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reminds me of one ex-colleague - we worked at an outsourcing firm. It's a place where you get a paycheck nothing more - the basic course of action is to do everything at half speed because your coke-loving managers will dump more shit to do otherwise. Then comes this lady - first big job opportunity and shit - she was hyperactive overachiever who stayed late and undermined literally anyone by pointing out that anything could be do better and FASTER. And the management fucking loved it. Then she got promoted way over her head and started blaming everyone else for lack of results that were built upon unrealistic expectations she established. Burned out a quarter into her promotion and quit.

I mean.
It sounds like everyone else actually was the problem.
- it would've been if it was regular tech product company. The aforementioned company used to do shit like Tinder for doctors and mental health chatbots that literally just use ELIZA but cost 100k. People who say modern AI startups are grifters ain't seen the real shit.
- Some companies actively disincentivize liking the company on a basic level. Outsourcing firms tend to heavily be that way.

I’m usually on the other end of this. One of my favorite responses is “You seem to have a problem for every solution. “

Maybe they don't want to. In some cultures it's expected that you realize them giving an excuse with an easy solution means they just don't feel like it. They're not too dumb to see the solutions themselves.
- That's why i don't social well. So many weird rules – changing sometimes with the village – and all of them implicit and expecting a "normal" person that can catch the slight hints because they aren't overwhelmed with doing the important bits right.
- I don't like to be required to 1)guess correctly that they're lying to me and 2)indulge them in the lie. Especially since it'd also be considered rude of me to get 1) wrong.
- Yeah, of course. Pretty sure this person knows this and is calling them out for being liars. Which, I'm all for. Just say "Nah, no thanks. Maybe next time." Or something along those lines. I would rather you tell me my plans sound boring than lie to my face.
- Yeah. The worst is when you're at work and need them to do things and they pull these dumb excuses to try to get out of doing their job.
- Yes, I am one of those who will always come with a solution, but at one point I realized the person I'm talking to simply doesn't want to but is too polite to say it to my face. So I stop proposing any after suggesting one or two. I wouldn't even be offended, it would make it a whole lot simpler if they just straight up say they don't want to. But social interactions usually don't follow the most efficient path, so we gotta learn to deal with it.