Cheating on your spouse is no longer a crime in New York
Cheating on your spouse is no longer a crime in New York
Gov. Kathy Hochul signed a bill repealing the state's 117-year-old adultery law on Friday.
But can you legally marry multiple people
Fuck me finally. It was a the only thing keeping me a chronic virgin.
Talking like a the famous plumber doesn't help either
Great now make it so if you cheat you lose the ability to get alimony.
And an open relationship is different then cheating.
People who are so concerned about that possibility can just require their prospective spouse to sign a prenup with conditions like that on alimony, as a condition of getting married.
Yup, that's a great way to start a marriage. "I love you with all my heart and want to be with you forever. Also, I don't trust you, so let's get a prenup."
The law needs to protect people by default. It's just impractical not to. You have to keep in mind that humans are not perfect rational agents.
There are a number of states where the prenup is all but worthless.
Honestly, I think it’s high time we ditch old marriage laws in favor of much more individualized marriage contracts that are settled in civil court if they’re dissolved. Modern marriages are much more complex than traditional ones and our antiquated laws don’t deal with them well. We’d have to update laws/policies about hospital visiting, medical decisions, inheritance, etc, as well, but I think it would be worth it.
that's the opposite of the point of these laws. the entire point of this and no fault divorce is that the state shouldn't dictate relationships. how are you going to adjudicate cheating anyway?
How?
If person a is shown to have been cheating then person a loses any claim to alimony.
Pretty simple.
Person A in divorce court “judge I want alimony”
Person B in divorce court “your honor Person A was cheating here’s the proof”
Judge “ no alimony will be awarded from Person B to Person A”
Why should anyone be allowed to get alimony after cheating? That’s just insult to injury.
Your spouse cheats you walk in on it and now you want a divorce. Added bonus you have to pay money to the cheater for life???
How does that make sense?
It should literally be law that the alimony goes away at that point.
I do wonder the legal definition used here. I hope the law doesn't consider it cheating if you tell them about it first, regardless of if they say yes
You used to have to prove adultery in order to get a divorce in New York state.
Family story time! My great-grandparents wanted to get divorced and were in New York, so my grandfather lay in a bed next to his mother-in-law under the covers and my grandmother took a photo to present to the courts. My great-grandmother apparently never even took off her coat.
That's hilarious and somehow wholesome that everyone pitched in to get the separation
Woot to all the people that were horny but it was the legal system stopping them from cheating on their spouse.
Its not cheating if you tell them
It's not cheating if you break up the first relationship beforehand, you mean?
If someone told me "your body, my choice," then the relationship is ended there and then
That is definitely not how it works.
It's* not
I'm just waiting on incoming news about Hochul cheating on her husband.
It kinda should be IMO. If you can't not be faithful, don't fucking get married and be a cheating piece of shit.
You won't get a lot of argument that cheating is a shitty thing to do but the government doesn't need to be involved in peoples relationships.
Do you not see the issues with having the state enforce that?
It shouldn't be enforced by the state
yeah great idea. criminalise everything. had your freedom to the state. the american dream
I’ve been cheated on and divorced. My ex was seeing a divorce lawyer lol. That was some fun times with depositions and constant harassment since they had 24/7 legal access.
Even with all that said, I don’t think cheating should ever be criminalized. Just gotta be careful who you marry or date. I still have never learned my lesson lol.
Yeah, Anyone who thinks cheating should be a crime isn't emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship in my opinion. It's a horrible thing to cheat on someone, but laws aren't for hurt feelings.
Every couple that wants the legal rights grants by marriage must be monogamous whether they want to or not, because it gives you feelings that you are unwilling to process when confronted by committed but nonmonogamous relationships?