2mo ago

Considering an open relationship? Don’t read this Reddit forum

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So 2 things:
People in successful, happy relationships have a tendency not to go on the internet to discuss them. Additionally /r/openmarriageregret is obviously only going to be about disasters. It's like going to a monster truck rally and crying about the destruction of cars
Hot take: capitalism is diametrically opposed to non-nuclear family lifestyles. Not that they are impossible, but that capitalism creates enough confounding factors that will make it very difficult
- How does the prioritization of investment over labor make a non-nuclear family lifestyle difficult?
  Nuclear-family bias in law and custom is a real thing all on its own. I'm not sure what capitalism has to do with it, but I'd be fascinated to hear you expound on that if you feel like rambling.
  
  I disagree that capitalism is about the investment over labor. I view capitalism as a justification for growth at every expense. For much of history the most efficient way to grow was conquest. While that is still partially the case, now we've moved towards cannibalism capitalism in my opinion. Now capitalist seek their short term growth by stealing from future profits instead of stealing from other people (by and large)
  Which is all to say capitalism will push people towards the minimum they can subsist on, while the capitalist suck up everything else. A three+ adult household is less efficient (from a cold logic perspective. I fundamentally disagree with that logic), so capitalist countries will enact the laws and customs that favor the fewest number of adults not participating in the workforce
  In summary: I think we disagree about who the chicken is and who the egg is. I think capitalism is the chicken to societal norm's egg
- Agreed with one nitpicky caveat:
  I talk about my relationship all the time on the internet. In closed forums.
  Like, my trans librarian discord server knows I have a good relationship with my partner and I'm happy with my partner's partner. So does my private 'friends' discord server--that server includes my partner and metamore.
  
  Sure, I think it was clear by your nitpicky word that I meant the open internet. Obviously you can use the internet to talk to friends/family/therapists about your relationships. I just don't think you're going to go to /r/relationships and say "me, my boyfriend, and our girlfriend all genuinely love each other and have super fun kinky threeways every week" or if you do you're going to get downvoted for bragging/lying
The way these people discuss these real scenarios
Like fuck. Reddit was robots farming karma when I left, and that was before LLMs really took off.
Considering relationship advice? Don't read Reddit. Fixed.
The Guardian run out of news to report?
- Pretty wild considering all of the fucking news that just won't stop
That sub is surprisingly toxic, even for Reddit. I skimmed a few comments sections and the smug/schadenfreude levels are off the charts. It's people curating stories of people's anguish so they can mock them and act superior. How sick.
discuss these real scenarios
People are entirely too gullible.
If there is no barrier to posting fiction pretending to be factual, then large numbers of people will do it just for shits and giggles. Add dopamine inducing upvotes to the mix, and you've added an extra incentive on top of that for people to produce compelling fiction.
The only prudent default position is to take every single firsthand account you encounter online with a grain of salt. In truth, this should be done irl as well. "The fish was thiiiiis big!" was a meme before internet memes existed, for good reason. Firsthand accounts are naturally highly, highly problematic, with numerous subtle incentives to lie and exaggerate, and that's before we add anonymity to the mix.
A reporter should know better.
- Reddit? Left?
- Trump supporter?

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