Red hat = No cat
Red hat = No cat
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Meanwhile, all the progressive poly guys I know who have figured out how to deeply respect women have more partners than they really have time for. And quite a few of them are not "good looking" by any conventional standard (though some are).
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like one youtubers i used to follow, there are someone for everyone. even killers/serial killers have a partner of some sort, despite knowing that they are murderers. not good looking, but have a very fun or attractive personality. the common thing that steers people away, is being broke(although not always the case), hygiene and dressing well seems to be a major one.
men with pets often gets attention too, it makes you look less creepy and more of a normal person and a potential parent.(thats why there are so many thirst traps of men(although they are already attractive) pet animal videos, like with the dodo.
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That's how I found my wife. She was very impressed with my love and care for the last living dodo, which I keep safe from extinction solely for selfish purposes.
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Pardon, but it smacks of weird defensiveness that you feel the need to bring up that serial killers often have intimate partners as some kind of counterpoint to the fact that men who figure out how to respect women's boundaries are highly sought as partners.
Serial killers likely find partners by being manipulative and playing mind games - ie, being psychopaths.
Clearly the evidence that men who respect women have major success fostering reliable and enjoyable relationships with them is somehow highly threatening to a lot of guys.
Something has to immediately be said that instead says "but not respecting women also works." Followed by crude red pill thinking - "And aren't all women dumb bc some seem to like danger? And also, women are superficial, so pretend to like a puppy bc that works a lot."
I know media has taught men that masculinity is basically defined by being able to disrespect women and think of them as winnable objects but --
Mentally healthy women aren't falling for that shit. And you guys hate the baggage that the traumatized ones have who are insecure enough fall for that crap.
You could give up the machismo to try.. respect and growing into someone who could be happy?
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As someone left of Mamdani, why should my choice of Linux distro prevent me from having a loving feline pet?
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Enterprises don't get pets. Why else would you use RH?
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I mean, ya gotta be careful. Are they conservative because they are lonely, or are they lonely because they are conservative
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I suspect that women aren't dating conservative men, not because they want to punish them, but because they would personally rather not date a horrible person.
It's a pretty bad spiral. Lonely men develop more extremist views, which makes them less attractive to women, which makes them lonelier, and they get even more extremist views, etc.
Like, if you lined all of the single men up who vote against women's rights, and asked an equal number of women to sacrifice their own happiness to date them, a certain number of those horrible men would turn a corner and start to act like a human. But who is going to give up their own happiness to fix some broken asshole stranger? Very few people.
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You can't put that on the women. Men have got to get their shit together. Just show a bit of empathy, bro! It's not that hard, humans are literally wired for it. It's just that capitalism is reinforcing humankind's worst impulses.
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I suspect that women aren’t dating conservative men, not because they want to punish them, but because they would personally rather not date a horrible person.
Considering how many women remain in an abusive relationship, I'm not sure that conservative men have less chances.
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a certain number of those horrible men would turn a corner and start to act like a human
over here in Real World Land, what will happen is those women will get abused, physically and sexually
these men have a violent hatred for women. they don’t need a girlfriend, they need therapy and, failing that, a life of imprisonment far from the people they’re a danger to
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Lonely men develop more extremist views
Ah yes, the lonely man® with the agency of a fucking houseplant.
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BUT, exceptions also occur, woman do date horrible men, if they are horrible themselves or they make some poor choices themselves. thats why incels have no excuse there something for everyone. they are just looking in the wrong place, looking for woman in areas that are more liberal of course they will have more resistance, or they are looking for woman that are only interested income/attractiveness maybes a little harder poc-wise.
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There are a lot of progressive men that are lonely. I'd say, I fall under that category. And woof, dating as a progressive man ain't no walk in the park.
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Here I am going to be the distasteful contrarian progressive, but it's because I'm desperately hoping people see that the difference isn't dating.
Because yes, you are right, as a single progressive man, dating is no walk in the park. Plenty of good reasons for this on the side of women.
Are you lonely as termed by the actual problem of male loneliness? Do you have at least a couple of friends who you can get to lunch with? Do you have a brother, sister, cousin, parents, etc. nearby? Do you have someone to help you if you get sick? Do you have an active social group you feel included in?
If the answer to them is no, then yes, definitely you are in the loneliness group. Sure, dating can help with it - but what happens if/when you break up: you don't have the support there.
I'm really worried about how people are continuing to separate and blame things that aren't the root of problems on distractions.
Like I get it. I'm there. I'm divorced, I'm coming to terms that I was in a 15 year abusive relationship, I'm hurt by her cheating on me twice, I'm hurt by her rejecting my joys and attempts at connecting and reconnecting, I miss the idea of being with her. It's been over two years since I slept next to her, or anyone.
She tried to isolate me. She love bombed me. She gaslit me. She threatened me.
But I had a kid, I have my parents, my brother, several friends, a couple of regular groups I meet up with. I desperately want the love life I pretended to have. But if it weren't for that support system in place, I would have killed myself two years ago.
Instead I lost the weight that was actually killing me. I put muscle on where I've had none. There are physical features I cannot change that affect my physical attractiveness that I get that will impede my ability to date via apps.
That's how I was able to figure this all out. The fact that you are progressive means that you see the value in other people, and see the value in connection.
There has been narratives pushed for decades to try and isolate us, gaslight us, and threaten us as humans. We need to put our oxygen mask on first before helping others.
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Yes
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They are conservative because they are stupid
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I accidentally watched an interview to some right-wing incels, and I'd say that they were lonely because they fail as human being.
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if every conservative woman hitched with every conservative man they would be 84% in a relationship.
but many conservative men are unpalatable even to conservative women
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it's almost like being conservative comes with almost inherent traits that make someone undesirable as a partner. lack of open mindedness, critical thinking, any form of emotional maturity...
there's a reason many conservatives in dating apps hide their beliefs. they know its a red flag for many more things than their "politics".
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The last woman I dated before my current girlfriend was a conservative woman. I didn't see any flags for it, she seemed really open minded, and was very well educated. Shame on me for being so blind I suppose.
She turned out to have a husband and a young son. I'm not entirely sure what to believe since cheaters will say a lot of things, but she apparently hated her marriage a lot. She wouldn't leave due to her beliefs though.
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So many of them don’t want to date conservative women. Like you can have a bio that explicitly says “no thanks conservatives” and they still try to slide in. Or hide it.
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unless they are rich, they are more likely stick with them if they have the moolah.
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Authoritarians are probably less likely to keep cats, either because they’re not obedient/useful or because keeping cats is coded as feminine and thus contemptible.
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Cats are lessons in consent and authoritarians hate consent.
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A good chunk of these dudes are closeted self-hating homosexuals projecting and lashing out so they aren't even TRULY motivated by lacking "a woman" except in which how much it frustrates them that they can't feel an attachment toward these people whom they have been told are the trophy awarded for their hardships. Which is delusional and stupid of course.
Obviously it's not a bad thing that they're gay; it sucks that they hate themselves and feel motivated to balance it by pretending that those aspects of themselves which they hate are things for which they hate others harder. If they didn't hate so much, maybe they'd have a shot at being happy.
Oh well. They live in a hell of their own creation. Serves them right.
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Yes I think the bare minimum for many of us is becoming “no conservatives.”
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Good. There are values and traits that should not procreate.
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"Grab 'em by the lack of pussy."
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People usually want romantic partners to have a heart and a brain, and redhats and libertarians have neither.
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Romantic relationships aren't the solution and seems to me like far left guys are more susceptible to the problem than conservatives.
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Communist in a happy and stable relationship reporting in.
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Slowly being radicalized liberal (possibly leftist) here reporting in from a happy and stable relationship
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Fuck it then, lets create a world were nobody has any sex
Noone will feel bad about being a virgin if literally everyone is a fucking virgin
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Damn, antinatalists, tryna sneak into the conversation!
Go on, git!
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I cant afford stable housing for myself, so I cant afford a cat.
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In the UK that would be Red Hat => No Twat
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...there are people who can can give birth, people who cannot, those that "chose" to highlight the difference bringe forth "all" gender norms...fuck you...fuck you...fuck you...some humans can give birth, others can't...fuck you...
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Red hat = no cat, no cap
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human beings have self-segregated into male/female as opposed to humans that can birth and humans that can't...it seems that is where the issue lies...
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Laugh it up, but don't get angry at third party voters when you continue to pretend you don't need those people's votes and lose again.
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I'd understand men, but conservative men? They aren't even an option unless they stop being conservative
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There have been many people who've gone viral across social media regarding their regret for voting Republican in the last election, and those are votes that could be snapped up by legitimate, thoughtful engagement.
Instead, we get these memes that are cheering on men's mental health and economic crises. Maybe it's fun to do that, but it's also stupid.
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I know you think "loosing again" would be this terrible thing but like bold of you to assume I want to bail you out of this horrible dystopia.
They gonna have to learn....
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Male loneliness epidemic doesn't have anything to do with being single or not 🤦
Why do you think they join extremist male organizations? It ain't to get laid.
That being said, if me being single is a byproduct of women collectively saying "fuck this conservative male bullshit," by all means keep at it. I'm much happier with those men not reproducing.
Edit: alright I'm starting to think my post did not convey the message I intended.
I am ok being single if conservative men are not reproducing. The rest of it remains unchanged. It does not have to do with being single or not.
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Not getting laid might be part of the issue. People want to vent
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So you're saying they have nothing to lose?
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I’m a 42 year old man with a cat and still single due to living in a very rural republican area and all women here are hardcore Trump fans so I’ll just stay single and spend time with my cat.
Wise choice.
Thanks. Also her name is mojo.
Wanna date me? I'm Canadian and I have a really sexy permanent residence card waiting for you. Bats eyelashes.
Hey, wanna marry me and my wife?
My wife and I are looking for cats
It must be hard to find friends too in that area. Hope you are doing fine.
I do alright, it’s crazy just like most things seeing people and friends you grew up with slowly becoming brainwashed and you having to distance yourself from them. Like most conservative people Covid broke and still is breaking a lot of people’s minds here.
I feel that..my Ginger is all I need here in bumfuck Kentucky.
Based cat-daddy! :D
I'm assuming it's not an option to relocate.
Yea unfortunately, my job pays really good and has good benefits. And I’m born and raised here with all my family living here or within a few hours drive.