I mean, maybe he's just happy on his own for now? It's ok to have moments of doubt here and there (re: "staring at my PC" , "did it do it right") but just because they broke up with their gf and went back to their self improvement routine doesn't automatically mean self sabotage and all that.
That or he didn't love her, he didn't say anything about love or emotional attachment or anything, just that she was Asian and fucked him.
Anon wasn't after a relationship, he was after a sex toy, and fundamentally misunderstanding what a relationship is and being in one that was entirely loveless was draining on him. He just didn't realise why.
You make a valid point but I'd argue that someone who can't differentiate a want for sex from a want for a relationship still urgently needs a therapist.
Fuck, I was kinda doing alright, making friends, getting out, part of a big kink/group sex community, then I met my current GF, I haven't been to a sex party in months, I feel miserable 50% of the time, honestly most difficult person I've ever been with because of the way she sees life and relationships, wondering if I should break up with her.
Only thing is I think I'm fooling myself Re how miserable I was
I think it's the opposite, she's a relationship anarchist and I can't cope with this kind of relationship and how seemingly little importance I have in her life sometimes. I could do poly with a primary partner, but not RA.