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Autists (?) I need your help as a Normie for my autism GF.
  • How old is she? It can take a long time to learn to express emotions. I was terrible at it in my teens, still pretty bad at it in my 20s, and I finally feel like I am getting kinda okay at it in my mid-40s.

    Be patient. Let her know that it is okay if she cannot explain an emotion today.

    Consider the two of you keeping a diary of times that she was and was not able to express feelings. Maybe in the future at other times she can go through it and say "I feel like I felt when we wrote this entry", or "I think this word/expression/description describes how I felt then", or "I think this fictional character we are watching/reading is supposed to feel how I felt at this time". Maybe it will help her learn how to explain some emotions, or least help you identify in retrospect.

  • How to use a domain I own to self-host services?
    1. Consider getting a VPS to play around with to learn how this stuff works before you expose your data to the internet.
    2. Learn about how DNS works. You will create an A record (and possibly also an AAAA recordy) for your domain pointing to your home IP (or VPS).
    3. If SquareSpace does not let you set records (and will only allow you to use Squarespace-hosted services) you will need to migrate your domain to another provider. I like gandi.net.
    4. Learn how your router does port forwarding. You will forward port(s) for the calendar service from your router to your home PC. (Or learn how to do firewalls on your VPS.)
    5. Before you actually connect to it with credentials over the internet, set up SSL/TLS certificates with LetsEncrypt.
  • What institutions do americans trust the most?
  • Who are these people who do not have confidence in the criminal justice system but do have confidence in the police?

    Oh yeah, fascists.

  • xkcd #3114: Building a Fire
  • As per usual, Randall keeps going after the punchline was already delivered, ruining the comic. It would be better if there was no text in the final panel.

  • friendships are hard
  • Are there are parts of the group that you are still comfortable with? If so, can you hang out with just those ones?

  • Keeping track of different targets in terminal
  • I use tmux or screen, and set the status bar in different remotes to different colors.

  • Autistic Researcher Seeking Volunteers
  • Florida. Nope.

    Give the state's recent attempts to interfere in education, I would absolutely not recommend giving personal information to a Florida university.

  • Democratic establishment melts down over Mamdani's win in New York
  • This reminds me of the 2021 mayoral election in Buffalo, NY, where a progressive won the Democrat primary, but the conservatives (both Republicans and establishment Democrats) joined forces to back the establishment candidate in the general election.

  • How can we make sure Zionists are held accountable when their genocide is over?
  • Correct.

    Also the genocide of native Americans.

  • What gives you sensory overload?
  • Cluttered rooms.

    I did not understand this about myself until after I married a person who is not comfortable until every surface is covered with stuff and every bit of wall perimeter is lined with piles of stuff.

  • Beginner looking for speaker recommendations to finish my setup
  • I would try to find a shop where you can listen to the speakers. I think the KEF and the Klipsch sound noticeably different. Some people prefer one, some prefer the other.

  • 2025 Spanish Grand Prix - [QUALIFYING] discussion thread โฑ๏ธ
  • I kinda want to see them put Max in the RB for a race and see if he is faster in it.

  • My 4yo brother is in the mood to answer questions
  • What is your favorite thing about your brother sibling?

  • Chicago Sun-Times prints summer reading list full of fake books
  • Several people should be fired for this.

  • Gasly damaged front wing and floor hitting rabbit in first practice ยท 2025 Imola
  • Fear not, for all buns, upon death, are reincarnated as buns; their blessed souls eternal.

    (Humans lack souls and face only the void.)

    Edit: you may be interested in https://lemmy.sdf.org/c/bun_alert_system

  • Github keeps shoving copilot everywhere.
  • I made (and keep updating) a UserStyle to hide copilot junk: https://gitlab.com/eksb/usercsscripts/-/blob/main/hide-copilot.user.css. PRs welcome.

  • It is science
  • Breakfast is a special occasion though.

  • A Discord romance story
  • Is the problem that she uses Gnome, or that she uses dark mode?

  • draw rectangle on screen to map drawing tablet area

    I wrote a script and bound it to a key combo so I can draw a rectangle on the screen and map my drawing tablet to that area.

    Future improvement: force the mapped area to the same aspect ratio as the tablet. I hope I can find a better way to programmatically get the ratio than running xinput list-devices and parsing out "Size: 160x100mm".

    Bound via bindsym $mod+Shift+t exec ~/.config/sway/tablet-map. Is there a better way to reference the way config directory?

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