Back from the holidays

For me: I had a moment today where all I could think about was that meme which went around a few years ago that was along the lines of ...

You wake up. You're still a lizard sunning on a red rock. It was all a dream. The concept of selling feet pics to pay back student loans is already losing its meaning as you open and lick your own eyeballs to moisten them. Time to eat a bug.

Not familiar with this one but I love it. Well told

I've been thinking of quitting my current job.

It's got good working conditions, but a lot of the people I work with are so massively incompetent and don't give a shit that it makes working here miserable.

The holidays just made me realize how utterly miserable I am. So I've updated my resume and I've started applying somewhere else.

I come in today, and there's like a hundred fires and everyone's running around like headless chickens.

I can't wait to get the fuck out of here.

I don't really do New Years Resolutions, but holy shit my goal for 2024 is to get a new job.

/rant

Sounds like good cultural or social working conditions with people who generally get along. This plus leadership who don't want to upset the so-called flow or hurt someone's feelings = Many small issues that escalate and essentially merge into a larger fire. Sprinkle in a few people with the knowledge to fix things, and who were told more than once to not step over some imaginary line, and you have the sideliners facepalming while casually scrolling LinkedIn and Indeed in their spare time on the company's toilet.
Most good teams can run themselves 95% of the time. The last 5% is where decisions requiring someone senior comes in. Senior being unfortunately some manager or exec that happens to have a stronger title.
BUT, in fairness, there are also many excellent managers and executives. We just don't often hear about them.
- You've basically nailed it for the most part, yeah (down to the LinkedIn/Indeed scrolling on my spare time).
  Like, I get great working conditions. I don't hate the job itself. The people I work with just make my life absolutely miserable. Doesn't help that the business has the "more years of experience = more qualified for leadership" mentality, and half the people above me are completely clueless about the most basic shit needed for work.
  I genuinely think I'd stick around if it wasn't for the people in my team, but management seems determined to keep me with the current one, no matter how many times I ask. Their desire to keep on that team is the thing that's making me leave.
This is also my New Years resolution! 🤣🤣🤣 Good Lyck to you!
You've got the right attitude. I've spent years hanging around in the wrong places. I've never ever ever regretted leaving a job, but I always wonder if I will.

Holidays are exhausting in itself

Yeah, I feel barely any better than before I left. And this year was a chiller one.
- And this year was a chiller one.
  The year is two days old?
Holidays and weekends for me now I have kids are way more exhausting than work. More enjoyable, but jesus fuck I dont get a break. At least at work the expectations on me are clear and I get to take breaks where nobody bothers me.
- My son has finally learned to get himself some breakfast on weekends (just turned 6). It’s made Saturday mornings just that tiny bit more relaxing, until ski season started anyway.
I would have been more relaxed if I just had two regular weekends with nothing to do rather than having had three extra days off that were spent traveling and going to see our families...

The last meeting I had before my break was with an aggressively toxic team. It left me stressed through the holidays.

My boyfriend had to work Christmas and New Years which left me alone a lot of my time off.

Today I was supposed to go back to work and I just couldn't. I called in sick and had a mini-breakdown with my boyfriend.

Something needs to change for me but I'm not sure what. My stress levels are unmanageable. I keep feeling like I'm putting off living a happy, healthy, life until I can retire.

Something needs to change for me but I’m not sure what. My stress levels are unmanageable. I keep feeling like I’m putting off living a happy, healthy, life until I can retire.
The tragedy is, this is not abnormal anymore. Especially not in the U.S.
- True. And I recognize that I have a lot more to be grateful for than most. Today just hit me a lot harder than usual.
Easier said than done, but what needs to change is your job, or so it seems. Everybody doesn’t need to love their job, but hating what you do 8+ hours a day is a sure path to a misarable existence. I’m also not overjoyed to be back to work, but I’m fine with it, and it always gets better after a few days, as I catch the flow again.
Btw also make sure your health is fine, I had a friend who couldn’t get out of bed some days, and turns out she had an undiagnosed medical issue, and now got better with medication.
Edit: also, I’m a leader with an international career, so if you have some general “corporate-y” questions I’m happy to give some unbiased steering.
- Thank you for the suggestions. I agree, and so does my boyfriend, that my job ultimately needs to change.
  I'm in a weird state with my things because I'm one of those software engineers who has been pushed into management because it turns out I'm good at managing. And the product we are trying to launch is something I'm passionate about. I'm also fairly well compensated. On paper this should be a great situation.
  But I am constantly having to deal with a chaotic, but well-meaning, person at the top, and other teams with extreme political agendas that make even talking with them nothing but stress. I had three bystanders in the meeting I mentioned reach out and apologize to me for not standing up to the "ambush" (one of their words, but appropriate).
  And the biggest issue for me is the compensation and management side of things. I have no idea how to get hired as a manager because I spent all of my interviews in the past as a software engineer. And my software engineer skills have basically disappeared over the last 4+ years of managing.
  So I expect that any exit from here would be accompanied by a significant pay cut. The big names in my field all have had mass layoffs, as have tangential fields that I'm qualified for.
  I also have a mortgage on a condo that I love. I bought it months before the pandemic hit and unfortunately it's in a neighborhood hit particularly hard by tech flight. Coupled with bad interest rates, I'd be lucky to be able to sell for hundreds of thousand less than I paid for my place. And then wouldn't be able to afford a new one with today's rates.
  So I keep pushing forward to my next stock grant despite the stress without an exit strategy. I have golden handcuffs on.
  My current thought is to struggle through a couple more years, saving up as much as possible, and quitting to start my own indie games studio. Not the smartest of financial choices but it would at least be a path that let's me pursue passion projects, re-up my technical skills, and wouldn't be too terrible on my resume.
Absolutely quit that job. It's not worth the damage it's causing to you. If you can't just up and leave, spend your downtime and free time on the hunt and just bounce when you get a new gig.
Your happiness has value, and if this company isn't contributing to that value, they're not giving you enough.
I keep feeling like I’m putting off living a happy, healthy, life until I can retire.
Yeah that resonates with me too
Sounds like an awful place to work. What field you in? Do you know of any better places to work out there?
You couldn't go and spend time with your mates on New Year's Eve at least? Surely it's just a case of joining a party?
- It was a consideration, but my friends all went to a dance party where they did a bunch of molly and had fun sexual adventures. I'm in recovery so it would have been not the safest night for me to join.
  My boyfriend made an effort and got home just before midnight so we could spend it watching fireworks on the roof of my building. That part was lovely but the rest of the day was a bit lonely.

Congrats, that’s encouraging to hear!
- Anything you like. Shovel shit, make excel sheets, jerk off horses, kill people. Doesn't matter. Whatever floods dopamine into your head while lowering cortisol. Hopefully it's not that latter.

Salute to all the service industry workers who had to smile through the "oh you poor thing, they're making you work on Christmas" from the people who insisted on using the service on Christmas. If they're really lucky they might even get a few Christian extremist customers who berates them for working on Christmas because that's a sin and they're going to hell.

Friendly reminder the "service industry" includes the overwhelming majority of white-collar jobs in the US.
A financial advisor works in the service industry.
When we say the US has shifted to a "service economy," it's not a reference to retail workers, but to services like banking, data management, etc
customers who berates them for working on Christmas because that’s a sin and they’re going to hell.
The irony here is that working retail on xmas, putting up with customers like this, probably feels like hell all on its own.
- I'm not religious, but I've always "understood" hell to be a state of being, a place you currently exist in if you don't follow the teachings that were meant to order society and tell people what behavior is acceptable and what isn't. That if we all act like selfish assholes then we'll "go to hell" as in that's the world we're creating.
  So yeah, those extremist religious nutters literally create hell on earth.

Going from living for yourself to living for shareholder value is crazy whiplash.

Got a great job - pays well enough, no employees or middle management to worry about. I’m in the middle of two weeks off and it took me about 6 days to reach “what day is it?” status. I still don’t want to go back. I’m just done. Covid rush about did me in.

Damn I'm regretting not taking 2 weeks. I just took the 1, but then have actually ended up really enjoying the holidays for once. Work starts in 14m for me now. Oh well, it's going to be really lazy as people trickle back in at least
- That’s the one good thing about normal white collar over-the-holiday weeks - there’s rarely a panic so things are a little more laid back.
  For my 50th birthday I took a month off and pre-scheduled nothing to do. It. Was. Glorious. Of course, I didn’t get paid, but it was a fair birthday present value / trade.

I did virtually nothing during the holidays, and it was great. My first 30 minutes back to work with was a zoom meeting, and I'm already dreading the work.

I actually can't wait to get back to work

Same. It’s actually like a vacation after vacation
I've been in both circumstances. Where I wish I could just quit and keep playing around at home and where I'm just twiddling my thumbs or worn out from home and can't wait to go back to work.

Years ago, I quit my job that I had had for five years the day after I got back from my honeymoon. Basically, I looked around after a very rare vacation and I realized that I could do more with my life.

That's why they don't want you to take them.

I like my job and this is how I feel...

I feel like a bit of a shill, and wish I was doing something more meaningful, but I do miss working after a while.

It pays the bills

and

it is what it is.

Today is the last day of my 13 day vacation and I couldn’t agree more

I'm 50 and I've never had that many days off in a row since I started working at 13.
- That’s rough bro. I’m sorry to hear that

The thing is at Christmas everyone feels the same way so at least in an office, you have the luxury of most work being done at a snails pace. My big problem this year was that I booked my holidays ending with the family stuff and that was a bad idea. I needed that week holiday after being with family all week

We were there with you. Then the MIL stopped by. Now work is blessed freedom away from her. Please send relief. Or arsenic.

Holidays are just me working on myself. Sometimes that's more exhausting that normal work and I look forward to getting back to my job.

I am often eager to get back to work because any time off is just working a different job, that is often more stressful. My family is as or more demanding than my job is, and, when we are away from home, doubly so. My wife gets easily stressed out, my four-year-old is an excellent reasons to get stressed out, and my nine-year-old... is actually pretty great. I would love to have a vacation with just her and me. Or better yet, just me.

But by the time I'm going back to work, I am desperate to go back to work.

I wonder how often this is the case for those that choose to go into the office vs WFH

I come back tired and missing home. Maybe because I travel cheap and rough.

Tried to plan my PTO days to where I had 4 day weekends and 3 days weeks for a few weeks during the holidays.

This week is another short week but damn am I unmotivated to do anything.

Briefly had an option at an old job where we could flex our time throughout the week.
Boys and I could cover for each other's duties, so we arranged out where we each worked 10 hours a day and alternated having opposite Mondays and Fridays off.
It worked out that every 2 weeks we had 4-day weekends without burning any vacation time.
And with the horrid commute I had every day, leaving 2 hours early meant that I beat the traffic, which message I effectively only worked 1 extra hour and got way more time off.
But then I got a job offer for my current position I just couldn't turn down. I work more, but the money is way better.

I look forward to going home but I'm tired, man. Even after a holiday. I really loved my job but the last 6 months have been rough. I hope it gets better.

Today was the first day back, working remotely, and the work was good but after finishing at 6, getting my shit together, taking a 1h walk, showering, and chilling for 1h, it's time to sleep. Where'd my time go?

Why would you keep working at a job you hate this much?

money can be exchanged for goods and services
I could have a job oiling up super models, and I'd still find a way to complain about it and dread going into work.
- I mean the plus side there is that, while it may still be work, the bad days are pretty survivable lol
  I get your meaning though
Food? Rent? Health Insurance?
- I didn't say to quit working entirely. I have worked at several jobs where my main goal was finding a different one while paying bills.
  Some people suck to work for or with, while some jobs just are terrible for you as an individual for a variety of reasons, and you don't need to put yourself through that.
  I'm a big proponent of "keep moving til you're happy"

This just in: the sky is blue and the grass is green.

As someone who flew back after a nice vacation, this speaks deeply to me today.

This resonates and I am one of the lucky few that managed to get a career I enjoy (software developer) yet yesterday I was very blue at the prospects of coming back to work.

Image Transcription: Twitter Post

I have never come back from any holiday feeling relaxed, refreshed & reinvigorated to get back into work.

I come back with the taste of freedom, still fresh in my mouth, a renewed hatred for work, and a strong suspicion that this is not what I should be spending my life doing.