What's something right now you both need to do and are actively avoiding doing?

Sleeping.

Planning and fomenting a revolution to overthrow the fascist takeover of the US government.

I need to do dishes and make dinner, and I'm avoiding that by posting on lemmy.

Or another example, I've needed to replace my washing machine for a couple months now, but I've just been going to the laundromat and avoiding doing any research. I have no excuse for that one, I just need to get on it.

Don’t buy Samsung or LG, get Miele or Bosch
- I'm going with a GE one, it had to be under 33.5" tall to fit so the options were a bit limited. I'm hoping it'll be good lol

Fold the laundry. I hate doing it, but I also hate it being a mess.

So, nudity it is! Two birds, one stone and such.
- Hi my husband, I didn’t know you had a lemmy account 😂
Ugh, laundry is just the worst. Lemme know if you ever find a folding alternative!
- ball it up and stuff it into your closet/drawer

Filing my taxes.

- If you owe, just wait. Trump will likely dissolve the IRS soon enough, anyway.
- I filed 2 weeks ago and haven't received my refund yet. I know that's not that long, but I'm still starting to get worried it just wont come at all.

Colonoscopy.

You can poop in a bag and mail it instead now.
- Those only detect actual cancer. Getting the butt probe can also find ulcers and pre-cancerous polyps.
- These are not the same thing. Yearly health checks in Japan usually collect two stool samples. I actually was ordered to get a colonoscopy because of the results of those tests to look for things.

Apart from work?

Figure out what's wrong with my car. Taking it to a shop is probably too expensive and figuring it out myself is too daunting of a task. It sometimes dies when I'm slowing to a stop, and I have to put it in park and restart it. Sometimes it's hard to start and then the tachometer stays at zero even though the engine is running.

Surely there's a mechanics advice community here somewhere? They could at least get you started on troubleshooting.
I'd add some fuel injector cleaner. The fuel injectors might be gummed up and when it gets to low rpm it starves the engine of fuel.
I had something intermittent like this, and it turned out that I had a cracked distributor cap. It turned out to be a stupidly easy repair, and not a very expensive part.
Edit: this was a car as ancient as I am. I'm not sure modern cars even have that part, anymore.

Switching from Youtube to GrayJay on both desktop and mobile permanently

Interesting. This GrayJay?
- Bingo! It's an app which fetches videos from multiple sources like Youtube, Odysee, Rumble, Twitch, Kik, etc etc, and you can also select which sources would you want to search from and in which priority order. For example if an X youtuber also uploads his videos on Odysee and you prefer that source more, then that video will be shown from Odysee in your feed.

Tell someone how I feel about them

PTA stuff. I thought I had the time, but the job changed, the kids became more maintenance, and fuck 47.

Man if I start listing them I'll go over lemmy's word limit

I need to take my clothes out of the washing machine and dryer but my bed is so comfy.

Maintenance (already paid for) on both my motorcycle and car. I don't want to drive a motorcycle in the snow, but I have to use it before time runs out (it's +/- 3 months, I think). The car is due in April. I'm delaying making the reservations until next week when I get the results from some medical tests and get others done to figure out WTF is wrong with my body.

Building my home server. I have all the parts but the sheer amount of different ways to set it up and all the things I need to learn to keep it safe. Especially now that all that (waves hand around) is happening, it’s so important I get on it. It kinda makes me want to cry. My brain isn’t as sharp now that menopause has hit, remembering things is really hard. Though my dr got me on a different regime of my adhd meds so hopefully that will help. Anyways, sorry for the ramble.

*I have looked at the self hosted and privacy communities, I think I’m going to go with Yunohost. It’s the internet part I’m worried about more.

Do your services need to be reachable from outside right from the start? If not, get yourself comfortable with hosting, maintaning and backing up the server. Automate your backups as much as possible and recover at least once from a full backup to check everything!
This should give you a solid baseline to then think about exposing your services, which is arguably the scariest part, but can come afterwards.
- Thank you for your response! That’s really good advice. I can hold off for a bit, Joplin is my main service that I’ll need to be able to reach, but can keep using Dropbox to sync for now.
  One thing that I haven’t quite sorted is our todos. We use Todoist right now, and it’s really great, but would like something self hosted. I haven’t found anything that has both an iOS and android app though, except Nextcloud. Any suggestions? I was contemplating just using Nextcloud to start to keep things simple, and then adding different services later, but Yunohost seems like a better solution.

Learning about Flink (the stream processor used in system design). I promised my club I would be doing a deep dive on it this Friday but.....

Figure out the cottage laws in the state now its legal. The process makes my wiggly brain hurt.

Reno the place I just bought. I move in in 5ish weeks. Need to finish the ceiling, redo the floors, reno the bathroom and kitchen space.

Its only ~500sqft but I've zero reno experience really

Sleep

Both of us?

Both was a bad choice. Should have gone with "simultaneously". It means something you need to do AND are avoiding doing it.

I really need to clean my apartment, it's gotten pretty messy.

Making dinner