SuperEars @ SuperEars @lemmy.world

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FWIW I took it to be a response to OP rather than you. Perhaps they felt their comment was a continuation of yours so they replied to yours. Idk

They got back to me. Paraphrasing below:

They're experienced with guiding people through transitions/HRT so I defer to their expertise.

They tell me that it's unfortunately common for there to be "doomers" online who gain a small sense of relief via feeling like they can control their situation by describing it as futile. They say "those people need to help themselves first; there's no way our resources would help until a foundation of commitment to self betterment is present."

They said one could be guided to resources online without that self help commitment, but their tone sounded like they thought a random internet commentor is unlikely to get much value out of said resources.

I'd guess reflecting on your situation (independent of the comments we see here) might help you estimate your own readiness to pursue help.

A first or preliminary step may be to begin talk therapy with a professional. That may be a good way to get pointed to the right resources for any next steps.

It didn't occur to me earlier, but your location would affect what specific options are available to you. My contact works in the Ohio River Valley area of the US but I didn't consider that you might be outside of the US or in some place where resources just don't exist.

Idk if any of this helps. I probably committed some SJW trope and ignorantly thought the answers were gonna be more black and white.

Regardless of whether you find the kind of happiness OP did, you deserve that happiness just as much as anyone.

I love hot dogs' place in our culture.

I'll spare the details but I just had a weekend with a magical group of trans allies. If we could teleport, you'd have 16 people appear in your bedroom to crowdsurf you through getting showered and dressed and on your way to a happier place.

I've hit up one of my new friends to see what info I can relay to someone in your situation. I'll follow up when I hear back.

u/Bennyboybumberchums says

And yet, you and every other social media user in the world, still chooses to use them to get worthless internet points. You may think your message is positive...

u/Bennyboybumberchums is a troll attempting to drive a wedge between the trans community and their potential future allies. It certainly as fuck won't change anything for current allies.

OP I'm sure you know that but I say so in this chain in anticipation of the troll being led out.

In the voice of the cat from Babe

He's gonna take Chicago's chili dogs by any means necessary

"How do I parallel park a car?"

AI Overview: "git gud"

It became a true moral thing, by letting him just say all of this, I felt like I was saying it was okay.

A thousand times, yes.

"Dishonest Harmony" is a term I've never heard but wow it is perfect.

I'm... lucky?... that my dad was a shitbag for other reasons. He was already on thin ice prior to 2016. My mom "isn't interested in politics" but even that's feeling unforgivable for me nowadays.

My parents have gone from seeing their 2 grandchildren biweekly, to me limiting visits with their 3 grandchildren to 3-4 times a year. Even those times are intentionally with my dad absent, and are only at extended family gatherings.

Fuck. Them. Both.

I wanna ask - for you, has it always seemed like that over the course of 10 years?

I was on social media for what would've been 20 years, and I feel like it was 10 years ago that enshittification passed a tipping point.

When I want movies I wanna see (Death) Starz

I concur. I think it is telling that he didn't choose to just stonewall the reporter with "No further comment." He has a malevolent drive to push that narrative

I think the "You can look" paragraph uses the Skyrim vanilla font. (Crab....mudcrab.... maybe that's the point)

I feel like he could capitalize on a Random Acts of Steak forum. And so could we, eventually.

I can't meet whatever threshold of proof, but there's no way "Driving any slower than the speed limit is just as dangerous" ISN'T what the raging lunatics on the road tell themselves when weaving thru traffic before they comment the same thing on posts like these.

It's such a common brain blind spot. Videos of lunatics flipping their own cars trying to pass someone will have comments blaming the other car.

It's just one song, but in Only Murders in the Building, Steve Martin sings Which of the Pickwick Triplets Did It?