7d ago

Help: I made a mistake!

Hi, so I am (18F). My boyfriend is obviously (17M). So, a few days ago, we exchanged messages, which looked like this:

Hey, So, I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but can you not text, call, or hang out much anymore (like only hang out at restaurants)? I just don't like it. Again, I am real sorry to hurt you, I just don't really like communicating via telephone or hanging out. I am very introverted. Thanks <3

He responded with: "Don't worry! You're not hurting my feelings!! I will definitely talk less on the phone if that's what you want and talk more in-person."

I said "That's perfect <3 OK"

And all he sent yesterday was "Hi!" and not much else and I told him I couldn't talk so he stopped messaging altogether except for "hi, have a great day" or even just "Hi".

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If you don't like him, don't enjoy interacting with him and don't wanna see him, dump him.
- She has also posted many times about playing video games instead of talking to him and not even thinking about him.
And what's the mistake? Seems he does what you asked him to do?!
- I miss talking to him but don't really wanna talk... Especially not via phone.
  
  So you're saying you have contradictory feelings? You want to talk? But you also don't want to talk?
  I mean that obviously won't work, these are opposites. So you can have only one of the options. But I think more often than not, the right course of action is to think hard about why you feel that way. And what you really want... And try to communicate that to your partner. I mean having feelings isn't a mistake. You can tell them I wasn't in the mood yesterday, but I'm now. Or I wish I were, but never actually like it... Or ask them how they feel and what they like... Just try not to confuse everyone.
  ...If it's just the phone, or you avoid talking about a certain subject, you'd obviously need to address that instead.
This feels like a breakup message but very beating-around-the-bush...
- Seriously. If I got this message I would assume she didn't want to be with me anymore. What I don't get is that she got exactly what she asked for, and is complaining about getting what she specifically requested.
My boyfriend, by the way, turns 18 in November and I turn 19 on the 30th.

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