100% feel that. When I lived in the city I had other college aged adults living around me and most of the weekend I couldn't ever get a good night's sleep with them blasting the stereo until like 3am.
But I hate both nature and other people. Were it up to me, the whole of the world would be a closely manicured golf course and the only animals would be in processing centers.
Also, imagine if you twisted your ankle, have a really bad stomach ache, or have a disability, or in a snowstorm, and had to walk all the way across the island to and from your errands. Density equals accessibility as well as less time spent going to where you want to go and more time being at where you want to be at.
I’d prefer to own a house and get equity out of an investment, paying rent is throwing money into a black hole. At least I’ll see some of that money again when selling the house.
You can buy condos though? The current problem in my area is there are TONS of (empty) luxury apartments going up, but for every 50 rental units only one is only one unit for sale.
But yeah I have a friend in downtown Twin Cities MN who owns his condo. Mortgage is like $2.5k and that includes utilities except for the Internet. I think he's made around $75k in equity already.
Apartments also seem nice since it would mean being surrounded by people and more chances of doing stuff with them and having fun instead of being alone and isolated.
i think that reactionary suburb brain is almost a kind of stockholm syndrome. literally, for all of history the overwhelming majority of people have always congregated in walkable units.
suburbs were created as a corporate racist policy a vast number of people simply had the most access to, not because there was a fair and weighed decision on everyone's part. and following that it's sunk cost & aversion to change. like literally all the nascent suburbanites came from apartments, tenements, and public projects, there wasn't some groundswell of people demanding, against every civilizational instinct to spread themselves out in isolation that corporate demands "met", it's that the availability of newly-built properties the tenant would eventually own shifted almost entirely to suburban development---and lets not forget that early suburbs were much, much better served before neoliberalism began cannibalizing it, you couldn't very well get all the whites out of the city & into food deserts, they provided all the amenities and created all these suburban municipalities so suburbanites could pretend they still lived in cities, simply with more privacy, segregation, and automobiles.
tldr, if corporate greed hadn't created suburban sprawl as a product, we wouldn't even have people defending it, but they also created a constituency of people whose only capital is tied up in the suburban ponzi scheme who are now vociferous defenders of it
That's OK, we have several one-apartment-building islands to choose from, such as the forest island (pictured here), beach island, temperate rainforest island, rainforest island, prairie island, taiga island, and tundra island.