In the past week, 100% of married women/women in relationships I've met play FPSes.

With this extremely limited sample size, we can only conclude that single women do not play FPSes. If that girl is playing Balatro, assume you have a chance.

That's the norm anymore. I admittedly hung out in a group of nerds, but all the women my age I knew were serious gamers.

So the next question: did they find a partner because they played FPSes or did they start playing because they are married. Which one is the cause and which the consequence?

Married woman here: been replaying the borderlands series

Shit. I just realized my gamer wife didn't fit this. She's been playing Valheim. I'm giving bad data.

I've been married for about 16 years now and it took a very long time to get my wife into FPS games. Even still, she generally won't play unless me or one of our friends is also playing with her. She mostly prefers mobile games that give her something distracting to do.

Her first FPS game was Deep Rock Galactic. She was terrible with the first person view initially, but over the last few years, she's gotten pretty used to it and she's pretty good now.

My sister (who is engaged) grew up playing CoD with me. Add her to the list lol

I've never met a woman into videogames except phones

Women usually prefer RPGs according to some paper I read years ago. Even dominate those games with more than 50% of players.

They have huge guilds of only women in MMORPGs since playing with men usually leads to cringe attempts at flirting.

I got my wife to like a video game in the past weeks. She likes the idea of playing, but always get frustrated and just quit. The only game we used to play together was Peggel, and I got Peglin and she became obsessed with it.

I guess technically Fallout 4 is a fps, but I'd be inclined to say it doesn't count. I loved that game but I would never play any of the others listed.

Either she played FPSs before meeting her partner or she started after meeting her partner. If after, I would wager that the husband/other party in the relationship also plays FPSs, and I'm going to make that assumption while I stand on my soapbox here.

A healthy relationship involves both parties making an effort to learn, understand, and attempt participation in the other's interests.

I can't find statistics on what percent of all women play FPSs, but most people would concur that a random women you meet is less likely to play FPSs than a random man you meet. Perhaps they are in a relationship because they shared a common interest before meeting, but perhaps they share a common interest because they are in a relationship. So let's talk about the more likely scenario for the women you mentioned: she took interest in FPSs because of her relationship. This seems to be echoed by anecdotes in some other comments.

Gender norms have created some imbalance in this regard, where the wife is more likely to make a considerable effort to take interest in their husband's hobbies.

In the classic troupe, the wife goes from being uninterested in football to learning about and watching football with her husband. If she didn't, she would miss out on spending time with her husband since watching football consumes a lot of their mutual free time. However, this effort is not always reciprocated, leading the wife to give up on her hobbies in order to prioritize time spent together.

If you want to be investigative, ask the husbands which of their wife's hobbies they've taken up. If it's a strong relationship, I would suspect they have equally invested into the relationship.