It's funny, I got into my current relationship around the time the apps started coming out so I've never really used them, but I remember people were praising it as a lot safer for everyone involved.
And tbh I can see that being the case compared to the older school approach of nightclubs being majority populated with people actively trying to find someone to sleep with
I feel like dating apps are a lot more predatory than they were when they were first introduced. I mean predatory towards the users. Enshittified, if you will.
Let's be honest. If I was alive back then, I would have been married off in exchange for a plow, 3 pigs, and 12 sacks of potatoes, if I was lucky.
Hey, don't sell yourself short. You're worth at least twice that many sacks of potatoes.
Hmm 3goats take it or leave it
I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. Literally, I don't have any say in the matter.
Fun fact, my SO and I met at a dance (poor person gala). It still happens.
This is not strictly true. In many places, even in rural areas, there are still dancing events. They are not galas, they're an analogue for peasants, but everyone's invited if they care to look for the events, just like it always was. I'm sorry to those who don't have this possibility in their respective area.
When my dad was stationed in South Carolina the town we lived in for a while had one of these. Shout out to Lugoff-Elgin, Home of the Catfish Stomp.
Swing dance, blues dance, etc. They all have awesome clubs in downtown areas, often with live bands.
What country do you live in?
My favorite gala was the one in Dishonored where I could kill people and they rolled with it.
You didn't go to galas unless you owned successful businesses or people.
I want this, but men dress up in their favorite version of "formal". Classic black tux? Yes. A 19th century get-up complete with cravat? Absolutely. A tee with a tux printed on it & black jeans? Sure. Medieval finery? Bring it.
I want to see them trying to attract partners like they're peacocks. I'd be curious to see who/what draws a crowd!
Women should do the same. I'd love to attend something like that!
You'll just be swarmed exclusively by other men asking about your setup. But maybe that's what you're into!
(also blue jeans are not allowed at this event unless they are a part of the Canadian Tuxedo)
You’re gonna need a mop with a fit like that.
This exists at colleges and senior centers, surely we can get something in between...
They sure still exist here in France, they are called "ralleys" and yeah, you're not invited (must be of a "good old family" or invited by one of them, they do that sometimes so the blood does not get too thick).
Sort of horror show if you ask me.
How so? They still need people to open the doors and do the catering.
Oooh they mean as an invited person? Pwffft na mate, everyone wants to be the princess but there's not as many openings as they think.
I never go dancing in bals populaires whether for the forteen of July or for the fête de la musique but where do this person live not to have a place to go, dance and meet people?
I mean, if you want to go the capitalist way, nightclub are quite spread around the world...Yes, there are all kinds of dance events from the formal to the casual. It depends where you live, I guess what's on offer.
Vienna has a fantastic ball culture for example.
I've always heared that LATAM would do the siesta cause they go dancing at night. I even meet people that move there for a few years just to enjoy the dancing culture.
Downside: Ticket fees and potentially clothes shopping.
I'm looking at attending one next month, proceeds are going to local LGBT youth programs, but goddamn. Minimum $35 to get in, $50 if you want VIP, and looking through my wardrobe, I have nothing to wear that qualifies for a black tie event. I'm currently maxing out at "high-middle class restaurant" attire.
I'm currently maxing out at "high-middle class restaurant" attire.
New-ish jeans/khakis and a collared shirt are the best anyone's getting out of me. I last wore a suit in 2011, to a job interview. I'm done with the wardrobe games.
Hey, that's what I think when I walk past a local party for all the people that suck the dicks of the local political party.
Imagine missing out on nightclubs and all the other places a normal person can enjoy a night out...
they're called nightclubs now 😌
We should make nightgalas. Dark rooms, flashing lights, modern music, but traditional dancing and elegant dress
I was invited to something like a gala in grad school. I have not felt so alone and ugly since middle school. I'm not ugly, I just felt that way there.
This is correct, my company hosts a Gayla every year and I'm not invited to that either. It's for donors and essential folks only
Do they spell it like that?
Probably not
There's a new tactic folks are using to get back to the old school way where you meet potential partners in person:
They stop using dating apps. Taadaaaaaaa!
Bring back Masquerades!
Fuck you, Sabbat rules!
You mean, Mardi Gras balls? We still have those where I live. They’re expensive and some exclusive.
I mean… Paris is Burning (Wish You Were Here).
