What screams "this couple won't last"
What screams "this couple won't last"
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Couple tattoos.
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When they keep posting on social media about their relationship
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Oh that's a good one. "I lurrrvvee my wonderful half! Here are photos of us being joyful!"
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One lies to the other because they want some time alone.
What shreds the relationship isn't even the lie itself, but what motivates it - either one side is unable to set up boundaries, or the other is consistently violating them. (Or both.)
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When one constantly responds for the other whenever they are asked something. Especially when its personal questions that they have no business responding to.
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He/she lives for the other, and the other lives only for himself/herself.
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This seems like the right answer. 😄
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When they think the other must but faultless/flawless.
My spouse and I have been together for almost 30 years and counting. And neither of us are perfect, nor saint. I even less.
What screams 'this couple could last' to us is when we see people using the same method we use to face issues. Discussing the issues as quickly it arises instead of blaming and being judgmental. And that can include cheating.
In short it's keeping in mind we both can be (and probably are more often than we think) assholes or absolute morons. And that shit can happen n,o matter how hard we try.
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I don't know. My husband and I have been together for 20+ years. I feel that judging other people makes us appreciate that we're not awful. We're weird but on a way we both like. So many people are just not good people. If you like each other and can have fun with each others friends and family, youre on a good start. If you can enjoy them without.ylir SO company, you're among your people..of it's better because they are therz well then everything is.
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When they are adult children
"I do [negative thing] because they do [negative thing]"
"[Person] started it"
"I do more than they do" or "I dont do it as much as they do"
When they always think they are each right, and instead of negotiating, they just yell the equivalent of "Im right!" a little louder over the other.
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When the thing keeping them together is something external, for example they're the only 2 gay people in the area.
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Another external factor I've seen as an albatross is being together because of finances or insurance.
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One of my friends in college was dating this insufferable girl, nobody in our friend group liked her, she would suck the soul out of any room she entered, and she just followed this guy everywhere and would be miserable. Like, he was in a band, and she hated the type of music they played, but she would still go to every concert and sit and sulk and complain. I never knew if it was him forcing her to go places/hang out with us, or her jealously smothering him in hopes he would leave the friend group so she could have more of his time, or what... We asked him why he was staying with her, and he just said "She has nice tits".
Right after we all graduated college, they got married. We asked him why they were getting married, and he said, and I quote: "It just makes sense from a financial standpoint". Bro no.
I went to his wedding, and it was a miserable affair, and then I never saw him or talked to him again.
I actually stumbled into him a couple months back, it's been ~10 years since I last talked to him. He's still with this woman, and now they have a child. I have no additional details. Somethingmust be working, but who knows...
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Also kids.
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TIL the word 'albatross' has more than one meaning!
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Any couple that think a relationship require no work.
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To be fair, a good relationship (in my opinion) requires little work to maintain: making sure you are happy, as well as your companion. In most cases this wont feel like work at all. If a relationship requires a ton of effort, and its causing strain, it should be re-evaluated.
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The 'work' is usually internal, and the less your parents/circumstances gave you the more work you'll have to do by yourself to get to where you were always supposed to be. An adult who was brought up in an abusive household and isn't existential/bright has to do more work than one that was raised similarly but is more gifted, and the latter has to do more work than one that is gifted but was brought up in a peaceful, loving environment, and so on. 👍
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Talking to everybody about their problem instead of working through it with their partner.
Don't get me wrong: having a close friend you can confide in and talk it out with can be healthy, it can help you figure out how to approach the talk. But if you're left feeling like you can't talk to your partner at all, maybe you should ask yourself why?