nazis without someone dragging out Sex Ed these days smh
I had to learn that stuff on the street
by which I mean the Grolier Multimedia Encyclopedia, 1994 edition.
For me it was the body book at the book fair. I learned what the outside and the inside of a boob looked like that day.
My dad taught me to be a freak in the sheets.
Excel sheets, to be precise.
I was 18 or 19 when my dad scared me straight into learning to drive manual transmission.
My father taught me how to drive on a stick shift car. Several years later when I was able to afford it I bought a used Pontiac GTO stick shift. Best car I ever had. I haven't driven a manual in decades, but I know if I had to today it would come right back to me
Don't remember the specific age, but it was something in the vein:
"We gotta talk. You know about the sex stuff?"
"Yeah, no problem. Got the internet. Already a master or better."
"Eyyyyy!"
"Eyyyyy!"
And that was it. But seriously, the internet taught me more than biology class, without all the hoops and whistles.
I was 12 when my dad gave me the talk (the talk about how police will kill you if you aren't exceptionally polite to them). How having skin our color is very dangerous because police are afraid of us. So no quick movements.
First girlfriend. Was 16 or so. Was coming home from seeing her, walking through the garage with a big dumb smile on my face.
My dad, without even turning to look at me just says;
"Don't be bringin' no babies home."
And that, as they say, was that.
Why is OP shaming sex education?
The lack of proper sex education and making kids feel embarrassed about themselves is one of the main reasons why we have so many issues about sexuality and awareness. Not to mention unwanted pregnancies and STI's.
Next he's going to say that Albert Speer deserved more leniency for testifying because his testimony made it easier to convict the others.
There is a 👏 time 👏 and 👏 place 👏
The current time is 1946 and the place is Nuremberg. I'm sorry that we didn't show Goebbels where the clit was back then, WE HAD PRIORITIES.
"If Simon Wiesenthal can hunt for Nazis, I can hunt for clits!"
-Joseph Goebbels, probably
Figured it out on my own somehow pretty early.. being a Jew in the 80s, people still remembered and it mattered. You knew people with numbers on their arms.
My son has understood since 1st grade. He watched X-Men 97 and jumped up saying the fascists attacking mutants were like Nazis and the Holocaust.
We talk about our family military history on both sides of the family, and their roles in WW2. I'm very proud to be an American taught to abhor injustice, and see it in my son's nature.
Dad? What's a dad? Jokes aside, I was educated by the internet ... I wouldn't really trust my parents with any of that information.
I was 14 when my dad sat me down and told me how to behave around cops.
Yeah, my parents never had any kind of talks with me.
I had an encyclopedia though.
Never did. I think we were still waiting for his dad to give him "the talk".
They've both passed now. :(
Damn, he never learned how to have sex :(
Everything I needed to know I learnt from Microsoft Encarta.
When is the remaster coming out? This is the right era to re-release Mindmaze.
Either rewritten for modern perspectives, or with asterix footnotes. There's bound to be something un-pc in there.
Still, that's the reason I win at trivia. It would make for great short form content clips.
reincarnating encarta?... reincarta?
We had schools, teaching both about nazis and sex ed, because it's too important to leave up to whatever parent someone happened to get
What is "the talk"? Next time, write the question more clearly...
Obviously it was about the Milgram experiments and until you read past the title you should keep taking your Adderall 😤
Incomprehensible, may God have mercy on you soul
My dad never gave me "the talk." It was my mother. According to her, when I was around 7-8 years old, she overheard one of my friends making crude remarks about having sex with women. And he didn't understand how a woman's biology worked, so he was extremely inaccurate in his description of the act.
My mother decided at that moment that I needed a lesson in how sex actually works, so she went out and bought an educational children's book about where babies come from. Then she sat me down and read through it with me.
Honestly, I kind of like the fact that I was taught so young. I was already mature for my age, and being taught before I was a ball of raging hormones meant that I could comprehend it from an educational standpoint and not a "what's wrong with my body/I need to get laid" mindset.
My school didn't teach sex education until 8th grade. By then, everyone was horny as hell and making poor decisions. Because I already understood how it all works (and no one wanted to ask our teacher all the embarrassing questions), I ended up being a bit of a relationship counselor for my friends.
How does this have anything to do with the Nuremberg trials?
It doesn't, but then again, no one else seemed to be talking about them either, so I decided to contribute to the main discussion in the comments.
Is 8 considered early? My kid is 6 and I am starting to feel like we have waited too long already.
I grew up in a conservative christian household. "The talk" basically amounted to "Keep it in your pants until you're married. You can figure things out then."
UK here. I don't remember ever getting "the talk" from either parent. There might have been a late attempt that was shut down with "ugh, we learned it all at school already."
Those classes, at some point between 9 and 13, might have cleared up a few school-yard rumours, but I'm really not sure what I knew, what I thought I knew, and what I learned (and unlearned) at that time. It might even have been a year-long, once a week class, but it was a very long time ago now. I don't even remember what the lessons were called, because it wasn't "sex ed". Might have been "Health Studies" or something similarly vague.
As for the subversion of expectation in the OP text, I'm pretty sure we had some lessons on WWII, but I don't think we got into that much detail before I chose to stop studying History. My parents and grandparents certainly talked about the wars, but that was more about them and people they knew during that time rather than the geopolitical and ethical aspects of things. Perhaps a mention of Nazi propaganda from Lord Haw-Haw being on the radio.
Same here, German, had the stuff in school in year 4 or so. Official subject was just "biology"
My mom was taking undergrad classes when I was in highschool. She thought it was interesting, and we discussed it.
Quantum mechanics and all variations of analytical calculus were banned in my house growing up. I had to discover these things on my own by questioning the reality I experience with the errors in classical calculations I had been taught to make.
My dad gave me a Hustler magazine at 13 and called it a day. Thank my state government for having sex ed in schools, that shit was wild (but also I had porn on the Internet since 10 so not that wild).
Edit: to be fair, Hustler magazine has plenty about obedience and authority.
At least your dad didn't sign you up to be a participant in a peer reviewed follow up to Milgram
Preface: answering the question as you'd expect. OP needs to learn to just say what they mean rather than talk around it and have people guess on the body.
My mom never did, but was open about it. Although visibly uncomfortable and lacked a lot of basic knowledge, she did her best to be neutral and open.
My dad got brain damage when I was young and sprouted bull#### on almost every subject.
At school we had decent sex ed, even if some teachers struggled a bit to keep the class calm. Eventually my interest peaked as it always does: I found a professional online that talks about the subject and followed their explanations and talks, as well as others and other publications.
I asked him about his novelty "I owe, I owe, so off to work I go" front license plate. We lived in a state that just requires rear plates. I think I was around 8 or 9. That was my first introduction to unearned authority and fucked up nepotistic power hierarchies. He also had a couple good songs about destroying the company store and a few about fortified/bum wines (not an alcoholic himself but grew up around them).
Never my parents gave me any talks either for power structures or sex. Both topics were already included organically in my upbringing; they only increased in complexity as I grew up.
Never happened
Before the internet made learning about sex easier.... grammar school boys thought that when a girl spread her legs her vagina opened up. Grammar school girls were taught to FEAR the penis. It could ruin your life
I was 19. He wasn't a very good father.
He didn't, he was never around much and I just ended up learning things through school and the Internet. I like to think I turned out okay anyway, but then again there's me being arrogant so maybe not.
Never