How to tell the difference between being burnt out and just being lazy?
How to tell the difference between being burnt out and just being lazy?
I work a rather demanding job and I've constantly been feeling tired and underperformant compared to my colleagues for the past few months. I keep evading responsibilities or putting them off until the last minute.
Many people would kill to be where I am. Yet, I show up every day unmotivated.
There were several stressful years leading up to my current job and I'm wondering if I'm burnt out at this point or if I'm just not pulling my weight.
Edit: Thank you all for your support and guidance. I haven't given too many details here, but personal life has been moving along smoothly, chores get done, etc. But I definitely need to reconsider where I'm going with my job.
There's no such thing as "lazy". It's always, always, always a word used to make someone feel guilty for hitting a personal limit or threshold.
Even if you want to work on those thresholds and improve them, you can achieve that without framing yourself as fundamentally selfish and uncaring.
I think "selfish" is a better word for it in all instances, because some people are just selfish. Like, if you can't be bothered to return your shopping cart or pick up your dog's shit, then that's selfish. It's not anywhere near the same category as being too burnt out to do the dishes after a double shift, or wanting to sleep in on a day off.
Calling all of it "lazy" creates some imaginary obligation to the universe that simply does not exist. You don't owe the universe clean dishes or your time in the morning. If you have roommates and you left dishes in the sink, you are being selfish. If your kids have an early baseball game, and you are too hungover to show up, then you're being selfish. You are always obliged to return your cart and pick up after your dog.
Lazy exists. I am a fully capable person, but some times I just don't want to get up off the couch and wash the dishes, or finish painting the wall trim. Its not that I am sad, tired or depressed, it's just I'd rather be doing something else or nothing else.
That's not laziness, that's looking after yourself and your own needs, and prioritising that over non urgent chores.
At some point, the balance changes, and you do the stuff.
And if the balance doesn't change, and you always put it off, even when you shouldn't be, there's something going on behind it.
thank you for this.
I think there is such a thing as lazy, but it's when you push your responsibilities off onto another person solely because you can get away with it. The ex who leaves the dishes dirty and tells you, "I don't know, they just come better when you wash them", for instance.
One of the best replies I've seen on social media! Allow me to be a zoomer and say, absolute W!
Genuinely well said.
The difference between lazy and burnout lies in how much you trust the person not working.
Laziness doesn't exist, it's made up, there's always an underlying cause
Laziness exists. It’s what causes me to not do my work around the house sometimes.
I guess I'll piggyback on the other comment and say laziness doesn't exist at work. People definitely have off days or hate their job, but I'd say pretty much all the "laziness" I have experienced in my life at different jobs usually boils down to awful work conditions, managers or bosses that don't care about you, not getting paid enough for the actual work, or general distain for your corporate overlords if you work for a big company. Some may call me lazy, but I'm working exactly as hard as I feel like they deserve when I'm 30 years old and still living in a studio apartment one paycheck away from being homeless. And I'm not gonna work at 100% when 100% of my needs are not being met. And I make more than anyone else in my family so I'm technically the "successful child."
Sometimes the underlying cause is you don't want to be bothered with the task. I am highly motivated to complete tasks, but sometimes I will let stuff slide because I can't be bothered.
I had panic attacks just before start working, and my productivity was quite low. I hope you don't reach that kind of reaction before looking for help.
Yes. If you take it that far there can me permanent trauma.
I used to feel like I was going to throw up every morning before work. Didn't happen on weekends.
I had one of the most desirable jobs in my field. It was one that everyone thought was very cool when I was asked. I got burnt out. I was sad and depressed every day. When I was done with work, I didn't want to do anything that required energy. I just sat and watched tv or similar. That's burnt out.
I am extremely lazy at my current job. It's a pretty easy job, but I resent being assigned more responsibility (happened the other day). The added responsibility isn't that difficult and only happens one day per week, but I'm still annoyed. After work, I pretty much scroll Lemmy and watch streaming content, but I don't feel used up; I'm just lazy. That's lazy.
The difference is when you can't do more vs you choose to do less. It's subjective. Good luck!
There is is "being lazy" thats just capitalism way of saying you're not making your boss or society enough money.
Enjoy your life.
I am really sorry that you are going through this. I really appreciate all of the people in these comments who are dispelling the myth of laziness. It’s hard not to fall into the hole of guilt and shame, and it’s something I really needed to hear right now. But to me it does sound like you are experiencing burnout, and maybe depression? I have ADHD and after about the 1 year mark I get very bored with work and it starts to take a very real toll on me so I start to under perform and it makes me feel really guilty. So I am trying to be more kind to myself and give myself some grace and acceptance.
The word "lazy" exists for exploiters to shame their thralls if they aren't profiting them enough. Think about anyone who might call you lazy and their relationship to you. They are not your friends; you don't have to serve them.
If you're not satisfied with how you're living your life, that's meaningful. The protection from loss you have gained through your job doesn't balance against the stress of what you're doing. There are no easy answers but something needs to change. I would suggest working on those changes before you get burned all the way out, because at that point you'll be making changes whether you want to or not.
Sounds a lot like burnout to me.
My humble opinion: burnout exists, laziness doesn't
Laziness is a buzzword concept to describe way too many states of mind, downplaying the causes of lack of motivation.
I think there are some words that, if avoided, allow deeper investigation into important things, and "lazy" is in the top 10 of that list
Might be depression, at least it was for me
Are you sure you're underperforming, or is that just an idea you came up with yourself? Have you talked to a boss or manager about their expectations for your role and if you are meeting those expectations?
It may just be a self-sabotaging thought, and getting confirmation that you are meeting expectations could let you relax and work at a preferred or natural pace without stressing about your performance.
Honestly that sounds a lot like me. I had a decent job but was underperforming, burnt out and depressed. I started at some point pulling out my facial hair as stress coping mechanism.
I ended up saving up enough to be without a job for a few months, quit and I've not looked back.
My hair is regrowing, I'm feeling less stressed than ever, I've got a positive outlook on life again and I'm finally getting back into hobbies.
if you're able to, talk to a mental health professional, share what you're feeling and let them help and guide you. If not, talk to your partner (if you have one) and get their opinion on how you're going.
I also acknowledge that my struggle is different to yours, and the decisions I've made are working for me. I think you need to talk to people and get their views on how you're doing, and figure out what's best for you
Tricky one to weigh up there. It might not be that you're lazy, you may well just be burned out, not working effectively (i.e. overworking yourself), or it could even be imposter syndrome. On the other hand, yes you could just be lazy, or you might just really hate your job. Hell, there have been times where I've felt unmotivated because our leadership team were just arseholes - sometimes a lack of motivation goes beyond just your own choices.
There just isn't enough data in a short post.
Take some leave, go get checked out by a doctor, talk to a friend/partner, take a look at job ads to see if anything sounds better than where you are.
Take a vacation and see if that improves things. If so, burnout. If not, look for other reasons that you're lacking motivation.
The big symptom unique to burnout is anger. Ultimately leading to blowing up at coworkers. If you're not experiencing that it's probably not burnout.
Depression and ADHD might be good thing to check for.
Is either diagnosis really helpful in figuring out a solution?
One could be rehabilitation, the other discipline?
Try to rule out mental health issues first.
You might have autism/ADHD/ADD/depression.What a great way to learn how people interpret behaviors as "lazy". Intriguing....