People with anxiety are valid and deserve to have their problems taken seriously
Yes, but this situation isn't necessarily anxiety. It can just be social awkwardness, not wanting to have to say hi, etc.
of course it’s a comic with fake characters with no objective truth to be found…
but the artist is a vocal mental health advocate
…it’s 100% about anxiety 😅
They are and they do, but this example is extreme. Having been on both sides of this, I'd say no one should have to live their life in fear of every little interaction. It's exhausting, and you will never succeed in getting every person to leave you alone anyway. But this doesn't have to be "the way it is." You can actually change and make your life easier. Sometimes it takes help and a long time, but I believe most people can do it if they really want to.
I don't even have anxiety and I think this is relatable. It's not even necessarily fear, but maybe not having the bandwidth to be social in that moment.
Spoons, etc
But where does the comic state or imply that living like this is healthy? The character doesn't seem happy.
Do you think we should treat people with crippling anxiety by telling them that their anxiety is crippling any time they post on the internet about how crippling their anxiety is?
Even worse when you're really hungry but your flatmates are hanging out in the kitchen
Just stroll out as casual as possible and act suprise when they see you. "oh shit, hey" without any clothes on. Repeat this until they relocate their usual hangout spot to another building.
E: or discover your like exhibitionism and your fear of socializing drops (but your horniness rises when you can hear them congregating)
People who say Lemmy is not a social media site might just be right.
Because apparently the people here do not want to be social they just want the media.Finally
Asocial media
I think lemmy and reddit are super different from social media. you can use some of their tools to socialize but most if not all people don't use their real names, most don't even have a proper profile, most people don't follow each other or try to get followers, etc. there's just no "relationship" aspect that is distinct to social media sites.
if anything lemmy feels a little more social just because of the small size, and how you start to recognize the same bunch of people in the comments. but I'd expect that to go away if it ever gets really big one day.
discussion =/= socializing
I don't get it. Are they afraid of possibly having a brief interaction with a neighbor?
They likely have high anxiety, possibly an anxiety disorder. It’s just a relatable representation of that in comic form
Every fucking time I want to leave some other neighbour comes out first and I have to wait for them to clear out before I can leave.
And they are so slow! Clear the public area swiftly you inconsiderate buffoons!
Wow you hate people more than I do. Just say that.
The old people always want to talk and I'm too nice to cut them off. There is no other choice but to avoid them at all costs.
Who is speaking in the last panel?
A Portal turret.
Without checking other comics in the same storyline I would have to guess roommate(I don't know this chatacters living situation), the keyholes in some appartments are on both sides, she is inside her apartment trying to leave, and has been trying for long enough that the roommate is surprised.
Flat mate or partner or family?
Maybe we should seriously stop normalyzing anxiety.
Yeah, just stop normalizing talking with people who don't want to socialize.
The problem in the comic isn't the neighbor, it is talking to the neighbor.
Just walk past without saying a word. What are they going to do? Move?
expressing struggles with a common disorder is not normalizing the disorder. this is a mean comment.
It's not about this comic, it's about the pervasive rappresentation of these struggles as cute quirks instead of crippling issues stemming from a dysfuntional society that needs to be changed.
That's in a never ending amount of webcomics.
Should I also call them out as being low hanging fruits as well?
Regular Scandinavian life.
I need to move to Scandinavia.
Expensive, cold, and dark. Otherwise sounds fantastic.
Are they afraid to leave their apartment? It looks like they're outside their apartment with needing the key to turn the deadbolt.
Different lock types are more or less common in different places.
I don't know where the artist of the comic lives, but here in the UK for example most exterior doors have a keyhole on BOTH sides, and you need to use the key to lock or unlock it from inside, as well as from out.
Hm, I'm kind of in between. I do this fairly often, not wanting to go out right when someone else is there. But I don't know why, since as far as I can tell it doesn't make me feel anxious to run into someone like in the cartoon.
It doesn't bother me at all to cross paths with someone and I'm fine with saying Hi or just nodding to acknowledge their presence. Rarely does anyone actually try to start a conversation or anything. If they do say anything it's probably just a one-liner and move on. And it's easy to tell if someone doesn't want to nod or say Hi as you pass because they stare at the ground the whole time, and I'm fine with that too, but I don't do that.
But now I'm wondering, so why do I tend to wait until they're gone? Is it really social anxiety? I don't think so? I'm a loner but I have no problem or anxiety talking to people either. 🤔
I'm usually rushing out somewhere when I leave the house and a few of my neighbors are talkers, which I normally don't mind at all. But sometimes it makes more sense to just wait inside for a minute rather than get stuck in a 5 minute conversation.
Not me. I even talk to people in the bathroom.
I do this for every threat of human interaction ever. I wish I could fix that.
You don't fix it. You just work on it till you can handle more because you want to or you have to.
We aren't so much as broken as just different, as we all are. We all just need to do our parts to work to be part of society rather than perfect it ourselves first.
You can't be serious
They are and it's apparently celebrated here in Lemmy to be the worst kind of person without working on it.
Judging by the downvotes, I'd say you're right. Reminds me of my ex who would make every excuse in the book just to avoid having to make a phone call. It's very tiring to deal with.
My wife is like this. She claims its because the dog is to crazy around them, but its not the dog. I know her. Its funny because when caught with the neighbors she is cordial and will talk and laugh but she just can't get passed her predispositions. I on the other hand will run out if I hear the neighbors as I like to play with their dogs.
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Ahh i cant relate to this one
For me, it's my roommate and the never-ending rant about 'stupid' things going on at work.
That's why I don't leave the house. 😎
Skill issue
