I think most cis people don’t understand their own gender that well. If you’re trans you’re kind of forced to do research about gender to find a sense of your identity. Through this research you learn a lot about what gender entails.
I don’t think a lot of cis people can even explain how they know they’re cis lol
Most cis people do understand their gender identity, I think.
The "they feel they were born in the right body" part is waaaay off, though. I was born in the cheapest body they could find in the back that would still run for a few decades. It wasn't "right" as much as briefly available and technically alive enough for the doctors to let my parents take it home with them. There are entire pieces that don't run at all, others are way out of spec, none of them look good. It's a mess in here.
as a cishet dude I also had the privilege to not worry about it that much. toxic masculinity can suck but if your family doesn't get weird about it you can just live without your gender really occupying much of your brain. I learned what I learned way later in life because it became an issue politically.
But in my personal life irl and online I have the privilege to afford to not care if I'm misgendered. weird thinking about how easily I could've been a wreck if I felt I was in the wrong body though.
you might get comments and whatnot but people get bullied for all kinds of things anyway. this is why I'm ultimately a gender abolitionist I guess, people gendering everything (toys, activities, clothes) never made sense to me.
I think the whole concept is pointless ultimately, but of course as long as we live in a gendered society I believe in people's right to be and express theirs however they like. trans rights are human rights.
Many trans people are gender abolitionists. The best way to abolish gender is to not adhere by the rules. All trans people break the rule that gender is decided at birth. Trans people fight for the freedom of choosing their own body, their own expression and their own sexuality. I my opinion that is the most gender abolitionist stance one could have.
I kinda wonder sometimes how many cis people actually are cis and just haven't had a reason to confront it. Like, I thought I was for a long time so it's not unreasonable to me that there are probably a lot more trans people than any of us think, they just don't ever discover it 🤔
I largely agree with you, however i think the more accurate thing is that no one is truly cis, no one is truly any label. We just have a tendency to force everything in the world into discrete categories, which is very annoying.
Even "biological sex" is a mess and not binary at all, so i see no real reason for the concepts of gender and sexuality to exist. All it does is limit people from being able to explore themselves and their preferences.
A comparison can be made to how no one cares what your diet is unless they're going to serve you food, why should anyone but those near a person care how they identify? Why should we have categories for sexual attraction anywhere other than on pornhub?
Cissy here!
Im fortunate to have both worked in a trans/queer therapy place and have a trans child. As such I've learned about gender and man did it open up my mind to new possibilities. I feel more complete now that I have a better understanding of myself. I'm masculine, but it certainly fluctuates towards femininity sometimes depending on my mood. Life is complicated, and the more we know about ourselves the better off we are!
Cissy
Ha, I like the pun
They are AMONG US 📮📮
SUSgender
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Uhoh. I’ve been caught 👮🚓
Where do I get this sticker and can I buy them in bulk? I want to randomly stick them to everything I see.
Maybe some with a modified spongebob "claustrophobic" joke, too
Where can I buy these in gross? There are liberal coffee shops and other rainbow washed places I need to put these up.
I would fucking love to slap these in truck stop bathrooms.
An image search says it's from here: https://www.jamielaurenkeiles.com/store/frequently-asked-questions-about-cisgender-people-sticker
But they are sold out.
Why do some people need to feel better by demonizing and putting down others?
This sticker feels more a joke at how trans people are so often spoken about, than a joke at cis people.
But to try to answer your question more materially, sometimes I, an autistic person, make jokes along the lines of "neurotypical develop intense fixations on making excessive eye contact during conversation, and often become distressed if they are unable to". That's not much of a joke, but it's enough to show what I mean. For me, part of the humour is that in reflecting the joke in a mirror, it highlights how the way that we talk about minority groups (such as autistic or trans people) is really weird and othering. This isn't a "two wrongs make a right" thing, but more like using humor as a way to question societal norms.
I think another aspect of these jokes is that they function as "ritual communication", which is communication whose purpose is to build, maintain and shape communities, rather than actually communicating things between people. That's probably a bad explanation because I'm not learned in communication studies, but basically, a big part of ritual communication is building bonds by people within the same group. So in the case of my autism joke, part of it is ritual communication that more or less says "you, my autistic friends who are the audience for this joke, are valid and valued as you are". Something that's coming to mind is the comedy trope of people saying "[bad thing], amirite?". It's not funny because there's not a joke being told, but it can still serve a social function.
