It's like the man who only starts caring about women's rights after he has a daughter. Like, ok, I guess it's nice that you've come around, but you couldn't have exhibited basic humanity earlier? ffs you presumably had a mother, a wife/girlfriend, sister, female cousin, female friends, female coworkers so even if you require a personal connection, couldn't you have gotten there earlier?
They don't actually care about women's rights, they just want to protect their property. And of course, they're constantly lusting over young girls, so by means of projection, they assume that everyone else is too.
I used to work for a beloved cable company whose name rhymes with "bombast", and they made damned sure that our iOS apps met federal accessibility requirements. Because they faced $1 million dollar per month fines from the FCC if the apps failed accessibility testing. Otherwise they would not have given two shits about blind people.
I have not always been perfect, but by and large I keep in my what I was taught since childhood to be empathetic, kind and be helpful without asking anything in return. As I grew older, I realised that not everyone were taught the same and thus don't have the same values. That said, I realised that if I want to persuade others, I incentivise them by stoking their egos and showing how doing things could be beneficial for them.
I don't think humans are purely selfish and egocentric, and having ego is not necessarily a bad thing. We are complex creatures that can't be put into one box of category. But sometimes when ego rears its head, you kinda have to provide carrot and stick incentives to get things done.
Taking the lift when you can easily manage the stairs is a waste of energy and contributes to global toastiness.
Also, it's hard enough to get enough physical activity in, the stairs is like a free mini workout!
The kicker is that disabled infrastructure also helps you now if you aren't disabled. Ever acknowledged the existence of lowered curbs at intersections?
There's no reason not to improve our infrastructure
Just popping in to say this is also the key difference between Lawrence Kohlberg's 5th and 6th Stages of Moral Development.
What most people don't know about it is that not everyone will actually reach the 6th Stage. It's more of an opt-in. The vast majority of society functions at around the 5th (probably much lower these days).
So if you fall outside this category, you're likely far more emotionally developed and matured than the average person.
When the latter doesn't trigger the empathy, I resort to the former. Some people are just too focused on their immediate surroundings to extend their empathy beyond their immediate family. That's an issue in itself, but whatever discussion is going on in OP is not going to address that
It's like the man who only starts caring about women's rights after he has a daughter. Like, ok, I guess it's nice that you've come around, but you couldn't have exhibited basic humanity earlier? ffs you presumably had a mother, a wife/girlfriend, sister, female cousin, female friends, female coworkers so even if you require a personal connection, couldn't you have gotten there earlier?
They don't actually care about women's rights, they just want to protect their property. And of course, they're constantly lusting over young girls, so by means of projection, they assume that everyone else is too.
I know an ultra-conservative who suddenly cared about gay rights after his daughter came out. I’m sure the timing was entirely coincidental.
That's Leagues better than the alternate, at least they showed growth.
But theres a systemic selfishness about "I don't care unless it directly affects me or my loved ones".
Well, that's certainly better than remaining homophobic and disowning his daughter, which is the story we most often hear, sadly...
God forbid we have empathy for those brought up in shitty environments and learn.
It's good they they grown. But it's more of a "about fucking time" rather than "thank you for becoming less of a cunt"