How do I explain to a person that the "red pill mentality" is stupid?

It’s a waste of time. These types of people are as thick as mince, you’re not gonna change their mind because they have zero interest or incentive to do so. It’s a fucking cult of morons.

You are not wrong, but you stop short. These types are also very weak emotionally. As Adam Kinzinger said, MAGAs are too terrified to leave the tribe. They believe the lies because their tribe tells them to.

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This is the sentence that I needed to read today. Thank you

It’s stupid because:

Women are not some single homogenous group. Every woman is a unique person, just like men are.
Everyone by default deserves to be treated with dignity and respect, including women.
Being an asshole doesn’t make you more likable.
Instead of trying to hack your way into a relationship, have you tried actually dating someone?

1000% this. You can break most of the red pill mentality if you can make the person understand that each woman is their own individual, and that the whole "us vs them" mentality will not get them very far.

I think you will also have a greater chance of changing their mentality if you manage to understand what drove them into the "red pill path" to begin with.
Women are not some single homogenous group. Every woman is a unique person, just like men are.

Actually I think you'll find that all women everywhere can be extrapolated from 5 shit takes on Twitter, one of which was a joke and one of which was a far-right LARPer /s

The first step to changing someone's mind is acknowledging that you probably won't be able to. The other commenters are right, the red pill is stupid, it's annoying to argue with them, and you'll probably fail the delicate act of ideological conversion. Still want to give it a shot? Great!

Depending on how deep down the rabbit hole they are, the answer is it could either be impossible or it's a long term dedicated effort. First you should learn a bit about cult deprogramming techniques, as while the red pill isn't really a cult it is an echo chamber ie. a mostly comprehensive view of the world that has built in answers that insulate from external dissent. The red pill tends to provide community, some degree of lifestyle improvement, and a feeling of secret insights into society / the world, and it's very rare an individual will give those things up for the sake of something as abstract as logical consistency.

You need to slowly provide alternatives to whatever positives the red pill provides, which while annoying is possible because the red pill sucks. The online sense of community is tenuous at best, so be their friend and connect them to other friends that'll entirely replace that aspect. Additionally, the lifestyle improvement aspect is rather generic and can come from anywhere. Ask them what specific red pill people they follow and provide a gym / motivation YouTuber that better provides whatever motivation the red pill gives.

The final element is the feeling of insight into the world that the red pill gives. This one is ironically the least important to changing someone's mind and the most difficult, as in order to successfully provide alternatives you likely need to understand the red pill ideology better than they do. Nothing a red pill person says should stump you, you should have heard it beforehand and researched it and thought of better counter arguments. If they mention hypergamy, you should have annecdotal, theoretical, and statistical answers ready to go. You should know their ideology well so you can make annoying jokes about how ridiculous it is when applied to real life.

If you do these things, over enough time and done diplomatically enough so they don't leave you for a friend that doesn't annoy them, you can probably depeogram a red pill person.

I've heard it said (by a sociologist) that unwinding conspiratorial thinking requires approaching someone with compassion. Rather than tell them that they are wrong, ask them to explain why they think a particular thing.

Honestly, I don't have the patience or compassion to try to do this. I gave up trying to talk my mother out of her Fox News beliefs and instituted a "no politics" rule in our relationship in order to save it. Best move that was available for me.
- Asking questions and not sounding like it's a gotcha moment seems to be effective in many fields. Heard it being effective regarding smoking as well.
- Yeah it's 90% compassion and 10% argumentation. Seeing things from their perspective, seeing the aspects they like and not immediately placing those aspects into the good and bad buckets, but instead truly appreciating how those aspects work for them. Of course, then you need to figure out how to advance your position over theirs, but that exhaustingly starts in compassion.
Oh fuck. That's like at least a level 8 difficulty out of 10.
- Yeah it's incredibly difficult, that's why the majority of people never change their ideology past their early 20s when they first flirt with several. Add in the fact that you'll likely be socially ostracized from your old community if you ever do change your mind and the evolutionary pressure to be accepted over being logical, and it's quite frankly impressive anyone ever does.
I know this was posted eons ago but this needs to be said. The most HONEST way to deal with Red Pill rhetoric is to verbally Aikido them.

First, admit the truth - SOME women are exactly like the nightmares they conjure up. I mean, Miriam Nakamoto DID dump her boyfriend specifically BECAUSE he failed to look masculine enough while he was losing a MMA match. There are women like that in the world. Evidence you bring up isn't going to negate that, and it is fear of these women that DRIVES Red Pill. When you say that's not a thing, you're giving them false information. You're gaslighting at that point, and they're going to see that and retreat back to their extremist ideology.

So the SECOND part is, go with what you know and we all know: women ain't all like that. But there's also the missing link here: Red Pill people are that way because they failed to properly pick the women they date, so they just keep running into these bad women. The problem you must address is that they're all about dating the best looking women rather than the nicest women, and they are the CLASSIC example of men who fall for "crazy hot" women. Sound familiar? Yeah because it's the counterpart for they say women fall for Chads/jerks. So the answer to the real problems that Red Pill brings up is not their sociopathic Dark Triad tactics, it's properly vetting your partners - looking for moral character and actual compatibility rather than just the best looking women. They need to be specifically told that if a man can't be attracted to a woman who's not 18-19 years old, big breasts and hourglass figure (the female counterpart to 6 feet, 6 figures and 6 inches) then that man needs to rethink his life rather than turn to the Redpill.

This is the whole answer that they need.

One of the Wachowskis mocking it.

That's great but not going to convince anyone who's already in too deep.
- But it's the right amount of energy to spend on someone who's in too deep. Zero.

Life is too short to argue with idiots. Ignore them let them wallow in their stupidity.

Unfortunately, they're allowed to vote.

You don't. See the first (introduction) video from the Alt-Right Playbook. Basically, there is a real risk that even if you "win" the argument, the red-pill derp just gets angry and takes it out on a convenient female target. The energy is better spent finding ways to counter red-pill ideology that don't involve engaging directly with these people.

Look into 'Street Epistemology': https://streetepistemology.com/

It's not an easy thing to employ in the moment. A lot of 'red pill' types actually try to employ this method, unfortunately for them they do it very clumsily and are often visibly just JAQing off ("Just asking questions, bro"). But, when this technique is used to genuinely understand and break down someone's position (instead of a cult conversion / 'argument winner' tool), it's quite effective.

you just described all the conversations i had with my ex. blah blah blah "you know i think desantis has some good points"

"NO HE DOES NOT DONT SAY THAT" cue argument about what hes actually doing and that one policy that only kind of makes sense doesnt make desantis anything anyone should be listening to

no its about the kids not trans erasure. MAYBE FOR YOU ITS ABOUT KIDS OR SMTH but for the majority of the conservatives its about trans erasure WHICH IS NOT A GOOD THING.

don't even get me started on fucking covid vaccines. "this study says.. myocarditis, autism, mrna blah blah" "which study" "they exist theres data" "ok i believe you show me these studies" "well i cant find the studies now i feel stupid gets upset but doesnt think shes wrong still"

once she brought me a "study" and the results said "THE DATA IS INCONCLUSIVE AND FURTHERS PROVES THE BENEFITS OUTWEIGHT THE NEGATIVES" and im like i dont know what to tell you this wasnt the study you think it is.

i don't get how people can just be wrong and proven wrong over and over but still think theyre right. her parents shove right wing propaganda down her throat sadly.

I think it's as simple as:

Reasoning will never make a Man correct an ill Opinion, which by Reasoning he never acquired -Jonathan Swift
Just A Friend - Biz Markie

...
The way that I met her was on tour at a concert
She had long hair and a short miniskirt
I just got onstage drippin', pourin' with sweat
I was walkin' through the crowd and gues who I met
I whispered in her ear, "Come to the picture booth
So I can ask you some questions to see if you are a hundred proof"
I asked her her name, she said blah-blah-blah
I took a couple of flicks and she was enthused
I said, "How do you like the show?"
She said, "I was very amused"
...

I'm starting to think that the correct way to address these types of things is with a simple, possibly even loving, "that's the dumbest thing I've heard".

A lot of poorly reasoned opinions and ideas come from socially validated sources, they parrot the opinions of people they identify with. Showing that you won't agree to get along, might work as a counter both to their spewing the shit as well as maybe letting them question why they hold that belief.

Might also make them stop coming to you with these types of opinions, which may or may not be what you want.

You don't. That person is lost.

I’m afraid to ask… what is “red pill mentality”?

In The Matrix (1999) the protaganist takes a red pill, discovers he's been living in a simulation, and what the world is the really like.

'Red pill' has been co-opted by various far right movements to mean someone finally sees the 'truth'.

Most commonly it's used by incels and misogynists. Think Andrew Tate and various pickup artist influencers.
- Good grief, that's a bit of a stretch.
"I'm the best, I'm gonna be the best at everything, fuck feminists, worship millionaires because they are rich" That sort of stuff. The funny thing is that 90% of people who think like that don't even know what the word feminist actually means...
- Also, the Matrix is a trans allegory/metaphor, and the red pill is based on one of the hormone pills the Wachowskis likely used to transition.
- Somebody has recommended you street epistemology already. An important part of it is to talk using the same concepts.
  
  I say this because my understanding of the red pill comes from the documentary The Red Pill. It roughly means that you are aware of the issues men face in modern societies and care about them. That caring about men's rights does not mean that you hate women.
  
  And because of that I initially thought that trying to convince someone that "red pill mentality is stupid" was the stupid thing.

Ask them to define concepts instead of using catchwords

Ask them if they think their mom is also that way. If they say yes, then you know you can't change their mind, and drop the subject.

You can't reason someone out of a position that they didn't reason themselves into.

Fascists and other Frauds tell the Little Man that he is a loser; that he is being ripped off by the Bad People; that his whole class or gender or race are being taken advantage of by their inferiors. They play to the Little Man's anxieties, making him feel littler and more stepped-upon.

This is all a lead-in to telling the Little Man to sign up for the Big Lie.

There’s a quote variously attributed to a bunch of people that’s along the lines of “you can’t reason someone out of a corner they didn’t reason themselves into” — not to say your friends didn’t necessarily come by a faulty logic to get themselves there; rather that there’s some innate values that were interpellated by the rhetoric of the so-called redpill, and you’re unfortunately seeing an aspect of them that was always there but perhaps in different forms. It’s not worth your time to argue with them, and sadly, may not be worth your time to be in that environment either.

IMHO, it's not only stupid but completely unnecessary as well.

You have to pull the reverse red pill card, to red pilled them out of being red pilled. It takes a next level pillmaster to achieve this and I’m not sure it’s ever even been done on record.

I dunno. I know a guy who has some impressive pills

You can argue with a pigeon, you can tell it you are right and it is wrong, you can use logical arguments and sound evidence, but you won't change its mind and at the end of the day you'll still end up with shit in your hair.

Ask them what they hope to win. You can sit there and make endless arguments to defend your view that half of humanity is awful. Until eventually everyone just gives up arguing. Now what? There is a next day. The victim mentality is not even self-serving. At most it lets you know how badly your life went, but far more often it skews your view of the events and gives you nothing to work with moving forward except a desire to hurt others.

Tell them they won and ask them what they want to do next.

Red pill mentality isn't stupid. If it was, you'd be able to come up with your own counterarguments rather than relying on asking random people on the web.

Now while the red pill mentality does make a lot of valid points, there are some extremists out there that take it too far and are simply woman-haters. And those people are stuck in their ways and not worth arguing with.

You don't need red pill to tell you to work on being confident and to be up front with your intentions with someone.
The thing is, I have a lot of valid counter-arguments, the problem is that every time I state one, the "red pills" have such a stupid comeback that I just can't say anything back... Like I've heard things with mind-blowing levels of idiocy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against self improvement, far from it. I just don't think that dropping all your hobbies, interests and personality to be "big muscle guy who defends Andrew Tates at all cost" is "self improvement".
Ok bro.
You don't need that to be a man. Masculinity is changing, and truly manly men accept and adapt to change; not cower from or reject it. You'll make it through, but if you want anyone to enjoy spending time with you, you gotta drop the act and find your true self, and realize that while improvements are always welcomed, that you are enough as you are.

I don't get it. The red pill from the matrix? I hear people use it as a truth pill, but how can that be an argument?

Even if you assumed a goal of reproductive success, it's idiotic to think there is a single best strategy that is unchanging. Humans evolved over tens of thousands of years, and they evolved to be adaptable. It's like trying to play a football game with the same play every time... People will catch on quickly.