beerclue @ beerclue @lemmy.world

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You might be right. I am not a native EN speaker, so that might play a role too.

My wife has severe ADHD. All our kids too (diagnosed and medicated). One of them is AuDHD, with a "harder" autism gradient (?) compared to me... She does have severe social interaction problems.

For me it's been strange - I have CPTSD, growing up autistic in a household that would "pray the gay away"... not easy. I moved out as soon as I could. But I've lived all my life by heavily masking. I learned how to behave from TV shows and observing others. Social interactions have always been a "show" for me. Only after I got diagnosed it started to make sense...

Ok, it's a developmental disability, but it's also on a large spectrum. I only got diagnosed in my 40s. I lived my life as "the weird one", but even after I got diagnosed, I still don't consider myself "disabled"...

Just acknowledge it, without being weird about it. It's not a disability. I joke about my ASD, and make fun of my ADHD wife (and the other way around).

Ask if they need anything, and don't be high context, be direct. I don't know your brother's situation, but I personally struggle reading between the lines. I take things literally.

Is this notheonion?

I got it working and modded the hell out of Skyrim and Fallout 4 with Steam Tinker Launch.

You can use DNS01 for services not accessible from the outside. I use a caddy reverse proxy, with a wildcard cert for *.mydomain.com. caddy handles that for me automagically. Needed? Maybe not, but it's a whole lot prettier, and I learned new things about certs and caddy :)

Oh, of course, I listen to 1.5-2x speed, depending on the narrator.

Have you tried mixing audiobooks with their ebook/paper variant? My neurospicy brain can only process a book if do both at the same time :)

She was about 12 (she is 16 now).

I would say it's worth knowing. My daughter has been diagnosed, and this helped her a lot with her anxiety. Knowing that's not something wrong with her (she used to ask me when she was really young), but it's just that her brain is wired differently. Depending where you live, this might also help with school. My daughter gets a bit of extra time on written tests, and she does not have to present in front of the entire class (which was horrifying), but in small groups or just with the teacher.

they farted with splashes/droplets

(kinda, hard to translate, the original is "s-a bășit cu stropi")

I've been consuming English media for many years. My computer and phone have used English since the 90s. I got used to it, so today, even if I could switch my phone to my native language, I don't, it sounds strange.

These days I consume most media in English (US, UK, AU) - movies, tv shows, YouTube, websites, books (paper, audiobooks). I have no trouble understanding content, but I do keep subtitles on out of habit, and that helps when there's a stronger accent.

I've been using English at work exclusively for more than 10 years, and where I live now, I hang out with an international crowd. We speak English to each other, even though it's not anyone's first language most of the time.

I take notes and journal in English, even privately. I sometimes even think in English.

I still have an accent and I'm missing some vocabulary and the occasional grammatical rule, but I consider myself fluent in English.

No, not yet. He's still in school, he did decide on an education/career path (no longer robotics, turns out math, physics, and programming are hard), so he'll be around for a few more years, at least until he's done with his FOS (we're in Germany).

We decided that as long as the kids are in school, they can stay with us. And with rent prices these days...

Cradle of Filth! I used to have some shorts with their logo :))

My first child was born that year. 🥲

I had to look it up myself: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K-hole

If you open a terminal, cd <location> and run ls -la, what do you get? Who's the owner and what are the permissions of the subdirectories?

Are there any errors in the Jellyfin interface? Have you checked the logs?

777 permissions are a bit overkill, I think 755 should be enough, since you don't need to "execute" mkv files.

reminds me of this scene from after life.

I started (and partially gave up) music, drawing, woodworking. I stuck to computers, and I am working as a devops engineer. I also read, as much as I can. I guess what I'm trying to say is try things out. You're young. You'll find your passion eventually :)

I used pihole for years, but the recent updates made me look for alternatives. There was a major (v6?) update fuckup, but also some random freezes and block lists going missing...

Looking for alternatives, I tried out Technitium. Extremely easy to set up, rock solid, running steady for about 6 months (with frequent updates), and they recently introduced built in high-availability.