I understand what you're saying. I've been thinking of alternative timelines and all of the good ones involve being rich. I would do anything to live in a big fancy mansion with my boyfriend in somewhere warm and have so much money I could just go to any shop I want and buy whatever without thinking of the price. Every way you look at it being rich is ideal. This is why I would love to be a 1970s rockstar. Steady and huge flow of income, adoring fans, fame, endless opportunities, sexy groupies and all the drugs and alcohol you could want but I am stuck in my stupid, miserable life.
I already know I have NPD and I'm not risking my friends and family finding out about my diagnosis. You've seen the rest of this thread haven't you? NPD is so stigmatized that it would ruin my social life if it came out. All I have is my social life
What do you mean by "aware of"? That's quite the accusation your pushing. You must have some great evidence of my treatment of other people to make such a statement
You have not provided any evidence in this post that any of the people mentioned have NPD just that there people you dislike so therefore they must have NPD. Just because someone was rude to you or wronged you in some way doesn't mean they have NPD. I have been wronged by a lot of people but I don't go around saying they have a mental health issue.
"Oof… This is a tough one. First, I’ll point out that this post is EXACTLY what I’d expect from a narcissist. Woe is me, zero accountability."
accountability for what? Being born? Should I have known as a fetus that I would have a personality disorder one day? What did you expect me to do? Refuse to be born.
"Assuming you’ve actually been diagnosed by a psychiatric Dr, they didn’t diagnosed you with NPD on a whim. You were diagnosed with NPD after you did something, or more likely after a lot of times doing harmful things, and finally taking some initiative to figure out what’s wrong with you."
How do you know? You think your some expert because you watch some psych2Go and pop psychology slop? I know how I treat people and I have never received any complaints from anyone I know about how I treat them and no one else convinced me to seek therapy.
"NPD is a very tragic illness. One of the worst parts imo is that, almost always, one of the symptoms is the person not being able to truly recognize their own disorder. This can be dangerous, and also infuriating. A person’s entire life can fall apart around them, and they are incapable of doing the self reflection necessary to understand why, let alone do the work to fix the problem."
While I agree with most of what you said I do disagree with the "not being able to truly recognize their own disorder." part. For me it's not that I can't recognize theres something wrong with me it's that it hurts to think there's something wrong with me. Maybe it's true for most other narcissist but not for me. A another big problem is that personality disorders are not like diseases. They can't be cured and you live with them for the rest of your life. I really wish I could get rib of my NPD and be like everyone else but I'm suck with this burden.
"People will spend years trying to “save” a loved one, to get that person to recognize that it’s THEM who is the problem and needs to do the work, just to get to the exact same spot a decade later because that person CAN NOT recognize it."
Again, how do you know? There are plenty of people who live normal lives with NPD. Believe it or not the real world isn't some Amazon bookstore romance novel where the big bad narc will kill and eat you. NPD is a disorder like any other so it may put you in a disadvantage but it doesn't define you. I understand there's something fundamentally wrong with me and I need help. My narcissism is a awful thing I live with but I won't let it define me.
"However, unlike the paraplegic person, a person with NPD causes harm to everyone around them, and the only thing a healthy person can do is cut toxic people from their lives. It’s not the person with NPDs fault (one of the other great tragedies is that it is almost always a result of shit parents) that they are toxic, but they are toxic none the less, and unable to stop it. I’m sorry you ended up this way, I truly hope you can let yourself be treated."
For someone who's accusing me of being manipulative you sure are doing a lot of gaslighting. You're probably never read a psychology book in your life and the only experience you have is pop psychology videos on YouTube and horror movies but I suppose it's not the choice of a stupid person. They just can't help themselves but however a stupid person is a stupid person and all you can do is disregard everything they say. I truly hope you can let yourself be treated.
Kinda like how "schizophrenia" is used to describe anyone who's a bit weird or how "autistic" is used to describe someone with a interest in something.
As a American I only see this with other Americans. You never see Swedish people doing this, you never see Polish people doing this and you never see South Africans doing this.
I remember when ancestry kits became popular and everyone was walking around telling people about how they "1% Finnish, 3% native American and 25% Italian" etc... etc... even Elizabeth Warren had her blood tested to prove she was native American. I think she was like 2% native American or something.
I just love the look of old postcards