what's the easiest way to see if I can afford to move out?
I can easily find things like rent, internet, insurance prices, but how do I find things like grocery prices? I honestly don't even know what an average grocery list might look like, are there resources to help with this? my gf and I are looking into moving out, and assuming a monthly income of ~4400 USD and rent being 500 USD, I think we should be okay, but I need to be 100% that we won't be barely scraping by or anything. thank you everyone
Is $500/month a typical rate in your area? That is unheard of around me, but I think you're in decent shape if so. Make sure you have enough for the security deposit, it's usually one month's rent.
Other recurring expenses to budget for will be utilities (water, sewer, trash, electricity, maybe gas, internet, and phone - you can estimate from whoever pays these where you're staying now), auto fuel/maintenance/insurance unless you use public transport or bike, and food as others have covered (I think your idea of practicing grocery shopping and cooking is a good start).
Beyond that, have realistic expectations for more variable expenses like clothes, home goods, entertainment, eating out, etc. Be mindful, but don't be afraid to treat yourselves every now and then if you can afford to.
It's also wise to save up an emergency fund that can cover you both for six months. It sounds like a lot, and it is, but think of it more as a goal you can keep contributing to with the money you have leftover each month.
Moving can be expensive, especially the first time when you don't have many of the essentials. Keep an eye out in thrift stores and online marketplaces for things like cookware, dishes, vacuums, and furniture. These are often much cheaper second hand, and you can upgrade down the road when you know you're financially comfortable. Good luck!
Weird pitch, would you guys be able to cook your own meals or eat out for a week?
As in, don't use anything you didn't buy yourself for a week just to get an idea. Obviously that is not going to help you save up for your place, but the research might be worth it.
Also if you still live at home use this time to consider what you use to cook (pots, pans, utensils, etc)
I had no idea what food costs were until I moved out, I learned the hard way that I had to learn to cook or my budget would be forever broken, but grocery costs and budgeting are a whole other skill so it isn't automatic that shopping and cooking will be cheaper if you don't shop carefully.
Good luck, the very fact that you are thinking about this ahead of time is a good sign!
Oh yeah, it is way easier to spend than to earn! Cooking was a challenge for me, but after a handful of somewhat embarrassing failures my partner and I each have a decent list of things we can cook. We also have random "fend for yourself" nights where we eat leftovers, sandwiches, or whatever we can find. It definitely helps when you need to cut out some stress. Granted those are rarely healthy meals. I always keep at least one horrible (health wise) frozen item around just in case!
I'd suggest one of the meal prep delivery companies, if they are in your area. You'll get a fixed price, food delivered and they are like diy cooking lessons. Recipes get a bit samey over time but you'll find a few favourites to buy yourself when you stop.
You're definitely doing the right thing by asking these questions first!
If you're not comfortable cooking by yourselves yet, I'd suggest focusing on that before moving out. The alternative is to eat out a lot, which is bad for your body and wallet. Once you do cook regularly, you'll have a good sense of how much groceries cost for you.
Grocery costs are highly variable depending on your tastes and cooking skills.
Simple vegetarian meals cooked entirely from scratch might run $3/person/day. If you’re only buying prepared foods and shop at Whole Foods could easily spend $30/person/day.
Don’t either of you ever help with family grocery shopping?