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I'm madly in love with a trans woman, and ... she asked me to give her a name
  • I hope the best for you two! I'm honestly a bit jealous as I'm kinda having to find my name on my own.

    Just try to remember to be careful. She's probably hurting a lot and needs someone who will be there for her. Try to be gentle, empathetic and communicative; things that will go a long way in helping her to feel loved and accepted.

    Edit: another user commented that there may be a significant age gap involved, which is a bit concerning.

  • Long distance
  • Bruh, I literally said I'd have a water balloon fight using waterlogged cats, and you took that seriously? I wouldn't really want toxoplasmosis inside of me, but I wouldn't actually turn a cat into a water balloon.

  • Minnesota Democrats stage boycott over ‘abuse of power’ by Republicans
  • Republicans proceeded with their agenda, disputing the quorum requirement.

    To the surprise of no one. This is likely them dipping their toes in the water to see what happens if they decide to just ignore the rules within a legislative body. Will anyone actually stop them? Will the courts care? If the answer to both is "no", then try it in a few other states and if all goes well, you know that no one will likely interfere at a federal level either.

  • What are some causes/social issues that you aren't affected by?
  • I don't have a choice. Being trans is part of my identity, whether I like it or not. It's not a diagnosis, it's a label describing who I am. The idea of having to "boy-mode" the rest of my life because I have to bend to the will of some dumbass, PoS Karen who's own family doesn't love her, just because she might get offended by who I am is extremely painful. There's a reason why suicide rates are extremely high among trans people. I cannot change who I am. I cannot cover it up forever. There will become a point at which, no matter how hard I try, it will become obvious that I'm trans.

    Don't say gay, don't act gay, don't be gay. That's what "don't say gay" is, and that's exactly what OP is advocating for. And no, it shouldn't matter if you're straight or gay, but it does matter because there are more hateful idiots out there than there are loving people.

  • What are some causes/social issues that you aren't affected by?
  • Your comment suggests you are affected by it, because you suggest that you can't be open about it.

    Furthermore, it doesn't matter if you keep it to yourself, alt-righters love doxxing LGBT people and reporting them to their workplace. I have a trans friend who's roommate was abusive, and he'd report her to her workplace as having lied on her resume. She went through several jobs as a result of trying to keep her identity a secret like you, because her roommate reporting her and getting her fired (she eventually found a job that didn't give a fuck about her being trans, told him to go fuck himself and helped her move away from him).

    Quite honestly I'm amazed this post has been left up because it's basically "don't say gay". "Just don't talk about it and it's not an issue". Yeah, it kinda is a problem if Karen gets pissed off because she saw me giving my boyfriend a smooch when he drops me off at my workplace.

  • Amazon removes 'equity for Black people' and 'LGBTQ+ rights' from company policies
  • I'm saying that's the expression they make when companies who practice rainbow capitalism suddenly turn around and abandon them.

    Edit: I've always interpreted the meme in the past as, "person surprised at something no one else is surprised about"; though I could have the wrong interpretation, heh.

  • Dio (rule)

    Dio stands on the roof of a McDonald's and pisses into the air conditioner while the Todd Moon watches.

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    Just a reminder, AI-generated files are public domain (rule).

    Afaik no one knows where the line between "human-made" and "machine-made" is, so AI-generated imagery is considered public domain (at least for now).

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    WTF is up with awful.systems?

    I recently saw a couple posts on techtakes and holy shit their members are, well, awful. Is this some kinda metajoke or running gag? Their members tend to have positive comment scores despite being massive assholes. That seems out of character for Lemmy which is why I'm confused and wondering if there's some kinda running gag I missed.

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    Private healthcare doesn't (rule)

    Leading up to his death:

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    For those of you outside of the community (and possibly wondering why the furry side of social media is on fire), Dragoneer did a hell of a lot for the furry community. FurAffinity is the largest furry art host and social network; he could have sold out and allowed AI, or made the site friendly to corporate advertising, but he didn't.

    He intentionally didn't.

    If he had, he probably would have been able to afford healthcare, but he didn't.

    He died because he wanted to keep the site in the community instead of whoring it out to corporations, resulting in him not having the money for healthcare when he needed it the most. I wish I'd been more aware of what was going on because I would have chipped in to help (if he'd allowed it).

    It makes me fucking furious that the US, the country with the highest GDP in the world by 10 TRILLION DOLLARS, still allows this to happen.

    RIP Dragoneer, we'll never forget you. Wherever you are, I hope it's filled with fur, feathers, scales and wagging tails.

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    Rule.

    Edit: I was trying to make a joke about how her new fondness for the number "34" was because "haha funny sex rule number" aka "rule34".

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    Question about federation with a certain instance after a recent ban.

    Hey, I recently received a 14-day ban from lemmy.ml for this comment:

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    While I suppose it wasn't the nicest thing I could have said, here's what bothers me. They cited rule 1 as the ban reason. Now, lemmy.ml's news community doesn't have its own rules section, so I was left to assume that they were applying the instance-wide "rule 1" which was, "no bigotry".

    No Bigotry.

    Apparently calling someone a tankie and a redfash accelerationist is bigotry? Are they seriously trying to equate being a tankie with being trans, gay, black and/or native american? Seriously? That's incredibly bigoted and offensive; and that's ignoring the fact that the common tankie idols like Stalin, Putin, Xi Jinping and Kim Jong-un are deeply intertwined with things like nationalism, ethnic superiority, queerphobia and the like.

    Meanwhile, their modlog shows that they've dealt with multiple instances of actual queerphobic bigotry by removing the comment while also letting the user go.

    Do we really want to be associated with bigots like that?

    The thing that sucks is that there are communities I genuinely enjoy on lemmy.ml, however getting banned for bigotry after calling someone a tankie and redfash accelerationist while actual bigots are allowed to keep hanging out on lemmy.ml is like a slap to the face.

    I'm honestly considering leaving Lemmy and social media at this point. It seems like my two choices are corporate-owned black-box algorithms populated by soft-spoken bigots and pissed-off centrists looking for an axe to grind, and FOSS-based federated platforms where you still have to tolerate bigotry because there apparently aren't enough users and interesting content otherwise.

    Inb4 I start getting harassed by lemmy.ml admins or something.

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    Receipts (click links for images)

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    (Community ban)

    (Instance ban)

    (No rules for lemmy.ml/c/news)

    (Rules for lemmy.ml)

    (Transphobia let off with a slap on the wrist)

    (Queerphobia let off with a slap on the wrist)

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    MFW it's dark outside and I'm hungry and kinda cold and lonely and I just wanna come in for snacks and blankets but the human doesn't let me in. (rule)

    Sauce

    Edit for people who are curious: it's not Photoshop, it's a troodontid mask made by Archesuchus for their "Weird Birds" series. Here's what it looks like under normal lighting conditions.

    Not gonna lie, I really, really want one. But fursuit heads are expensive (I'm assuming the cost would be similar since that's basically what it is) and I don't have the skill or tools to make one myself. :c

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    Rule of the lake

    Description: A giant snake lady sits in a lake. A man stands next to the edge of the lake and asks, "O snake of the lake, what is your wisdom?"

    The snake replies, "Osamu Tezuka, the inventory of manga and anime, created old-school furry icons like Kimba and Bagi and had a secret collection of erotic furry art that he made which was only found after his death; so weebs are really just a human-focused offshoot of furries.

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    InitialsDiceBearhttps://github.com/dicebear/dicebearhttps://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/„Initials” (https://github.com/dicebear/dicebear) by „DiceBear”, licensed under „CC0 1.0” (https://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/)MO
    Mossy Feathers (She/They) @pawb.social

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