Discussion Thread 🍩 Friday 26 September 2025
Discussion Thread 🍩 Friday 26 September 2025
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Me: Gibson get off the counter
Gibson: “gets on the counter even more”
Me: Alright then. “aggressively crinkles plastic bag”
Gibson: “breaks the world land speed record”.
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lazy morning, plenty of time for me to get to know my new cheapie smart watch and make mango chicken later 😋
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The fitness watch has done a great job today. I've completed 8,249 steps and 2 workouts. Noticed when I put on my jacket that it fits a little looser around the waistline 😀 Made my mango chicken curry, took the kids for a walk and behaved myself with snacking and drinking water. Gotta be good because tomorrow I will be more indulgent with snacks. Balance ⚖️ I have to be so careful, I feel like if I even have a piece of cake it goes straight to my waistline. Genetics does me no favours (both my parents were morbidly obese at one stage).
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Walked the niece to school by myself. She was so well behaved compared to when mum walked her 😂
She was so happy to show her aunty off 😂
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I'm practising staying up past grandpa hours so I can go out this weekend.
Goodnight all ❤️
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Oh she's so pretty
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Mmm i gotta get up and clean out an ancient gap between a concrete slab and a foundation wall so i can put fresh goop in it. Can't get up tho, fat cat sitting on me. So sad.
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I really with that excuse would fly with work. Sorry, can't come in the cat's sleeping on top of me. I guess I'd need a lot more sick leave if that did work, though.
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I forgot to pack my avocado in my work lunch bag. I think this means I have to make guacamole and have tacos for dinner.
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Damn. What a disappointment.
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I also have the difficult decision of whether to have the beef chilli or pulled pork on them.
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Early morning hike, lunch, nap, some telly, settling in with a lovely glass of whiskey on this fine spring evening.
Things feel good right.
Except for my legs, hips, lower back, left shoulder, bit of the neck and abs.
But apart from that....Aces.
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Gave the doggo a huge run on the beach this morning. Was time for his evening walk earlier. Took me a while to find him.. . ::: spoiler spoiler
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No walk just sleep.
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Going up to Albury this weekend to see my grandfather. He's moved into an aged care facility there and apparently he's doing better than ever, so this will be our first time seeing his new place
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You guyz are the absolute best. Thank you for being you. I learn so much from this community and I greatly appreciate all of the lessons and warnings and everything inbetween.
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I’ve done it now… I’ve been keeping a distance from the black cat to not get attached but I’ve caved and given him some pats. (I’ve washed my hands and changed clothes after to protect Melbcat’s health.)
And then realised that while his fur is healthy looking, he’s a bit thinner than I realised, and some of his vertebrae in his upper back stuck out in a way that felt weird under my fingers. Is he injured? Underweight?
But I can’t start feeding him or take him to the vet. I really don’t think I can take on responsibility for another cat (especially when they hate each other), even him approaching the door stresses the hell out of Melbcat and her immune system isn’t great. I may not be able to catch him to take him directly to the vet, and he may belong to a shitty neighbour that might try to go after my cat in retribution.
I can’t even give him the unwanted cat food outside as he will start to rely on it and think he lives here. Even making a bed for him would be messed with and/or I’d be forced to remove it when I left.
He’s a friendly boy. I hope someone is looking after him 😭
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Turns out I wasn’t holding the drum sticks properly….
This is why it pays to watch tutorial videos lol
Not much happening tonight just games and music as per usual. Looking forward to tomorrow night!
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Hahaha it's funny how I see this view almost every day and take it for granted. Welcome to Perth. 😃
Don't get too used to our weather, it might make you cross when you get back to Melbourne.
Try also not to think about how that train is doing the equivalent of Southern Cross to Geelong in a similar time for $5.
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I’ve sent photos of Melbcat’s nose to the specialist, asked for refills on her meds, and ordered more wet food.
Anxiety is going nuts worse than usual :(
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8/10 too much football
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6/10
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8/10
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6/10
A few wild guesses in there that didn't work out
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8/10
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Also 8/10
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7!
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Whatever this Ee-oore!! bird is, it's lucky I don't own a crossbow
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Pooh :(
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Bother
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Beep Beep 🚚
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Will CLR get year old beernami stains out of a cement floor? Taking all bets, trying it tomorrow!
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Probably not. Beer/mash has a lot of organics in it, and CLR is wonderful for removing stains due to non-organics but doesn't do so well with organics. Maybe oxygen laundry booster or washing soda would work better? Patch test essential.
EDIT: CLR is high risk of damaging the cement floor unless it's been thoroughly sealed with something non-reactive. Lots of micropitting which you probably don't want near the beer cos microbiology. Could wax lyrical about concrete/cement floors - used to work in the industry. Unless sealed, cement floors are VERY reactive to a lot of chemicals and stain/degrade very quickly. The worst is fats & oil contamination - does horrible things to concrete and very difficult to remove without damage. And beer is full of lipids, which crosslink easily with calcium carbonate.
You may be looking at grinding back and re-finishing the floor - I hope not but it depends a bit on what stage the beer was at when the beernami happened.
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OK... this bootleg Dyson battery was a great purchase. There's no way it's the claimed 4x battery capacity of a brand new authentic battery (I think physics imposes a hard limit) but it's definitely way better than the one I replaced.
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This wind is interfering with my drinking session 😡
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🌀🌬️🍷🍻🍻🍺🍃🍸🍹🍻🍺
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I'm watching chitty chitty bang bang
Einstein needs to call the RSPCA
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I think I’ve done something to my back -_-
First when I lifted stuff to clean. And then when I lifted Melbcat’s carrier out of a coupe. (The lack of rear doors and low car made it impossible to have proper lifting technique - I had to lean in hunched over around a front seat that didn’t push forward the whole way and then lift still curled like a shrimp.) Then today I carried books.
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You are doing such an amazing job but please remember to look after yourself!
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I’m trying. Life is just a bit of an arse at the moment
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Came down the beach on wed. for a break. P's coming down today and I'm dreading it. Got a bit tense when I was leaving. Got into an argument w/ ol' boy about ol' girl, eating and how I need more help to keep weight stable. Basically turns into only me shopping, cooking (3 different things ugh) and turning the pressure up for her to eat more.
Got a call this morning from ol' girl who was almost in tears. Took 3 days to go from 44.5kg to 41.5kg today. i've been able to keep it around 44-45 but the stress and strain on relationships to keep it there is becoming too much. When i leave it just plummets.
All I was asking was for ol' boy to take more of an interest in calories otherwise we end up w/ exactly what happened here (again). He's a useless cunt.
So I'm not quite sure what to do. It's not as easy as saying get a dietician (has 2, they didn't change anything I was trying to do), put her in for a bit of convalescence (that convo didn't go well), or even get some in-house care (didn't go down well either).
So now I have to try and swing it around (again). That means nagging her to eat more, only thing that's 'working' atm, which is getting old.
The only thing that'll help now is less refusal from ol' girl, and more of an interest in keeping the diet chugging along from ol' boy.
That has to come from them.
/rant.
So he won't cook for his wife, who is wasting away, because why? It's women work?
If he's a traditional man who adheres to gender roles, then I would tell him "a man's work is doing what needs to be done". And he isn't doing what needs to be done.
I'm sorry you're suffering this as well. Managing all this by yourself with no help from your siblings is so fucking awful. I'm so sorry BR.
I'm curious to know what he's eating?
For him generally on rotation is steak w/ veg etc, pastas, curries, stir fries etc. Not that hard to do, nothing new there. Problem is dude refuses to cook which would really help out. Ol' girl is pretty much strictly soup. trying to find variations when everything is so limited (no spices, everything pureed) takes time. By the end of it I just can't be fucked. When I hear 'what's for dinner' from ol' boy I die a little inside. Totally robbed any joy from cooking.
Last 2 nights dins was genuinely excited for just a snag in bread lol.
You've been doing an absolutely incredible job keeping her well. But it does take a toll when it all falls to you. Convalescence/Respite doesn't work for a lot of people, they see it as a threat to their independence so become more withdrawn. In my humble experience home based support (although some are reluctant for that too) works a little bit more because 'normal' people will lift their game when someone is coming into their home. And I don't mean that your mum is not normal, I mean that most of the people I nurse in the community are not normal and they are happy for me to see them warts and all, and normal people will put in some effort because someone is looking in. Take some big deep breaths, tackle a big pruning job that will recover and sit under your weeping cherry to watch the petals rain down.
Yep that's my guess what would happen here.
And thank you kindly again for sharing your experience being in the field.
I was hoping she would be more receptive to some home based care so we'll try w/ that again.
Oh man. Look this might be a bit scary for mum, but would she consider a temporary nasal tube to help her with nutrition? You can run an automatic pump for a slow drip so she doesn’t have to worry about mouth pain or remembering to sip.
I get the sense that she’s not a fan of sweets but Ensure does come in a neutral flavour that could be mixed into coffee or soups. MCT oil is basically a medium chain coconut oil that may help with weight gain (but may have uncomfortable or embarrassing side effects, I haven’t tried it).
She may need a review on her mouth pain, a check on why it’s not resolving and if it can be managed.
I’m so sorry that everything is falling on your shoulders and your old man won’t step up. I wonder if perhaps there could be a home carer to assist with the soup and reminding her to eat. (Or to make it with her if she insists on cooking.)
Edit: Also cooked pasta is fantastic for bulking, soft, and very blendable. Goes well with creamy fatty stuff.Edit 2: Also for variety without spice don’t overlook a very slight sourness or acid (if her mouth pain won’t be inflamed by tiny amounts of lemon juice or vinegar or plain Greek yogurt, and it wouldn’t curdle her soup).Tiny amounts of lemon zest, caramelised onion (can be bought premade in a jar at Woolies), and nutmeg in a savoury dish are all other options depending on type of soup.Fat is both a great flavour amplifier and a dense source of calories so consider bacon fat or duck fat. These can go into a roux that can thicken the soup.Gravy based blended meat stews may also provide some variety to the creamy or cheesy ones.(Sorry, I feel like these tips are adding complications to an obligation that’s already wearing you out)
On very tired days you/she/home help can also buy store bought cans of chunky soups to thin with a can of water, heat up and blend. Campbells is legit.
Have to thank you for suggesting the neutral ensure a while back. I think there'd be bigger problems without it. Life saver really.
Mouth is one of the bigger problems. She's been in to see a lot of specialists over the years for that. Unfortunately that ones tough.
been putting animal fats in but didn't think of duck fat. Will try that!
This sounds a like a lot for you to handle.
Too much. I find often caring duties so often tend to get pushed onto one single person and stubbornly stay that way. It’s a recipe for burnout.
I’m sorry you and your family are having such a hard time. It sounds like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place, and the help has to come from your old man.
It’s a tough situation and I hope things get better soon mate ❤️