Sad but true
Sad but true
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Yo, that door lock doesn't do shit. If you're in a hotel room and want extra security, there's a couple of better options.
https://www.redteamtools.com/super_grip_deadbolt_strap/?searchid=110375&search_query=door+strap
This is the single best one.
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I've tested the door lock and doors I've used it on, it does actually work if you set it correctly and it fits the door itself.
For both, it depends entirely on the door itself, and neither would stop someone determined kicking through the door. I've stayed in plenty of places where the deadbolt wouldn't work with the strap, but those are also places where the doors were made in China or Turkey, so nothing is standardized to EU/US/Canada specs.
A regular ol' rubber door stopper often does the trick just as well. Layer your security.
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I definitely agree about layering security.
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Of course Lemmy people follow Deviant
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I'm bummed I missed meeting him at DefCon, actually haha.
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Men must really have weak hands, feet, eyes, and skulls compared to women, and be much harder to see. Sounds rough.
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That window breaker appears to be a combo seat belt cutter and is a good item to have in your car in general. Didn’t know they were primarily marketed to women.
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I don't think they are. I get what the "meme" is going for, but it looks to me more like adding "women" to the query just eliminates PPE from the results.
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It's a sad state of affairs, but that's how it is. As a
velocier... regular human being that happens to be male, I can see why this happens. And one of the main problems we still have as a society is that when something happens to a woman, one of the things many assholes ask first is: "how was she dressed?" As if somehow it was the woman's fault because the poor man couldn't help it.-
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In all seriousness, yeah, we (women) all know that's how it is. The image is critiquing the status quo though, because it's fluffing stupid.
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And the stupidest part of it is that this status quo hurts men too. Because they don't realize that perpetuating it makes women afraid of men (with a valid reason).
Hell, right now, if a man approaches a woman, her first reaction is fear and distrust, and it's justified because they learned that it's better to fear a man and be safe than to trust him and be sorry later. And this is hurting men too because makes it harder to find someone even if you are a sane (as in not a potential rapist) individual. Helping to perpetuate this status quo is basically shooting ourselves in the foot, repeatedly.
PS: just in case it wasn't clear, I speak as a male human being. 👀
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Fake! If the safety items in the bottom half were for women, they'd be pink.
Somewhat /s
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If they are pink, don't forget to add the pink tax too.
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I never leave the house unarmed. I recommend self-defence classes and weapons training for each and every gal. There's too many weirdos out there and having trained self-defence for quite many years became very useful a few times in the past for me.
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Its good to know how. In many of those classes they will also teach us to trust our guts on stuff like that and GTFO before we need to fight. And i think thats equally important. Its really, really hard to defend yourself agains someone bigger and heavier than you. A fight not fought is a fight not lost.
And never forget that a weapon can also be used against oneself, especially if not used often or trained.
Stay safe out there ladies!
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That's exactly what my self-defence teacher repeated nonstop: The best self-defence is getting the fuck away from the danger. Unfortunately, that's not always possible, so you need a plan B as well.
And yes, before carrying around weapons, you need to learn how and when to use them.
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Trusting your gut and getting out of perceived danger is good in some ways. But, it can also reinforce a feeling of paranoia. It's like the old joke about someone buying a supposedly "magic" item, like leprechaun repellent, and claiming it works because they've never been attacked by a leprechaun.
For example, is someone crossing the street to avoid walking near that man because their gut says he's dangerous? Or is it because he has black skin and they haven't confronted their internalized racism? Are the people hanging out on the corner actually dangerous members of a gang? Or are they just loud, boisterous teenagers? Let this paranoia go too far and you get incidents like the woman who called the cops on a man birdwatching in central park or someone shooting someone who accidentally used the wrong driveway.
This is personal for me, because my mom is always telling me tales of the sketchy people she had to avoid when she was out walking her dog. When she describes why they were sketchy, her reason is basically "they were black". I really think if she could get the courage to meet some black people, she'd discover they aren't automatically scary, and she didn't need to trust her gut and steer clear of them when they were just outside minding their own business while she was out with the dog. She'd also generally be happier to be out at night, and her quality of life would go up because she wouldn't be so afraid of her own neighbourhood.
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Got to fuck em up like Captain Janeway did to Tuvix
Seriously though OP is spot on with the recommendation
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Unfortunately in Australia carrying any sort of weapon for self-defence is illegal, including pepper spray. I still, if I'm going into a higher-risk situation, carry something like a padlock or 3D printed cat-ear ring regardless. Rather be charged with assault than end up assaulted myself, or worse.
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Same here in Canada.
You can carry a knife, as long as it's a utility knife, or used for cooking, or if it's some kind of sporting equipment.
If you use anything for defense, you're likely going to be getting a weapons charge.
It's idiotic if you ask me. If only criminals can carry weapons, then only criminals will ever have weapons.
IMO, nonlethal self defense equipment should be exempt from weapons laws until such time as it is used to perpetrate a crime, when it then becomes an offensive weapon and prohibited by law. (We have a similar law about knives/blades, they're not considered weapons until they're used in the commission of a crime).
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Same in Ireland, not too sure about the UK legal situation since I don't really spend much time there anymore, but I'm still carrying / smuggling my Kubotan over to IE. There's some places you should really be prepared for the worst in Dublin. My favourite situation so far happened in a side alley of Temple Bar at night when a junkie tried to rob me, threatening me with a dirty syringe. I had my telescopic steel security baton with me and he quickly realised he'd end up in hospital or 6 feet under if he tried that shite with me. He fecked off somewhere else real quick like the devil himself was chasing him.
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As a guy I'm embarrassed that this is so necessary.
I'm so very very sorry that some men out there feel like it's okay to control someone for any reason, for any purpose, against their will.
I wish you all the best, now, and in the future.
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I'm a man, and after seeing this I'm definitely buying the door lock thingy to prevent another man (3 years old son) getting into my office yelling during another meeting.
Honestly didn't know it existed
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Huh, I'd never thought about window breakers in that context.
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A nice whack to the skull ought to do the job.
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Take the point and dig it into their skin, somewhere soft and sensitive if you can. Behind the knee, on the ankle, or foot, may limit mobility a bit. The best bet is the pain will surprise them long enough for you to break free, or as a distraction to assist a friend.
It's not super practical for defense, however. It will be best used to escape a building or vehicle. Spiderweb the windshield so they can't see, or so a cop pulls them over. Bathroom or back room with a window you can't open? Now you can.
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Yeah I'm not sure it's an entirely practical option otherwise
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Ya we need more women in construction
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I have the sudden urge to want to buy thigh high steel toe boots with built in knee pads. If such boots exist.
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You can get them at the Lumberjack store
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This kind of difference is always quite profound IMO. "Things for men" and "things for women" in almost every context is going to give different results. Doesn't matter if it's ppe or personal defense, or safety.... In almost all cases, there's going to be different results if you include gendered terms in your search.
I imagine "support" would yield a very different result when including your gender too. But like I said, far from the only examples.
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Yeah, but I don't think seeing fruit consumption by gender is going to highlight social issues.
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I will choose to believe people are out there eating their grandfathers instead of looking up what a pawpaw is.
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I can smell the fedora.
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That's not the fedora 🤢
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Haven't seen an r/whoooosh here on Lemmy yet.
r/whooooosh
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Blame seo
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And just what.. do you think this shows?
Because i am pretty sure it doesn't show what you think it does
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it shows that men, like you and me, don't have to worry about the things women do have to worry about. ie, getting your drink spiked
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Explain for the class.
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Ok, but if we redact the question to
"safety stuff commonly bought by men/women" it makes common sense now.
There is no visibility vest, helmet, hard boots, pepper spray, taser, that You will have to prove Your gender before buying! Everyone can buy them.
Ok, maybe hardwork boots be a problem, womens commonly have smaller shoe sizes, blame stores for not having small sizes.
Let's move to the questions, why bicycle helmets are less popular by women, while bikes are awesome for all gender? why visibility vest are less popular for women (do they commonly care bout fashion over safety?) why stun gun and pepper sprays are less popular by men (guess commonly, yes, commonly, not always, but still commonly men are more strong for self protection, rarely wear height heels that prevent escaping, girls, go hit gyms and boxing clubs? /s?) Also everyone should have some solid door lock protections, whatever vs burglars, or door-to-door sellers
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Genuinely curious what is the door lock thing?
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You are supposed to hook the metal half onto the doorframe where the door's latch would go, then you can use the red part to hook onto it to keep the door from opening.
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It's to physically lock hotel doors so they (again physically) can't be opened from the outside.
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What's the use case? All the hotels I stayed at needed a key card to enter (outside door handle won't work without), and some of them even allowed you to lock against that... is it to protect against staff? Abusive partners who left the room? Or are other hotels different?
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Makes sense, as after reading it I was wondering what it does that the kind of lock that can be engaged from the inside without an exterior keyhole doesn't already. So it's just for purely tool-less quick installation.
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In other words, women actually have weapons
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I had an uncle that wouldn't go walking without brass knuckles and a chain because he was scared of getting mugged.
He lived in the most upper class suburban neighborhood I've ever seen but the conservative talk shows had just poisoned his mind, he was afraid of everything.
I knew a guy who lived in rich suburbs and bought a gun because he "heard a drug deal went down" and he "wanted to protect his daughter". People are stupid and even more so when scared.
I had some and tried them on a tree. Those HURT. I dunno if I just got crappy ones but I can't see using them. FWIW armored gloves do just as much damage and don't fuck your fingers up.
there's probably a right way to use them, and several wrong ways. as with most things, it requires training. also, punching a tree is probably not a great idea.