What shitty stuff did you discovered when you became adult?

The majority of people are fucking morons

I thought that too until I met people who considered me an idiot. Now my view is a bit more nuanced.
- I'm fully aware that I'm an idiot, I just remember the famous George Carlin quote
It's even worse when you realize no one thinks they're a moron.
- How meta
That everyone is too fucking proud to admit they're flawed. At least I know I'm the fucking bad guy, I hate you.
Oh but not you, right? Always someone else.
- Nah man, I'm totally aware I'm a fucking moron

Wealth does not correspond with merit, that every country I've lived in will pretend they're a meritocracy, but won't be really.

Wealth makes people powerful, especially if they don't deserve it.

How many of the people I know have experienced sexual assault. And with that, that so few people are willing to do anything about it. See also the missing stair.

I'd not heard the missing stair and it's so true! Every workplace has one IME

Adult doesn’t necessarily mean smart, mature, or emotionally healthy.

Adults secretly hate children, and it really wasn't always like that.

I’ve worked in a few hospitals, and honestly, I wouldn’t want to be taken care of in any of the places I’ve worked. I’ve seen enough to know that. It’s funny—every nurse and doctor I meet says the same thing about the hospitals they’re in. It’s like a weird, unspoken truth in healthcare: we all agree it’s not ideal. So, in the end, maybe it’s better not to be in a hospital at all if you can help it.

It goes deeper than that though. The more I think about life in general, the more I realize it’s all a bit of a show. We’re all just putting on a facade. You see people who are supposed to be experts—whether it’s contractors, doctors, or even people you look up to personally—and then you see what they actually do behind the scenes. It’s basic, at best. I mean, I had "experts" drywalling for me recently, and what they did was laughable. These people were getting paid for this!

Same with my dad. Growing up, I thought he was this master of all trades—could do anything from building stuff in the yard to fixing things around the house. Now? I look at some of the things he’s done and realize it’s all just... okay. Not bad, but not perfect. And I think he knew that too, but we both kind of lived under the illusion that he was this all-knowing guy who could do everything.

It’s not that he’s bad at it, but perfection is something you rarely find unless you do it yourself. And if you’re like me, maybe you can’t even do it yourself. So, no matter what you do, you’re always left with something that’s just good enough.

I’ve seen million-dollar homes—didn’t buy one cause I’m not rich—but even those fancy places have problems behind the walls. No matter how much money they throw at things, it doesn’t make the work any better. The people doing the job don’t care as much as they should, because they know they’re getting paid no matter what. And the inspectors? They don’t care either. They’re just looking to check boxes, not actually do a good job.

It’s frustrating because this isn’t just about contractors or hospitals. It’s everything—in every job, in every aspect of life. People just don’t care. Even the so-called "experts" are often just figuring it out as they go, doing the bare minimum to get by. And honestly, I’m no different. I’m just getting by too, month after month, like most adults pretending they know what they’re doing.

It’s like, once you realize this, everything feels a little less magical. Perfection is out of reach. People aren’t who you think they are. And if you want something done right, you either need to do it yourself or accept that it’s never going to be perfect.

There’s a lot of truth in your observations. As a physician who has worked at multiple hospitals over the years I would love to share my own perspective on what you’ve said about healthcare.

Basically it’s mostly true with a few notable exceptions. Many of the hospitals I’ve worked at did not leave me feeling warm and fuzzy and I would not want to be a patient there.

There are exceptions however. The most notable would be pediatric hospitals. Every pediatric hospital I’ve worked at has left me feeling in awe of the level of care that is consistently provided. As far as my respect of other specialties goes, it’s hard for anyone to top pediatrics. The people who choose to become pediatric healthcare providers are just on another level. They are usually highly intelligent, compassionate, and patient. Things you would hope for from all physicians but the pediatric folks almost always deliver.

I also want to say that I do not have those negative feelings about the university hospital system where I did my residency training. Nowhere is perfect and I saw mistakes made but the overall level of care I saw in my years there was very much on par with what I hoped to see when I went into medicine.

But since then I’ve worked at multiple private practice and religious hospitals and yeah…. There’s a lot of room for improvement in a few of those places.
Very well said and agreed completely. Work health care in retirement homes. Before that was kitchen in similar places.

The shit I saw cooking literallly broke any food pickiness I had. You can do A LOT to food and still serve it.

You mentioning construction, the amount of shit we've found in a new construction multi million dollar property.... Like things left in the wall and pipes. It's the same everywhere.

While I totally agree with the magic deflated feeling, it is also liberating (albeit terrifying) to realize we are all faking it til we make it.

That the rich have seemingly control'd and have destroyed our lives for thousands of years.

That a lot of people are just insufferable assholes and you either join them or stay generally friendly so you don’t harm the non assholes, which in turn might be exploited by the assholes.

They won't dim my light.

Fuck em.
- A beautiful answer. I admire you for that.
That insufferable assholes will single out and torment anyone who takes a third option.
- You didn't chose a third option. You're not even an asshole by my book, really.
  
  You're just a child going wild on the internet. But soon or later shit will hit the fan and mom will take away that Nintendo Switch. Be a good boy and stop this behavior.

People don't like to hear others out. Especially if something contradicts their predetermined world view. Even something as basic as "hey what we're doing might not be working, but I have some ideas on how to improve this system."

People are unfixable and you all deserve to die.
- ~ Bob Hope

People who have been in a career for a long time often have no fucking clue what they're doing.

Also related, there is rarely a perfect way to accomplish something. People talk about being cogs in a wheel, but that's pretty insincere when each cog is shaped differently. The way one might approach a task will nearly always be different, and that is pretty liberating, for me.

The bad guys usually win.

The bad guys always win and suicide is the only rational option.

Bullying doesn't stop when you leave school. It happens in every workplace it just depends how badly

This one's from my uncle. No one cares about your birthday. Maybe your mom. That's it. No one actually cares. They will celebrate, they might even remember the date or set a reminder. They don't care.

i care about people's birthdays

People who know their shit are usually quiet and humble. People who don't know their shit act like they know their shit

The adults I looked up to as a kid weren't that good, and they were deeply flawed if not just shit humans

Let me add, the realisation itself is shitty, but the additional growth opportunity it offers (destroy and overcome your idols) is great

"If you want to do it right, you have to do it yourself." Except of course, you don't have the skills, time, patience, energy, or money for maybe all but one of two things. So most of what's broken is going to be propped up with whatever the fuck you can buy for the cheapest that will last til the next paycheck. Or stay broken. You'll get to it 'later'.

Every sermon that I gave adults regarding my feelings on the world were effectively bullshit. That humiliated and humbled me to the point that I threw away everything I thought I knew and just shut the fuck up and started to listen.