Is it a choice between being fetishised and oppressing others, or is there something else a person can do to be bootlickable without being fetish and without oppressing people?
Sry I don't think I quite understand the question (my english is only mediocre). Uhm like don't single out goth women maybe? Like maybe a good sign would be something something don't lick the boots of the state, have fun with your foot fetish with your partner instead or something like that?