I think the truth is women do like muscly men, but men tend to overestimate how muscly. Like swimmer physique is attractive, hollywood batman physique is male power fantasy; or something
I can't speak for every woman, but I can speak for my own experiences and report based on the things women I know have said. For me and those I've spoken to, we may like muscles, but the things you need to do to get those muscles often aren't as attractive and cancel it out. Like, if you're getting muscles by going to the gym every day, that's only gonna attract women who are enthusiastic about the gym. If you get them from farm work, you'll attract women enthusiastic about farm life.
That's why a lot of us like dad bods so much. It's not that it's inherently more attractive, it's that it's a body type achievable by living the kind of life style people who're into that enjoy.
In other words, yes, muscles can be attractive, but not nearly as attractive as shared hobbies and interests, and it just happens quite often muscles can be a quick indicator that you probably don't share many.
Youâre close. The real truth is that most average people do not like to date too high above their perceived range of attractiveness. This bears out in many studies but people are attracted to 8âs and 9âs but wonât date them and instead mostly date people that are more normal 5,6,7âs.
Then we look at the opposite side of the coin, 9âs and 10âs donât even want to date each other. And for good reason. Extremely attractive people often cross a line into narcissism or being too busy to hold a relationship.
So two factors: 1. Most people arenât extremely fit and so donât want to date people whose lifestyle does not match their own, weâre all also slightly insecure. 2. Extremely attractive partners tend not to be good partners. The more people that are attracted to you, the less that date you. Also thatâs out of fear of competition and effort so itâs not worth it.
Yeah, I think in general it starts with trying to impress women, then you do it to impress other guys.
I guess itâs similar for women, they might get into doing their make up and looking nice for attention from guys they like, but in the end theyâre mainly trying to impress other women or just doing it because they enjoy it.
You need to find a new gym. The growing process is slow and difficult, but with enough chicken breast and broccoli I too will soon have cat ears others will envy