Fair point

It’s hilarious to me that the only people in this thread complaining about how hard dating is are people that I have tagged previously for having really heinous opinions.

Why is every girl I meet alt right.

Probably because they are the only single ones because of their red flags.
Stuck in a red state?
- Canada.

Just saying "I didn't vote for Trump" isn't enough. You have to follow up that question with "Why?" and their answer will tell you more about their politics than their voting record. For example, there are authoritarians that didn't vote for Trump because he's simply not their particular brand of authoritarian.

Where do I meet far left women? Not democrats or liberals, actual leftists.

DSA meetings tbh. I know people think they are democrat lovers but since 2016 the org has moved more and more to the left and marxists are pretty popular.
- This gives joy.

I find it incredibly distressing that I can remember a time when people connected with each other, learned about each others values, principles and ideas for themselves and their nation, and they largely adapted to each other, they compromised, they changed views and tried to make things work.

The idea that now we've let the system become so vastly important to us that voting lines determine basic compatibility as humans talking to each other is just tragic. It's an artificial boundary that groups of people have deliberately built around us and we took it on and embraced it.

I would never endorse "giving a violent MAGA redneck a chance" or something, but the reality is more nuanced and there are thousands and thousands of median voters who have no idea what's going on in politics and figure a vote for trump was the same as a vote for bernie was the same as a vote for clinton and so on. It doesn't make them bad it makes them overworked, ignorant, tired or poorly educated.

We would do better at least talking to people more, particularly people we don't agree with so we can learn how to reach them and bring them up to a better place.

edit: a lot of you have never talked to another human in your life and base all your beliefs about the average median voter from youtube shorts that algorithms have fed you to make you angry and want to hate them. Welcome to being a cog.

I'm more than okay with talking but would not advocate for anyone to date a Trump voter. That speaks to a profound lack of judgement / humanity that will eventually rear its head in the relationship. If someone voted for Trump but is then reformed, sure that could be considered om a case by case basis but otherwise it's a hard stop for me and many people. Especially if any of the women in my life were dating a Trump supporter, I would be genuinely concerned for their safety.
If I'm on a date and she tells me that she voted for Donald Trump, I'm asking for the check and walking the fuck out of there. Certain behaviors are deal breakers.
I could never trust or respect a second-term Trump voter. That says to me quite plainly that person doesn't have any values, principles, or ideas. At least none that would be compatible with mine.
- Can't trust the principals of a second term, but you can't trust the basic reasoning of the first term.
  He's never been that coy about what he wants to do.
I would wager that many of us were raised with some basic shared ethical values. Things like “if you break it, you repair, replace, or pay for it” or “if you make a mistake, learn from it and do better.”
Someone who repeatedly makes the same mistake without learning from it is a bad person. Voting for a Republican or conservative Democrat once could be called a mistake, but doing it repeatedly, denying the evidence of your eyes and ears and bank account — or worse, repeatedly participating in the widespread harm and oppression, and failing to fight against it after aiding them — makes you a bad person. Being tired, overworked, deceived, stupid, or any other excuse does not grant absolution. Actions have consequences, and therefore actions matter. Making a mess accidentally doesn’t make you a bad person, but failing to recognize a mistake and/or failing to correct it and/or doing it again does.
- I would wager that many of us were raised with some basic shared ethical values. Things like “if you break it, you repair, replace, or pay for it” or “if you make a mistake, learn from it and do better.”
  You see. That's what I thought but it's become apparent that ~35% of Americans didn't learn these basic values, or if they did - they have chosen to disregard them.
  It is no longer a political issue.
  We do not agree on a core values level anymore.
- I love my dad, but he is a brainwashed, socially inept fool who does whatever the church tells him because they speak for god and they provide him friendship and respect. He thinks I'm lost and has no idea how to approach me. I feel the same about him.
Yeah but I don't want to be around fascist enablers so no, I won't be compromising.
Identity politics have reached such an extreme that people really are what they vote, and the politics reflect that.
Politics used to be more of “we both want the country to go the same way, we just disagree on how to get there.”
Now one side is “fuck democracy, ostracize the lgbtq people, bring on the brownshirts, fuck science and the climate, too!” With pretty broad support for many of those motives.
It’s not that the system has become important, it’s that the participants have debased the system to the lowest hanging fruit on the asshole tree.
- When fascism (oppression) rises, the only things in the middle of the road are yellow lines and dead armadillos. You can either be on one side or the other, staying in the middle you'll just end up dead.
- Politics used to be more of “we both want the country to go the same way, we just disagree on how to get there.”
  Absolutely right. I remember because I lived in those times, the amplification of news and hype to further political/economic agendas has just been steadily turning the crank up on the perceived importance of team politics.
  I am VERY far from a centrist, but the left is equally guilty of falling into this atomized perspective, watching algorithmically fed segments and stories amplifying the worst voices on the right, cranking up the rhetoric and hate and making issues that once would have fizzled out flare up into larger fights. We can't put this toothpaste back in, but we can mitigate the problem from getting even worse.
  There are a lot of very well-paid people who have studied how to do this and if we, as individuals, think we can outsmart teams of people who do this to eat and live, we're more vulnerable than we even know.
  Doubt everything you read, particularly if it makes you scared or angry.
  Read more of what the other side is reading so you understand better what their picture of the world looks like. Even if it's a stupid, poorly educated picture, you HAVE to understand it so you can turn people.
  Try to turn people. Even if it means just fact-checking idiots online and in RL. Learn enough about one topic that you feel confident fighting for it. Stop expecting immediate gratification, you only expect it because of the "X OWNS AND SLAMS Y" clips.
  Stop spending your energy online arguing with other leftists. Spend that energy actually going into right-wing facebook pages, twitter groups and so on. Speak up when you're out at lunch with people and someone says a dumb or ignorant take. Bring back social consequence for being a shitlord.
  Stop spending money. Stop pouring money into vices like weed and alcohol, or at least cut way back so you get healthier and stronger mentally. Stop having to have the latest games and gadgets. Stop ordering fast food, doordash and other luxuries. Starve the liches and oligarchs.
  Get a fucking gun. Even if you're against guns, you should probably have one right now.
Are there honestly examples where two people significantly disagreed politically and got along with each other? Life itself is hard enough, I want a teammate not an oppressor.
- See, that's the false dichotomy that's been built into a reality, that average, normal people should have political disagreements to the degree that they can't get along.
  I don't know how many times I can stress this, but I'm not saying "have sex with your oppressor" that some are translating my comment to mean, I suppose because everyone's brains have melted, but it's something we all need to know, that this isn't natural. This CAN be turned around if we worked on it, from an individual level as well as a social level if we got more involved.
- I'm pretty staunchly left leaning and am friends with a MAGA supporter. If anything, he isn't an outright bad person, he's just...really ignorant and holds some very warped and manipulated views of reality. He tends to just see headlines and not think critically about what information he accepts as fact, instead operating primarily on emotion (shocker). I feel like I've changed his mind on a few things, but I'll certainly never dig him entirely out of that trench, not that that's really my place or goal. These days we mostly just avoid talking politics, probably because he's sick of me debunking all the crap that comes out of his mouth lol.
there are thousands and thousands of median voters who have no idea what's going on in politics and figure a vote for trump was the same as a vote for bernie was the same as a vote for clinton and so on. It doesn't make them bad it makes them overworked, ignorant, tired or poorly educated.
God, I do so love reading liberal apologia. Fascism is at your door and all you can do is cry about how people aren't doing enough to understand them.
- Nice performance, really gripping. I expect at least an emmy nomination.
  But I am saying, that even if your fantasy rebel leader takes control and leads a magical revolution that somehow topples the military and installs a socialist leader whom everyone somehow loves, you still have to live next to the people who empowered the current system, so no matter WHAT happens, you will need to understand them or we end up in the same cycle over and over.
  Someone with several more braincells might ask why we should understand them, and that answer is naturally, so we can change them. Are YOU the one so stuck down the liberal/lefty pipeline of super-inclusivity that you think they're fucking entitled to being the way they are? Don't you think you should be empowered to guide and bring up your population's weakest link? Do you think they're going to just lower their heads and shrug if we all succeed? Don't be a moron.
  Or is it far more important to you that you get internet updoots? Don't bother answering.
no it makes them bad.
the only people that could’ve stomached voting for trump are racists or bigots… xenophobes….
….
if they weren’t one of those, there’s no way they’d be so ignorant as to not have heard him say some nazi, racist shit….
i could forgive someone for being naive for just about any other election, but not that.
That’s because people are being kidnapped and murdered by the state now. Blame the side doing the kidnapping and murdering, and maybe fight back so we can go back to a time where political disagreement is not life or death.
the reality is more nuanced
In general, when it comes to dating, it seems everyone really just wants the idea in their head and nothing else. I'm just glad I'm a person who doesn't need someone else to feel whole.
- Having an idea in your head what you want your relationship or partner to be like is called "having values" and it's an ever-changing, nebulous idea that shifts until you find someone who wants sort of the same thing, and then you work on compromising that idea together.
  Yes it's more challenging if you use things like social media and dating apps to try to connect with people because those platforms discourage that process of finding alignment together and make relationships feel more like amazon shopping, where what you see is what you get.
- I haven’t experienced this at all. I don’t doubt your experience and you’re not the only one saying this, but I wonder why our experiences are so different? I never really did the online dating thing though.
If so, this magical median voter is so poorly informed that they are not worth your time.

I mean, this journalist went out to intentionally date alt-right men:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU5gjuffw3E

I'm sure some of you guys have seen it. I've seen multiple videos and I think the first date was a guy that threatened to kill her before and that women like her would either be killed or be slaves or something like that. She also said that these men hang around left-leaning people and act and talk like them when they're in front of others. So they seem to hide well too.

In order to proceed with this date, please answer the following questions.
Are you a facist? Y/N

Seems reasonable.

but fascists will never admit they are fascists. too Yurripean.
You’d think that it would be an easy question to answer, but most wouldn’t know if they were.
- Show them a picture of a brown or black kid and ask them if the child has inalienable human rights. That usually outs them.
In order to proceed with this date, please answer the following questions.
Do you want to destroy this country or not?
- That doesn't imply fascist - a lot of good people can imagine there's no countries.
- Nah, “are you a fascist?” is better. Because to fascists, they think they are “saving” the country

That's good. Who wants to date a fascist child-rape supporter?

And MAGA bros are looking for

Which are representational traditional Christian selfless values that Jesus intended

Hitler approved aesthetic (they would think this is a compliment)
Given the amount of silicone needed to achieve the maga doll look I suspect that the comments upthread about sexbots might be more on the nose than initially thought- at least in some circles, and especially as the women on the right decide that they don't want to be chattel.
- especially as the women on the right decide that they don’t want to be chattel.
  This has to happen first.
  Since this political cartoon aged like cheese (and I'm as surprised as anyone by that) I don't think a streak of independence in conservative women is going to be driving the sexbot industry anytime soon.
My god they are all so butt ugly
- They all look like aliens. Why is this a popular look?

Chemistry is worthless if they want to report all of your family

Report, deport, whatever

Now I'm pondering the hypothetical situation of having "chemistry" with a fascist. And it sounds a lot like most abusive relationships.

Remember that even Hitler was very charismatic and soft spoken on most of his personal interactions.
Charisma as very little to do with morals.
- Isn't there that story of him on a date just beating the shit out of his dog and not getting another date?
  You're right that charisma has little to do with morals, but I'd say Hitler is a prime example of someone only charismatic on stage. People who'd bought in entirely liked him, but he was no Heidrich or Eichmann.
Fascists are great liars

I mean, why waste your time with someone who might have diametrically opposed values to you? Just skip them and warn your friends, I guess, lol.

Yet another reason why most people are just waiting for sex-bots to become more sophisticated and cost-effective to own.

If you make politics the main topic of discussion on your first date, you're just not an interesting person. The person sitting across from you gets that shit 24 hours a day, every day, and they aren't going to want it from you just based on the remote possibility of sex when masturbation is a thing.

Whoa.
‘People have thoughts and stuff, so I can’t wait till I can have something to fuck that won’t disagree with me’?
That’s an interesting opinion. Also, you can say you don’t do politics, but politics will still do you.
I’m amazed someone would say these things without apparently thinking about them. If you just want a robot fuck toy, that’s cool (e: many of us have fantasised about the vacuum cleaner, no shade), but wanting that because real people say things you don’t like is… interesting.
- You're making a whole lot of assumptions for someone who can't be bothered to look at a profile.
  But that's typical of people who would spend a first date interrogating someone about politics.
It's not about talking politics, but knowing that the other person doesn't have deal breaker beliefs. Once that potential incompatibility is filtered out, then a meaningful relationship can be built.
Also, there will always be like-minded nerds who genuinely love to talk about any special interest, including politics. Your preference isn't universal.
- I get what people think is going on here. I'm just offering a perspective that I'm pretty sure the people here haven't considered.
If you only See a relationship as a way to get Sex you should not be in a relationship.
If you feel that your politics are getting in the way of your romantic life, maybe you could reexamine your politics rather than forswear romance.
Then again, considering your reasoning here, maybe everyone is better off with the choice you made.
- Judging by the state of dating, I'm the one winning here. The rest of you are miserable. :)
  I'm over here enjoying my time.
great, can't wait for sex bots to arrive so you can stay at home with them and spare the rest of the world your company and children
How terrible and open about it are you that people are attacking you for your politics 24/7?
Anyways, what are your thoughts on the invasion of Ukraine?
most people are just waiting for sex-bots
Most people? Really??
- I think so, yes. It's going to be very interesting to see the societal effects on dating, marriage, and childbirth statistics once sex-bots are commonplace.

Ok Kristina.