3d ago

How do you cope when you make classic neurodiverse mistakes?

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Suppress my emotions all day and then mentally beat the shit out of myself as I fall asleep. Also in the shower and while driving.
I beat myself up over it and then wonder why I despise myself. Then I continue to hate myself anyway.
Frozen in Existential crisis
I only count myself to neurodivergent since this year and am wondering: mistake by whose standard?
And what would be 'classic neurodiverse mistakes'?
- I may have a similar perspective?
  Let’s see.
  I am sick to god-damn death of having my exceptional abilities turned into illnesses!
  I have driven myself to the point of stress induced disability trying to learn how to convey meaning clearly. Like many ND, I can intuit large conceptual leaps, often correctly. But not always. So I learned to do my homework, fill in the gaps for others (and frankly myself, as I am not always correct and have learned to curb my enthusiasm when my disciplined research shows this).
  At this point, after a modest amount of that sort of effort, I am now inclined to tell people to do their own god-damn homework. If they aren’t gonna try, fuck em.
  
  I see you've already jumped to a possible result 👍. Exactly what I was aiming for, basically hard earned honest self respect and worth.
  But the basic question was also a factual one, I really don't know what is meant by typical neurodivergent mistakes.
Have vivid flashbacks of the encounter and beat myself up about it for about 3 days. Then move on after I've allowed myself to process it long enough. Sometimes experience the flashback again, but not as frequently.
Very poorly. I ruminate on them for literally decades and have frequent anxiety attacks. I'm working on it, though. I've begun studying & practicing Buddhism and have found it very helpful.
Usually hide myself from everyone
Remind myself that it’s not my fault, and I’m doing my best. I’m doing everything I can to accomodate myself, and that includes forgiving myself.
- yes. You have to give yourself some leeway
idk why, but I needed this right now. Thanks.
- You're welcome
It's rough when I don't end up doing the things that are expected to be done of me. Mainly in regards to work. But, yeah, trying to remind yourself that you literally have disabilities and it's not your fault, does help a bit

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