Opening Lemmy in the morning and seeing dozens of unread comments in your inbox makes you think: what the heck did I say yesterday?
Opening Lemmy in the morning and seeing dozens of unread comments in your inbox makes you think: what the heck did I say yesterday?
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Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
My only regrets are having to read stupid responses that completely missed the point of what I said because they want to argue with what they think I said.
Occasionally I learn something new from responses, which changes my perspective.
What a stupid comment, if you actually took the time to read and understood your replies then maybe you'd actually learn something from them, rather than just disregarding everyone who responds to you.
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I agree - A lot of people seem so prepared for someone to disagree with them that they seem to misfire on people they agree with. I try to avoid this by starting my comments with "I agree" 😊 ... though even then some people still get confused 🫠
What are you talking about? You're way off base, and completely unreasonable. It's so typical of you people that I have a generalized baseless belief of. What about this other person that has nothing to do with this? Do you agree with them, too? I bet you also hate soldiers defending our country, and probably kittens too.
the best is when the response is about the first or last sentence of what I wrote and their response is addressed in the rest of it.
Downvotes sometimes make me want to clarify what I wrote on the assumption that it got misinterpreted.
Has that ever worked for you?
I do it a lot and can't think of a single time it worked.
Occasionally. Other times it makes people angrier
Hell yeah
I've seen a number of comments with a visible edit that have an even split between down and up votes. I can only assume the edit worked. Not like votes mean anything on Lemmy. It's kinda nice not having the overall "karma" visible at all times.
Looking through some of my controversial comments, it seems like it worked maybe 1/3 - 1/2 of the time?
My thought was more "which of the things I wrote triggered such a reaction?" I'm often surprised.
I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I'm depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I'm letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
I'm probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I'd like.
So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I'm too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
I don’t want to deal with arguing especially since half the responses clearly only read the first sentence of my comment. I don’t have the energy for it. So I’m on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
If people like my contribution they can upvote, if they don’t like it they can downvote or argue back, but I don’t have the energy to give to that, so I probably won’t see it.
My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I'd done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
Absolutely, it is only human to make mistakes. Of course there are time where someone gives a stupid reply but there are also times where that is not the case. If it were the assumption would be that I am right about everything, which is asinine
I I do actually second thought what I said. As I can be as wrong as any. And if I'm wrong I'm ought to change my mind.