Yeah. I'm married with adult kids. All of that is work enough. I don't have enough energy left to crush on anyone. Not even like a platonic bro-crush or whatever.
Not even with kids, just wife and those in-laws and family and those out-laws, and I already feel like I'm in over my head. Kids might break me, were definitely only having 1 if any (or twins, it would be unfair to pick just one of them, and if we did we'd undoubtedly screw up and pick the evil one)
I’d say feeling admiration for others. People who are kind, patient, insightful, and critical thinkers. People who look at how political goods (including wealth) are distributed and can think critically about it. Nutomic and Dessalines for sure.