Rachelhazideas @ Rachelhazideas @lemmy.world

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The idea that trans people only need trans rights in gender affirming care, legal recognition, non-discrimination in workplaces and housing rentals etc, but not basic human needs like food, housing, general healthcare too is how many liberals have been shirking themselves of social responsibilities by dressing themselves in identity politics.

'I support trans rights but I draw the line at universal access to food, housing, healthcare, and education' is a denial of basic needs to trans people too. Trans people should be part of the challenges to society because they deserve access to basic human needs just as much as everyone else.

This privileged CEO thinks what she does is 'work' when she never as to work a day in customer service.

I'm afraid AI written books are being published and put into library shelves too.

It's not always for a paycheck. Sometimes indoctrination can run so deep that money isn't even needed. Sometimes living in fear of an autocratic regime is plenty motivating. Sometimes, the promises of better living conditions is enough to draw people to the military.

What if instead of treating people at an arbitrary age as 'adults' as if their age and maturity grants them freedom that absolves everyone else's concern for their wellbeing, we treat everyone like people who are deserving of basic necessities and help, no matter their age and circumstances?

According to the CDC, 1 in 5 women are mistreated during maternity care in the US. 1 in 3 if you're Black or Hispanic. 45% of pregnant women are held back from asking questions or sharing concerns.

Birthing mothers are frequently deprived of self-agency. When a woman gives birth, everyone starts assuming they know what's best for her without ever asking for her opinion or consent.

If you know about the husband stitch, or how women are made give birth while reclined for the doctor's convenience, or how frequently women's complaints of abnormal pain are dismissed, or how often women are yelled at while in labour, or they are threatened and withheld treatment, or how little their privacy is respected, you would know why women are turning to home births.

This isn't an issue of women being silly and brainwashed on social media. Women are being actively failed by a medical system that refuses to treat them like people and not just walking uteruses.

Everyone like to talk about how stupid women are dying in childbirth to preventable causes, and yet no one wants to talk about how suicide due to post-partum depression is a leading cause of death in the perinatal period.

So before you belittle women for choosing a home birth, ask them what kind of shit they have been through at a hospital that they would rather risk death than go back there again.

Everyone pees. But it's not normal if you have to pee 20 times a day.

This is what I tell every person who believes that people are pathologizing normal behavior into autism. If it doesn't significantly impact your life, if it's only one or two traits, then it's not autism.

I had meltdown episodes as a child when anyone attempted to dress me in anything that had a seam that could be felt, edges of Velcro, clothing tags, untucked shirts and the sensory nightmares of cold buttons on my pants, dresses without shorts under, etc.

As an adult, I still can't wear normal bras, clothing that isn't soft, most jeans which have stiff seams on the waist, and so many materials that itch the hell out of me.

To this day, I have had friends treat me like a brainwashed social media nut for even suggesting that I may have autism. All while I'm going to the movie theater with non-polarized shades and ear plugs.

This is only true until you get to live with people who 'cleans' pans and put them back with a thick layer of sludge on it and refuses to do a better job cleaning it.

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Yes. I'm tired of people treating modern beauty pageants like a bimbo contest.

If you have ever watched any make up tutorial, seen what it takes to learn to walk like a model, learn to perform on a stage, how to be charming and likeable on camera, coordinate a wardrobe, selling your brand and identity, you'll know that pageantry isn't just about giving an arbitrary person an award for being born pretty, it's the outcome of an entire team of people making it happen.

Women are expected to wear makeup and dress well far more often than men are, with social consequences that can be felt in the workplace and public when they don't, and yet women's engagement in the beauty industry are dismissed as frivolous or attention seeking.

Gender expectations from a young socialize girls to uphold higher standards in beauty and fashion, and yet women are also made to internalize hate for something as 'silly' as pagentry. There's no winning from this.

Go by weight. If you have two bundles that have the same number of rolls, the heavier one either has more or thicker squares.

If you don't understand how it feels to need subtitles, try listening to a yanny/laurel video and see if you're able to hear both.

For us folks with auditory processing disorders, it's like the rest of the world hears yanny while we hear laurel. Without subtitles, we are simply incapable of parsing the sound as yanny.

Being able to vote doesn't make one immune to exploitation. That's as bizarre as saying that if you can do a backflip you're immune to drowning.

The reason why 18 year old are allowed to vote is because they are typically entering the work force or higher education, likely paying rent or taxes, and thus are engaging in a social contract in which they are entitled to exercise their right to vote.

This has nothing to do with the lack of dating experience most 18 year olds have that render them vulnerable to understanding what is and isn't a healthy relationship.

It's ironic that you would call me the Iranian morality police while threatening to block me for voicing an opinion that explicitly supports the legal exploitation of age gaps. Again, I never said it should be illegal, just heavily frowned upon.

I cum to the thought of being blocked because nothing says 'You're right and I'm out of bullshit to say' more than that.

You're confusing the law with personal judgment.

No where did I say that huge age gaps need to be illegal between consenting adult. I only made a value statement about how the relationship is inappropriate because younger adults are vulnerable to exploitation. At 18, most people do not have the financial means nor a strong support network to leave an abusive relationship or a manipulative partner.

It has nothing to do with LGBTQ people because being non-binary does not make one inherently vulnerable to exploitation by another non-binary person.

It's a kind sentiment, but one that hurts little for us chronically ill folks.

First off, fuck pedophiles.

But secondly, becoming 18 doesn't suddenly make one any less vulnerable to exploitation than a 17 year old who is 1 day away from becoming 18.

Just because someone is 18 and 'legal', it doesn't make it not gross for a 40 year old to date them. It's an improvement from dating a 15 year old, but gross regardless.

This is only true until you realize that a lot of modern science is built upon foundations of systemic discrimination that excluded women and minorities. Only new researching can prove old research wrong, and the lack of funding for catching up in inclusivity in science has led to the status quo of outdated beliefs permeating STEM but dressed in a lab coat of credibility.

Research on women's health and medicine lags behind men's by decades due to the historical exclusion of women in studies and the refusal to treat them as credible witnesses to their own bodies' symptoms. Magnitudes of more money has been poured into ED than endometriosis, an agonizing condition that gets dismissed as 'just a period' by doctors.

It's more like a bunch of paraplegic people asking you if they can borrow your wheelchair because doctors will not acknowledge their need for one and dismiss their symptoms as drug seeking behavior.

Speaking as a woman who only got diagnosed in my late 20s after years of needless suffering. Boys are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed than girls because our current ADHD assessments are based on studies from decades ago that were only done on boys. Girls are socialized differently as children and thus present different symptoms. Behavior that is excused in boys for having ADHD, like not being able to sit still or running around yelling a lot, is punished as 'un-girly behavior' and internalized as a failure to adhere to gender roles in girls, hence why girls are conditioned to mask better at a young age, at the expense of their own mental health the longer they continue to mask.

This is the other side of the coin from the social media backlash against women coming out with ADHD whilst the internet dismisses them for faking ADHD and being attention whores. Women are punished, not rewarded, for masking their ADHD. The more effort we put into masking, the more people assume we are neurotypical, and the more we are criticized for ADHD symptoms we are unable to mask because we are held to the same standards as neurotypicals.

The mapping of MBTI questions and results have no basis in science or modern psychology. The perceived accuracy of the results of the test is created through the Barnum effect. It's not any different from how a horoscope might say 'scorpios have intense emotions'.

It's not the the results are untrue, it is that the reader will always introspect on the qualities that they are told that they have, and find it true to some extent.

For example, I can tell you that you are a messy person, or I can tell you that you are organized person. In each instance, you would be able to find supporting evidence for both.

This is because the human mind is far more complex than the black and white definitions given by MBTI. If anything, horoscopes give you a much longer list of non-specific attributes to think about, which might lead to more introspection.

There's a contradiction here. If your MBTI type isn't 'fixed' and is based on how you decide to answer questions, then it implies that you can choose your own outcome and MBTI type, rendering it meaningless.

If your MBTI is fixed because it is based on how you answer questions so long as it is without the intent to alter its outcome, then it is not anymore deterministic than a horoscope.

At the end of the day, people see what they want to in themselves and discard the rest, whether it's reading a horoscope or MBTI profile.