If they wanted me to follow some rules that I'm apparently expected to know to make everyone comfortable, maybe they should've taught me that in school instead of trigonometry -_-
I used to think like this but let's be honest, it's not a fair shake. Social services should be somewhat capable of making up for poor, abusive, or absent parenting. School being the one social service children are practically guaranteed to interact with, it seems like a fair approach.
Maybe additionally, trigonometry is actually pretty useful. Learning capacity isn't that limited, it's motivation and attention that's constantly out of stock.
My most common sin is inadvertently bringing up painful or offensive topics.
Someone's dad died last week? You can bet I'll forget and start talking about Dads on accident. In fact, it happens so often that I almost think my subconscious does remember and that's how it ends up on my mind.
Generally stuff like that is held against someone when they didn't even know their dad died, or didn't realize that that particular person would overreact by being reminded of something that doesn't seem associated.
Basically, caring far more about someone's reaction than intent (or lack thereof) that accidentally upsetting someone is breaking a social norm.
Yep. I got in trouble for this exact thing, except I mentioned my father and it was their mother who had recently died. Oh, and I didn't know this person, like I didn't even know their name because I had literally just met them. How I was supposed to know their mom had recently died I have no idea. It ended my friendship with the person I did know after I was called all manner of unrepeatable things.
I wonder if your response is similar to why im always compelled to clap someone on the shoulder when they have a sunburn even when they didn't expressly tell me they do
In this scene, everyone is annoyed at Homer because he put on his weird music. “Don’t play your weird music“ is definitely one of those rules I keep defying
It's a "a lot of things" thing. Generally, the taboo around such behavior is just a symptom of a lack of empathy.
Just about any person could go into a panic while in a state of stress and do something irrational, and just about everyone does at least a few times. In a shared moment of stress, you might see more empathy because "any of us could have panicked/froze/etc.," but if it's just you, "something's wrong with that person."
You can achieve the same effect through different ways. Just because ADHD people happen to break those rules it doesn't mean they have to break them for the same reasons as autistic people for example.