This is the truth. Focus on yourself for now. Learn things, get good at stuff, advance your career, understand different perspectives, cook and eat healthy food that tastes good. Be somebody you really want to spend time with. A significant chunk of this is just you being confident and comfortable in who you are. Then people (including women) will be interested in spending time with you.
It helps to not be broke or ugly, but dressing well and washing yourself and smelling pleasant can get you pretty far.
Turns out you kind of have to meet girls for this to have a chance to happen, and what with the global loneliness epidemic and lack of places and reasons to meet new people, that ain't happening.
The fucking worst people to talk to about romance are people that found their "soul mate" with little to no effort on their part. They're so convinced that its the easiest thing in the world to just go out and find the one because they never felt rejection more than once or twice.
No John, the dating app you used to meet your wife doesn't work anymore, its designed specifically to make us spend money forever.