I had plans this weekend, I started my laundry then youtube put me in the woodworking rabbit hole. Then I got sad because I remembered that probably won't ever have the means to own a workshop and watch this shit is pointless. Then I started thinking about how I'm busting my ass at work just to tread water. Then i started drinking and watching cartoons. Laundry did not get finished.
Yeah thats what you say to youreelf at 5 am when the birds are chirping and the sun is coming out. "Its fine ill just sleep for a couple hours and get up, and then I'll get an early night tonight to make up for it".
ive got ocd and ADHD so I can't actually start the new hobby until the old one is finished. my current hobby is a homelab Thats running over 60 services that keep breaking. god save my soul
if it makes you feel any better I have not been able to have a new project in 4 years even though Ive got plenty of ideas. I actually tried working on a FOSS car stereo but I couldn't Focus because of my damn homelab telling me I need to finish it first.
I started on an old optiplex I got off eBay for $150, and it ran great for 4 years until I was dusting it out and accidentally snapped off a capacitor from the mobo. The only concerns Ive really had are hard drive failures and I keep a backup so its not too bad. most of my problems are user error and software. Have you used/are you using docker? it makes a lot of the mistakes hurt less because you can just delete the docker volume for the service and start fresh if u screw up.
The best part of having a homelab/home server is the reproducible dopamine hits. First you'll get some dopamine just getting the thing up and running, but then each service I decide to tackle and implement gives me a whole new hit of dopamine. Most services you can get up in a day or two of tinkering/learning even as a system noob like me. On top of that, if you don't manage to get it working, it's pretty easy to scrap the attempt and try something easier.
Then you also get dopamine hits whenever something breaks and you manage to fix it. 10/10 would recommend.
If you like being in control of your data, like tinkering with new/emerging tech or industry standard tech, want to break free from Google/Apple/Meta/etc, or if you want to have a hobby similar to working on your car without getting your hands dirty and physically destroying your body, homelabbing may be for you. You can really do whatever you want with it. Make an android app repo, create a DNS server, or NTP time sync server, you can host your own videos with PeerTube, have your own private email server, host a Mastodon or Lemmy instance, or a Bluesky personal data server, you can host your own local LLM or have a Google Photos-like AI photo library with Immich. You can use Frigate to get AI powered security cameras. Theoretically, you could even make your homelab your main PC and just carry around a lapdock for your phone to remote into it. Theres really no limit to what you can do other than your willingness to put in the time and effort, and deal with frustrating scenarios when they come up. I'd rate it 9/10 on the worth it scale, just wish some things could be more streamlined.
All of these are cheap or free with tools one probably already has. You can take decent pics with a phone, you already have pencils, paper, and pens, and programming can be learned for free online (assuming you have a laptop or PC to work with it on)
My last therapist said "ADHD is the smoke, the fire is usually trauma or autism."
Turns out I have both. Welp, middle-age is as good as any time to start reconciling that your entire life has been a constant struggle to keep a mask on and nearly every crisis I've dealt with might not have been a moral failing on my part but actually a dysfunction of some executive control from masking for so long and hiding my own PTSD.
Whichever you got going on in there, I highly recommend working on the basics. Get more sleep. Make better separation between work and leisure time. Eat better and hydrate better. Try to reduce caffeine and other self-medications. Stop drinking entirely. Get some daily exercise even if it's just a light walk, particularly after work/class, it really, really helps your brain create healthier separations between work/chores (survival) and rest (loafing and relaxing, playing games, watching media.)
The other thing I want to scream at everyone from the rooftops, no matter what your exact mental-health issue is, this is universal:
Your brain is not a reasonable, rational calculator of logic, it is a story-telling machine designed to tell you stories to explain what you're feeling in order to create some sense of cohesion with the world.
And that's it, that's all it does, all day long. The stories do not have to make sense, it doesn't have to be reasonable, and you will often think the stories are accurate because they come from your own mind, you will add to the stories, you will roll them over in your brain over and over, feeling worse and worse, hating others, hating yourself, despairing for no outside reason... it's like being enslaved to your own brain. Learn to identify when you start feeling strong feelings, and watch your brain very carefully, be aware of the way your brain will start ruminating as soon as you feel a negative feeling. If you can nip it right there, if you can break the rumination cycle, you will realize that your own brain is just sabotaging you from the inside and all the stories you tell yourself are fantasies or exaggerations of reality. It might not cure your mental health, but it will give you your days back, it will give you time and energy to fight it harder and more intelligently. You are not your brain. Your brain is not logical.
I don't just forget the to-do list. I remember it 3 days in, remember what's on it, and get so stressed about it I decide that I can just not look at it and it will probably be fine.