Another Tea meme

I don't like this app. I don't like the idea of this app. I think the whole thing was misguided.

But let me tell you of a time when I was younger and more festively slutty, I had a few encounters that might have made me a user. Not all men, no, but after the third time a dude threatens to rape you in a park, you start to wonder if you could be doing more to protect yourself.

Remember, ladies, these days you can print your own handguns and make them look like whatever you want.

I'd suggest just buying a small frame pistol. Printing your own and making it work reliably takes a level of know-how and effort.
- I'd suggest 3D printing for affordability and because shooting and maintaining a gun already takes a level of know-how and effort.
- Luckily everyone everywhere in the world has the opportunity to buy guns and munition at their nearest supermarket.
Holy crap, I never thought about that. That's a whole different take on an assassin's teapot.
- I forgot about poison. Everyone should know it's super easy to make poison. Toad venom is so big right now I bet that's easy to get, too.
I’m going to use “festively slutty” in my introductions from now on

people uploading puctures of others without their permission getting mad that their pic was uploaded without their permission.

but like, identification like drivers licenses is too far imo.

Current Status: Finding Out.
To each other. For safety. On the premise that not all men are creepy rapey shit heads, most of that is done by just a few predatory assholes, and you can just cut out the bad ones.
Which, lol.
Edit: next time you want a woman to not assume you're a creep, ask how she'd know. This isn't the solution id choose, but it was a solution. Ask if you're really worth rolling a 6 sided dice every time youre alone with a guy, abd on a 2 or a 3 being treated so disgustingly you need a shower, on a 1 being raped or murdered. I'm sorry, but you aren't worth that.
- How else would someone know you are a creep? the only way is to doxx them. Its the only way, there is no other way.
IIRC it's the app they uploaded the pictures to that had them publicly accessible
- Not even an app, it is/was a storage service in Google Cloud that was set up to be public without authentication or without any other security features enabled.

I think it would be great to have an app that warns women about dangerous men. I don't think it's possible for that to exist though, it will ALWAYS be filled up by bitter people making things up so their ex has a harder time dating.

and in facebook groups you had women ratting each other out to those men. Men pretending to women to get dirt.

This was all new to me a few moments ago. After some reading, I found an interesting article:

https://www.elle.com/life-love/sex-relationships/a37288143/0168-0169-the-femcel-revolution-september-2021/

Sorry if it doesn't quite fit the sub or the meme. I just found it helpful and at least tangentially relevant to a broader understanding of these phenomena.

How is it always 4chan. Is the anime shit posting board really where peak tech literate internet users congregate.

No, it's one of the few clearnet sites that still allow anonymous posts without email or anything. Just CAPTCHA. Everything is deleted after a while, so moderation is barely necessary. Many search engines don't even index it. It's a quick way of reporting something interesting anonymously.
- so moderation is barely necessary
  Heh, no. If the mods took a break for a day the site would be overrun with illegal shit by noon.
- Fuck their CAPTCHA by the way. Entire reason I never stayed in the internet's basement.
You don't need to be a peak tech literate person to have been able to accomplish this.
The level of neglect of security that was involved when creating that app should really be criminal. Door was left wide open for anyone to walk in a take a peek
- You'd have to be in the top percentile. There's definitely less than 1% of the population scouring open cloud dumps for cool little treasures. I'm pretty sure less than 1% of people would even know where to begin doing something like that. Part of the issue of Lemmy is that I think people frequently grossly overestimate the tech literacy of the average person.
- yeah, this is neglect bordering on incompetence. at the very least Tea should be suing the fuck out of their half assed vendors.
Different boards on the site have different people. Some boards are somewhat maladjusted nerds with poor social skills like /tg/ others are more technical and home to the unhinged users
- And some are full of crazy people. Don't forget the crazy people

It sucks that personal data is exploited and accessed, but a great thing it was discovered and called out. I wish it was disclosed responsibly though

Tbh, if you use the dox 3000 app, you have to expect them not valuing your privacy.
- "But I thought I was the one doing the doxxing!"

Slightly different motivations in play. For a start, how can they be femcels if the whole premise of the app is to screen men for the purposes of safe dating? Secondly, screening men so you don't get abused is not even in the same country, let alone ballpark, as doxxing people on 4chan because you're an antifeminist incel, an actual incel, who wants to score points with other worthless societal lip crust.

Was it a perfect app and did everyone on it comport themselves impeccably? Of course not, but you'd be an obtuse bad faith dickhead to demand otherwise. It's just the case that these are the kinds of lengths women have to go to to protect themselves.

And let's be clear, men do the same shit. Men talk about their bad dates with psycho women and warn each other about them, and they share nudes and other private stuff that the women didn't intend to be shared amongst the man's friend group. We don't need an app with photographic evidence and licence plates and addresses because the abuse men face is usually not being raped or beaten to a pulp. But if you're a pickup artist or a virulent incel, you'll probably have a database of women you've compiled for reasons other than your own safety. Stop pretending that the stresses of relationships that men and women face are equivalent.

That app is an emergent property of decades of men's grotesque behaviour. Technology has now put some power into the hands of women so that they can quickly and efficiently share info with each other, and you expect them to wave away that power and just let RNG dictate whether they have a normal date or a survival horror video game.

Fuck 4chan, fuck incels, the end.

I'm gonna make up a bunch of stuff from anecdotes and pre conceived opinions
- People like you are exactly the reason why someone thought to make this app, if you ever went out of your parents basement.
Don't bother. Lemmy is one of the most sexists sites on the Internet. Legitimately up there with 4chan.
- Not yet but not for a lack of effort from some of these dorks.
  Wonder why they're also typically defensive about their 4chan usage?

tea users don’t want men to access their data but tea admins did nothing to stop it
It’s also bordering on cyberstalking/cyberbullying, depending on the context. Following a few suicides, some areas have pretty strict laws about that kind of stuff. It’s also a massive GDPR problem if any European guys were listed on the app, but couldn’t access it to remove their own data.

Its the working class vs the 1%, not gender vs gender.

what happened?

- Some of these women were using it to slander individual men, therefore all the women using it to warm other women about rapists and abusers are awful and just as bad as 4chan incels.
- So, the usual?

i love femcels, they just dont love me