I personally always feel ignorant for not knowing some things that for some reason seem like common knowledge to others. Like why people know about locations in the area and speak to them as if I could look outside the windows and expect to see a sign. I can't. Idk how people manage to learn something like all the countries and capitals around the world. I barely know all the states in the USA.
god damnit maybe I should try and get diagnosed even as an adult
ouch too accurate
That doesn't really sound like ADHD to me, but rather low self-esteem. I am sure the ADHD could be contributing to the low self-esteem but it doesn't sound like the same thing.
It's internalized ableism related to being told their whole lives they're so smart and talented if only they weren't so lazy. We're extremely capable - sometimes. The rest of the time we struggle at the most basic of everyday tasks that normal people find trivial. Now combine that with late diagnosis. That's a lot of years being told you should be better and wondering why you're not. At the very least, it's an extremely specific kind of low self esteem.
It may not be solely caused by dopamine levels, but the experience is common among many ADHD sufferers and our brain chemistry does predispose us to responding to that in certain ways (which is why we can break out of that pattern more easily when medicated).
Wouldn't personally call it disabled, moreso disadvantaged mentally, setback. Unlike disabled people we're more than capable of doing most things, it's just a mental hurdle to do the same things as a NT with the same efficiency. Kind of like being left handed in a right handed world mentally but 10x worse, society doesn't seem to be able to cope or bear with people with ADHD very well.
While you're right that it's not an explicit ADHD thing, it is very much a symptom of it. How To ADHD made a video about motivation and points out some of the emotional aspects of it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OM0Xv0eVGtY which can cause the problematic low self-esteem and people-pleasing behaviour. But there has been a lot of connections with ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria which can further connect to the behaviours in the OP.
Another good Additude article was written from a question sent in, "How can I stop people-pleasing at work?".
In short: Everyones ADHD affects everyone differently but this definitely has strong connections to ADHD.
there has been a lot of connections with ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
Reading this phrase is like watching my life flash before my eyes. I’m struggling to think of issues I’ve had over the decades that I couldn’t relate back to that crap.
Wild to read about RSD and see myself in every single sentence.
C-c-c-comorbidities!
Nah, I have that that behavior and crazy high self-esteem. I'm genuinely convinced I can be the most competent person in any situation and I'm usually right.
Yeah this sounds like it could be CPTSD or part of a personality disorder, which you can often find in people with ADHD (myself an example woo).
Now I do.
I mean, I've always felt that way, but never able to put it into words.
And so many more ways.
And... Why not both? (:
The worst part is other people realize it before you do and then try to take advantage...
I never thought about that, but you're right. I was wondering why that kept happening.
Pretty much exactly, yes. Anything below perfection is utter failure
