I always get mixed up in these posts where MtF or FtM aren't specified lol. First read-through I thought the op had a MtF child, and the person buying the dress was being a dickhead.
Easy guide is just follow the first pronoun used. Unless it's from a douchebag, anyway
For whatever reason my brain always defaults to the well-intentioned parent that mistakenly refers to their child as "son" or "daughter" despite having transitioned to the other. I think it's because it's relatively recent that a parent would just say "my son" instead of "my transgender son" or "my daughter that goes by x", so when I see "my son" I assume they slipped.
And therein lies the issue. I see old man PFP, “Sunday school” mentioned; “former”? Did you reform yourself or change churches? LDS? Oh boy, here we go
So starting from the first pronoun lead me to assume wrong since I assumed the tweet was from a douchebag.
But now I get it and I’m much happier
Ii get confused listening to podcast a story of a trans person. It can get really confusing between pretransition and post or when talking about stuff. Authors handle it differently still be like
“Then they taunted with him with ‘ugly mike!’ But Rebecca knew she would prove them wrong the following year”
Luckily every trans person I’ve met in real life is happy if you just put in the effort to try. I’ve never been yelled at for a mistake just kindly corrected and I apologize. Very civil.
I feel like we need a different pronoun, “they” makes a story confusing very quickly.
typically the pronouns used will be the one they are going with at the time of writing/event being described.
Yeah I read it wrong at first and thought they were misgendering him. 😅
I am not mtf but I wore a dress to my second prom. Was kind of a middle finger to gender norms in my punk era.
Aww! That's so adorable! Prom dresses are super short lived unfortunately but it might be nice to get one for myself for a queer prom
I always get mixed up in these posts where MtF or FtM aren't specified lol. First read-through I thought the op had a MtF child, and the person buying the dress was being a dickhead.
Easy guide is just follow the first pronoun used. Unless it's from a douchebag, anyway
For whatever reason my brain always defaults to the well-intentioned parent that mistakenly refers to their child as "son" or "daughter" despite having transitioned to the other. I think it's because it's relatively recent that a parent would just say "my son" instead of "my transgender son" or "my daughter that goes by x", so when I see "my son" I assume they slipped.
And therein lies the issue. I see old man PFP, “Sunday school” mentioned; “former”? Did you reform yourself or change churches? LDS? Oh boy, here we go
So starting from the first pronoun lead me to assume wrong since I assumed the tweet was from a douchebag.
But now I get it and I’m much happier
Ii get confused listening to podcast a story of a trans person. It can get really confusing between pretransition and post or when talking about stuff. Authors handle it differently still be like
“Then they taunted with him with ‘ugly mike!’ But Rebecca knew she would prove them wrong the following year”
Luckily every trans person I’ve met in real life is happy if you just put in the effort to try. I’ve never been yelled at for a mistake just kindly corrected and I apologize. Very civil.
I feel like we need a different pronoun, “they” makes a story confusing very quickly.
typically the pronouns used will be the one they are going with at the time of writing/event being described.
Yeah I read it wrong at first and thought they were misgendering him. 😅
I am not mtf but I wore a dress to my second prom. Was kind of a middle finger to gender norms in my punk era.