As an aro/ace I'm faced with the opposite. How can I truly know that something isn't there. Though these days I've mostly accepted that I can be pretty sure after 30 years of existing. And if it turns out another wayat some point, then so be it. The label doesn't define who I am, who I am defines the label
Oof, that was me. Grew up in a homophobic society and decided I was able to make a choice (I was actually bi nb). Kept a facade going for decades fueled by self hate.