Dying together: Why a happily married couple decided to stop living
Dying together: Why a happily married couple decided to stop living
Jan and Els sought medical intervention to end their lives after 50 happy years of marriage.
My parents are reaching the same point, only with positions swapped - my father with dementia, my mother in incessant hip and other pain that has no cure. They are both researching options, frustrated that the Canadian MAID program offers neither a dementia option nor a couples option.
And as their eldest, it is my duty of care to implement whatever choice they make. They took care of me in the beginning, I take care of them at the end. And choice is the most powerful gift I could possibly help them retain.
If your life is not your own, to do with as you please, then you are a slave. I'm happy for this couple, they seem like exactly the kind of people who get the most benefit out of this choice.
Yeah? Who owned their life then?
Fuck off with these bullshit platitudes.
Everyone else do what makes u happy. Even if it's dying.
You've come out very aggressive. How do you interpret their comment?
For me, the comment was saying that their lives had become ruled by pain (in Ils case) and Jan's impending dementia. Under these circumstances, it was the kindest thing to both of them to allow them to die.
I don't see that as bullshit platitudes?
I read an interesting memoir about a couple who survived the holocaust together deciding to die together in the end. Written by their granddaughter.
That is wild that they survived together. That is unheard of
They were hungarian jews and got separated during the war. If I remember right, the husband survived Mauthausen.
But 'unheard of' is quite exaggerated. While many people were left without surviving family, there were still many who found parts of their family and partners again after the war.