This is also how you handle psych patients ...and psychiatric workers ...and Healthcare administrators. I started getting much better work reviews when I started treating my boss how I treat my patients. It turns out just fundamentally expecting pretty much everyone to behave wildly irrationally with no warning is shockingly accurate.
Arousal cycles (The mental health kind, not the sex kind) are absolutely useful info to use, not just on low functioning individuals, but on everyone to a degree (ONCE AGAIN, NOT THE SEX KIND)
That reminds me. I ordered Uber eats and the driver, a black girl, drives up and it's hysterical. She's telling me how her last delivery was a racist PoS, threatened cops on her, and she's so sorry about my order but angry about the situation. I'm just standing there hungry for my food.
We sat on the porch and I let her calm down, then I dont know why, but I asked if she wanted a hug. She was taken back but she agreed, and it was a super weird hug. But she felt better I think. I dunno.
Sometimes it’s just as simple as changing your perspective a little.
My uncle has pretty bad anger issues. Almost every workday he’d have to drive downtown, usually when the traffic was the worst (and he hated downtown driving to begin with), and he’d get super stressed and rage about it. He’d try to make it so he didn’t have to go downtown, but almost without fail something would come up and he’d be stuck doing it.
He told me he realized it wasn’t healthy, so he tried fixing it by changing it from thinking of it as ‘goddamnit I have to drive downtown again after I tried so hard not to!’ to ‘oh well, have to do my daily downtown trip’. And then when he occasionally didn’t have to go downtown, it became sort of an extra bonus treat.
He was amazed at how much anger he lost, just with a small change in thinking.
The best way I've found to deal with deep dark rage without collapsing into a broken ghost is to focus on gratitude. Thinking on your blessings can be the antidote to the poison of anger.
I know fixing that is quite complex but my friend started kick boxing and it really helped her. Sometimes it helps to simply let the negative energy out so it doesn’t eat you alive and then you can see more solutions with a clear head
WAAAAY better than the fantasies I see posted of revenge for someone’s behavior. It’s possible to be the bigger person and still not tolerate bad behavior.
Depends on where you're eating honestly. Some places call long flat fries home fries and other places call just like cubed fried potatoes home fries. Basically any fried potatoe shape that's not shoestring French fries might be called "home fries".